Intro: A brief history of Jess

[NCBeachBum]

I'll keep this brief. No one wants to read a book, I'm sure. No one really reads anymore.

I am 42, divorced since 2019. I started dating black guys in HS. My ex-husband is white. We got together when I was 20 after I escaped a very toxic and abusive relationship with my former bf from HS. I cheated during the marriage. He didn't know until near the end. He knew when we got together that most of my history had been with black guys, but I never sensed he could handle it. It was the early 2000s, and I didn't know the lifestyle was a thing.

Post-divorce, I've been single. I see I have a few guys in my local social circle. No one guy is exclusive. I don't think the Ds 24/7 thing is healthy for anyone.

I'm here to discuss things you can't discuss in polite company. I am part of a local lifestyle social scene. It's more common than people think. Most women cheat. Most men can't really handle the reality. Most men should keep it to porn.

I'm not here to meet men. Any man with authentic swagger and game need not find women online. They need smiles and eye contact. Women who know about this know this is true.

I don't consent to your unsolicited dick pics; I've seen plenty in person. I'm sure yours is very important to you.

 

[adu1tswim]

Maybe your husband could have handled it, though? Did you ever try to gauge his interest? Guys also keep cuck interests buried too.

 

[Withme]

I'll keep this brief. No one wants to read a book, I'm sure. No one really reads anymore.

I am 42, divorced since 2019. I started dating black guys in HS. My ex-husband is white. We got together when I was 20 after I escaped a very toxic and abusive relationship with my former bf from HS. I cheated during the marriage. He didn't know until near the end. He knew when we got together that most of my history had been with black guys, but I never sensed he could handle it. It was the early 2000s, and I didn't know the lifestyle was a thing.

Post-divorce, I've been single. I see I have a few guys in my local social circle. No one guy is exclusive. I don't think the Ds 24/7 thing is healthy for anyone.

I'm here to discuss things you can't discuss in polite company. I am part of a local lifestyle social scene. It's more common than people think. Most women cheat. Most men can't really handle the reality. Most men should keep it to porn.

I'm not here to meet men. Any man with authentic swagger and game need not find women online. They need smiles and eye contact. Women who know about this know this is true.

I don't consent to your unsolicited dick pics; I've seen plenty in person. I'm sure yours is very important to you.

 

[Withme]

I'm sleeping with my friends married ******* we got caught because she wasn't careful with her phone,he read a nasty message from me now its harder to cheat but there is always video chat.

 

[kay3]

How u guys get caught

 

[Withme]

How u guys get caught

He got a hold of her phone.

 

[NCBeachBum]

Maybe your husband could have handled it, though? Did you ever try to gauge his interest? Guys also keep cuck interests buried too.

I felt him out on it. He would ask about my past a bit and always get quiet and not ask more. It was pretty clear it wasn't something he was like into. I think he had a lot of insecurity about my history and it was a fear for him. I know in some guys that fear grows into obsession but it really never did with him.

When it all came out, I told him he was hurt and defeated, not angry or turned on. The marriage never recovered from that, and we divorced within 2 years of him knowing. We did try to make it work in an open situation, but it was clear he wasn't able to really be the best version of himself knowing, and he didn't do well dating on his own.

 

[theblackgod18]

I'll keep this brief. No one wants to read a book, I'm sure. No one really reads anymore.

I am 42, divorced since 2019. I started dating black guys in HS. My ex-husband is white. We got together when I was 20 after I escaped a very toxic and abusive relationship with my former bf from HS. I cheated during the marriage. He didn't know until near the end. He knew when we got together that most of my history had been with black guys, but I never sensed he could handle it. It was the early 2000s, and I didn't know the lifestyle was a thing.

Post-divorce, I've been single. I see I have a few guys in my local social circle. No one guy is exclusive. I don't think the Ds 24/7 thing is healthy for anyone.

I'm here to discuss things you can't discuss in polite company. I am part of a local lifestyle social scene. It's more common than people think. Most women cheat. Most men can't really handle the reality. Most men should keep it to porn.

I'm not here to meet men. Any man with authentic swagger and game need not find women online. They need smiles and eye contact. Women who know about this know this is true.

I don't consent to your unsolicited dick pics; I've seen plenty in person. I'm sure yours is very important to you.

Hi im a black male and i got a really exciting idea for u

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

I felt him out on it. He would ask about my past a bit and always get quiet and not ask more. It was pretty clear it wasn't something he was like into. I think he had a lot of insecurity about my history and it was a fear for him. I know in some guys that fear grows into obsession but it really never did with him.

When it all came out, I told him he was hurt and defeated, not angry or turned on. The marriage never recovered from that, and we divorced within 2 years of him knowing. We did try to make it work in an open situation, but it was clear he wasn't able to really be the best version of himself knowing, and he didn't do well dating on his own.

Maybe i am wrong here but it seems like you were imposing on him the "open situation" rather than it was deliberately chosen by both of you?

And now after your divorce what is your outlook? Do you rather enjoy your single-and-playing life? Are you open to a relationship with the right man? TY

Anyway have fun and enjoy life!

 

[Here4You32]

I actually want a book about this now lmao