Perhaps someone can use this idea...Hubby and I have kept track of all my ..ummm..."activities" with my fuck-buddy by putting large colored marbles in a fancy jar. (Fuck-buddy is Caucasian). We have color coded marbles for different things....white for when I swallowed, blue for DP etc. This fancy jar sits on the mantle looking like an innocent modern house decoration. Only hubby and I know the significance of it. We both get a charge out of it when some houseguest comments on the "decoration!" I hope to someday add some black marbles.