The essence of being a cuckold is that the hubby doesn't any longer have full control over the wife's sexual desire. Although there's some hubbies in here who wouldn't agree with this. I got a request from a white husband days back insisting how he wanted me to seduce his wife, stuff I should say and do and stuff I ought not do ... it was like giving me a list of how to wash his clothes at the laundry shop. What I wanted to really tell him was: 'Look here, you want all this for your wife ... it's all about your wife having her fun, not you.' How many wives/hubbies in here entertain the idea of letting the wife have their fun and relinquishing control over to her and her lover?