I couldn't agree more. My wife has yet to go black again (earlier in life she had a black lover) but as part of our fantasy I've always told her when we find her a black lover I want her to kiss him and suck on his tongue while her super tight little pussy gets stretched all out of shape.
I've told her many times I want to be down beside her watching as she sucks him and I want her to stop every once in a while to kiss me. I've also told her I want her to let him cum in her mouth if he wants to, something she gets excited about. After she swallows some or most of it I want to kiss her and whisper in her ear about how good of a job she did.
Then I want her to get her lover hard again and while her pussy continues to suck and milk his cock, I want her to suck on his tongue until he unloads my treat deep inside.
I just want her to cum as much as possible while they're at it or while she's setting that well fuck pussy on my tongue afterwards. It's all about her enjoying it to the max, and kissing I believe will be a big part of it for all involved.