Is my Girlfriend Obsessed with BBC?

You should just tell her you’d get off on her doing it IMO. What’s the worst that could happen? She says no? Clearly she’s ok discussing the topic. The sooner you make it clear to her that it’s A-fucking-ok with you, actually encouraged, the sooner she can migrate to the mind set of yeah, I can do this and he’s not going to bail. It even took my wife a few months to stop pretending it didn’t make her pussy wetter than any other sex fantasy on earth. Women have to save face. Until they are 100% certain you are on board, they will make small advances. Just like you, they are worried about freaking their partner out.
 
OneAboutLife said:
I wouldn’t put that much stock into that statement, my wife said the same thing multiple times while watching porn together the first dozen or so times. “ I’d run from that and wouldn’t know what to do” was the most frequent one or “I’m not attracted to black guys so the porn is just background for the mood”. All along and for years up until we met she exclusively was with just that.
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This⬆️ It took me about 7 or 8 years of marriage to figure out that when my wife is making definitive, no room for misinterpretation statements like “I’m not attracted to black guys”, deep down inside, she feels the exact opposite. She’s hiding her true desires. Now that I’ve cracked her code, I don’t think she likes it but I sure do. Women are a mind fuck.
 
So, update: She threw me a curveball. Once again, we got onto the topic of discussing penis size and she mentioned how size doesn't make a difference. So I finally said, "How would you know unless you've tried it?"
And she admitted to me that her ex (who's white) had about a big 8 inch penis, and that he never made her cum. And that since I make her cum, that's why she says size doesn't matter.

So maybe she does really mean it when she says size doesn't matter to her, and she's basing it on her own experience??
 
Kayleebeegeez said:
So, update: She threw me a curveball. Once again, we got onto the topic of discussing penis size and she mentioned how size doesn't make a difference. So I finally said, "How would you know unless you've tried it?"
And she admitted to me that her ex (who's white) had about a big 8 inch penis, and that he never made her cum. And that since I make her cum, that's why she says size doesn't matter.

So maybe she does really mean it when she says size doesn't matter to her, and she's basing it on her own experience??
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She seems very curious and probably wants to experience a bbc with a big cock that can make her cum. She is not so subtly telling you what she wants but if hesitant to make the decision for herself. If you flip it and tell her that you want her to experience a bbc and that it’s your fantasy, how do you think she would react? I suspect she would want to try it because she is not longer hesitant because you are now driving the fantasy.
 
Kayleebeegeez said:
So, update: She threw me a curveball. Once again, we got onto the topic of discussing penis size and she mentioned how size doesn't make a difference. So I finally said, "How would you know unless you've tried it?"
And she admitted to me that her ex (who's white) had about a big 8 inch penis, and that he never made her cum. And that since I make her cum, that's why she says size doesn't matter.

So maybe she does really mean it when she says size doesn't matter to her, and she's basing it on her own experience??
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...And she specifically said her ex had a big penis "For a white guy". She always throws something like that in there.
 
Kayleebeegeez said:
So, update: She threw me a curveball. Once again, we got onto the topic of discussing penis size and she mentioned how size doesn't make a difference. So I finally said, "How would you know unless you've tried it?"
And she admitted to me that her ex (who's white) had about a big 8 inch penis, and that he never made her cum. And that since I make her cum, that's why she says size doesn't matter.

So maybe she does really mean it when she says size doesn't matter to her, and she's basing it on her own experience??
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This is childs play my man. “Oh it’s just too big… I couldn’t handle it.” My wife would feed me that stuff, then I reminded her that two normal sized babies came that route and she survived. “Were either of our ******* the width of a large penis?” She got the point.

She keeps bringing up big black cock so it’s on her mind. I think she’s trying to throw you off the scent. When she brings up her ex again and how she never came, just say something like, “Well I’m pretty sure there are many well hung black guys who could make you cum multiple times per session. It’s not just the size but how they use it.” Find some videos of women losing their mind on a BBC and then whisper in her ear, “he sure seems to know what the fuck he is doing. You don’t think that guy could make you cum? Get real.”
 
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I agree with those that say she is testing your "cuckability". No way she'd bring it up so much if she didn't want to truly try it. And I've learned when a woman says "I'd never do that it is too big" she damn well will. My ex-wife told me that one of her co-workers was a male chauvinist who thinks he is God's gift to women. Damn if she wasn't fucking him within two weeks. IMO you should just tell her you would enjoy seeing her with a big black cock and see what her reaction is instead of her waiting for your reaction on everything
 
She's clearly ready to try "one of the sexy ones."

She probably wants your permission, but i'm not sure she wants you present. But she's teasing and reassuring you.

She sounds sincerely maybe not so hung up on size (her ex had a huge penis but it didnt work so well).

But her friends are applying A LOT of peer pressure (probably even more than she lets on). There may have already been some indiscretions, like maybe in a nightclub? Maybe not full cheating, but I wont be surprised if she's been grinding on some Black boys.

It actually sounds like she's still into you, and maybe doesnt want to mix things up to the point of you playing the cuckold in front of her. Can you be cool with letting her have a little fun on the side and hearing about it afterwards? Or her confessing any slips she's already made?

As a sidenote, are any of her coworkers lez? You say her fave porn star does lesbian and BBC stuff. All this her friends sending her porn sounds very much like they are excited about encouraging her naughty side, even beyond what an average snowbunny might do to encourage a friend to try a Black guy.

Watch some ir porn together, have candid but playful convos. Let her set the pace and do what SHE thinks would be exciting for her.
 
A bit small said:
She seems very curious and probably wants to experience a bbc with a big cock that can make her cum. She is not so subtly telling you what she wants but if hesitant to make the decision for herself. If you flip it and tell her that you want her to experience a bbc and that it’s your fantasy, how do you think she would react? I suspect she would want to try it because she is not longer hesitant because you are now driving the fantasy.
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Good advice. The part about you driving the fantasy is key. She can’t scare you with your own fantasy.
 
what a fuck up
Kayleebeegeez said:
It seems like my girlfriend has a BBC fetish and is too shy/uncomfortable to admit it.

Me and my girlfriend (37 F) have been dating for about 5 years now. We're monogamous, have a good sex life, and haven't really ventured out at all. I'm white/male of average length/girth. The two most adventurous things she has done sexually is have a threesome with her ex-husband and another girl. And she visited a swingers club with her ex-husband but didn't partake. She said she "just watched" and that it was kind of a shock to her.

Ever since I've known her, she says thing that make me wonder if she secretly has an attraction/curiosity for BBC. Here's a list:

-When we first started dating, she randomly told me a story about her guy-friend, aka Jim. It went something like this. "My friend Jim keeps texting me weird questions about black guys. I think he has an obsession with their dicks or something. I guess he saw his girlfriend fucking two black guys and he said their dicks were huge.... like REALLY huge. Way bigger than a white guy's dick. But he liked it and now its all he ever thinks about. He texts me to ask me if I've tried BBC yet, and I'm like 'No!' He just goes on and on about black dicks and I think he wants to set me up with one or something--of course I would NEVER do that because I don't get it. But I think that's what he does. He films black guys with big dicks fucking white girls and sells the videos. He arranges everything." To which I just said, "Oh wow that's wild." (I had only know her a few months at this time).

-Her friends at work are all white girls dating black guys and they're always telling her to try BBC. They tell her it's bigger, better, all that stuff. And I recently found out that one of her work-friends frequently texts her BBC GIFs. My girlfriend says her friend sends her the GIFs b/c she "...likes to see my shocked reaction to the GIFs." and that she "...Doesn't think they're hot--more funny than anything."

-Her tastes in porn are unknown to me. I just know that she watches it sometimes.

-She makes lots of BBC jokes. Here's a few examples:
Joke #1: She said "I have a dildo." I said "Oh, do you?" and she said "Yeah. A big black one." (She said that, and then kind of watch my confused laugh before she said she was kidding. It's just a regular vibrator...)

Joke #2: One time i got some sexy underwear that had a separate pocket for my penis. I showed them to her and she said, "Do they make them with different size pouches? Like an extra large one for black guys?" She then elaborated on the fact that many black guys wouldn't be able to fit their dick in such a pocket...

Joke #3: I was playing a PC RPG game, building my character, and there just so happened to me an option to pick a big dick or a small dick for my character. I told my girlfriend this and she said, "Does it have to be a white dick? I think that since it's a big dick it should have to be black."

Joke #4: We'll get done having sex and she'll say something like "See, this is why I tell Jim I don't need a black guy."

I asked her recently why she's so obsessed with making BBC jokes. She said she liked to see my reaction to the jokes, and that she thought that I thought they were funny (they kind of are but they make me more curious than anything). So I told her that if she makes the jokes all the time, she must be thinking about it a lot. I said, "Do you watch BBC porn?" and she said. "I mean... I've seen the videos with black guys when I'm scrolling but that's not usually what I choose to watch." So I asked her why it was always (apparently) on her mind. She said, "Probably because my friends at work are always talking to me about it and trying to get me to go black. They're always trying to convert me." She then showed me the text messages they send her with the BBC GIFs. She also got a little embarrassed and said "You must think im some kind of freak." But that was never my intention, and i apologized and assured her that I was only curious and would never judge her for such things.

-Her friend from work texted her a photo of a VERY well-endowed mixed guy one time. At one point, my gf showed it to me (for like the third time) and said, "I don't think I would let anyone stick that thing in me. It's too big." Later on, when we were watching T.V., I saw her staring at the big dick pic again. I thought, "Clearly, she's fascinated with it." She just kept looking at it from time to time.

-She follows a female pornstar on Twitter that makes either lesbian videos, or interracial BBC videos. She says that's her favorite pornstar.

-On a few occasions, the topic of her friend Jim has come back up. He might send her a text one afternoon and she'll tell me about it like, "Oh! Jim sent me another text this afternoon... asking me if I've tried big black cock yet. And I'm like 'No and I'm not planning on it'. He says the sex with black men is soooo much better and I'd love it. I think Jim must wish he was a black guy with a big dick."

-One time I saw pics on her phone of a ripped, oiled-up black guy that she had recently viewed.

-One time we were talking about big dicks in porn. I said there are lots of white guys with big dicks in porn too. Her response was, "Yeah but they're not as big as black guys dicks. Black dicks can get huuuuuge."

-One time she made a very odd comment in which she asked me what my reaction would be if a "big dicked black guy" and her got sexually involved. I don't remember exactly how it went because we were both *******. But she quickly laughed and said she was just kidding. I think she assumed she had taken one of her jokes too far at that point.

-She says Black men seem "more sexual" but that she's "only attracted to the really hot ones."

-She says she has never been with a black man simply because she's never dated one.

-She'll often say that size doesn't matter, and that she's more about "the emotion" during sex

I guess the next step is just tell her I watch interracial porn sometimes. I've not been completely honest with her about ALL of the types of porn I like to watch. So, I guess it starts there. It's just interesting to me that she brings up the topic of BBC as often as she does, and it makes me wonder what's really going on with her whole fascination with BBC.

If anyone would like to share their opinions or similar experiences, I'd like to hear them! It's a very curious situation to me.
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