I'm Ok with that.
OneAboutLife
Male
Great thread. Respectfully I take a little difference of opinion. You love your other half, completely normal. If you weren’t excitedly apprehensive you wouldn’t be human, that is if you do care about her which you obviously do.
And as for the never wanting you again I respectfully disagree also. Unbeknownst to me until recently my wife started exclusively dating (really just having sex) with black men for about 3 years. I’m talking shock when seeing giant hoop earrings and braided hair in pictures she had filed away. Married me though.
And as for the role playing and what you describe it’s already there IMO and she wants it. Big step so you are completely right for airing concerns. We role played for years and it wasn’t until about a month ago she acted on it, albeit with a previous hook up. Every time after, unfortunately he’s not ok with me being present yet and I get it, she fucks me silly and we have passionate sex in the following days. Had my first experience of being involved and watching last weekend with a different guy. The best sexual experience I’ve ever had by far. Before I knew it I was eating the cum out of her before he did what I can’t which is charge back up and go at it more. He fucked her for another hour to the point she couldn’t have sex with me after. The days following we had great sexual every day. Dont be fooled by the never coming back talk, that’s all taboo stuff.
And as for the never wanting you again I respectfully disagree also. Unbeknownst to me until recently my wife started exclusively dating (really just having sex) with black men for about 3 years. I’m talking shock when seeing giant hoop earrings and braided hair in pictures she had filed away. Married me though.
And as for the role playing and what you describe it’s already there IMO and she wants it. Big step so you are completely right for airing concerns. We role played for years and it wasn’t until about a month ago she acted on it, albeit with a previous hook up. Every time after, unfortunately he’s not ok with me being present yet and I get it, she fucks me silly and we have passionate sex in the following days. Had my first experience of being involved and watching last weekend with a different guy. The best sexual experience I’ve ever had by far. Before I knew it I was eating the cum out of her before he did what I can’t which is charge back up and go at it more. He fucked her for another hour to the point she couldn’t have sex with me after. The days following we had great sexual every day. Dont be fooled by the never coming back talk, that’s all taboo stuff.
OneAboutLife
Male
Should clarify the best but no sex after. We 69’d and was smothered by the cum that ran out of her ass. Actually turned me on after peeking down and watching her use two fingers to stroke me after taking such a big dick. Just prepare yourself to be blacked if you follow through!
sub4blackkings
Male
Stop bitching and thank her for it.
It's too late, there's only one option. That is to follow through. You wanted it badly, that was your intention. Intentions is what creates reality. You have the reality you wanted. She will leave at some point if you don't follow through with this. You need to regain your desire for this quickly.
I love all your replies. Damn it is so good to look forward that one day have her hooked on bbc to the point we both go out with a plan to find one together for her to bring home so she can enjoy him fully and for as long as she wants.
OneAboutLife
Male
Ultimately if you want to have a traditional marriage or relationship it’s probably not the right decision. If you are into the alternative stuff than it is. My wife skipped my twin niece’s birthday party today to “get things done”. Caveat to that is we go on family vacation tomorrow for a week. Getting things done for her today was her 8th straight day with her primary stud. If gone 7 hours is the wrong decision than yes it’s wrong for you.
Hell yes. The intimate kissing and slow love making is the hottest. Been doing the endless search for the perfect "real" encounter. Somehow slip it infront of my wife one night then make it a routine when she lets me fuck her.
Had a thought of putting her personal email on a site/list where she would emails of this lifestyle and/or videos then wait to see if she tells me about it and see if she takes more on an interest when we watch porn while we have sex. Hope that can help trigger her interest. Your opinions?????
OneAboutLife
Male
Tyler. I was going to respond to this earlier but wanted to give it some thought. Like anything else in life I think you can get a range of advice. I’m not saying mine is right, but I know I can give you a side to look at things. Let’s face it, there are legitimate responses on here but some are outlandish. I will give you a perspective of someone who went from zero interest and has evolved into an active participant because of his partner’s needs and wants.
The easy part of your post that you and I have common ground on is the passionate kissing. I wasn’t sure how I’d feel about it. It’s really different when you think you are willing to have someone have sex with your wife but somehow the kissing is more personal. My wife has had a subscription to the blacked website and has told me the kissing in the scenes is one of her deciding factors in why she prefers that material. My first experience of watching her sold me on it. At one point while changing positions they were making out with being as sloppy and filled with moans as I could imagine. All while he shifted her hips a bit, stuck it while in front of her, and wrapped his hands around her neck. The kissing combined with those other things is the foremost image in my mind when I think about our time.
As far an approach to introducing your other half. I can give you a different perspective since my wife did the same thing to me. My wife got everything rolling by “accidentally” ordering a black dildo. Then it was she wanted to watch porn together and she’d select cast that neither of us were very attracted to so we could prioritize each other but have something in the background to heat things up. Keeping those things in mind does your other half have dildos? If so order her a black one. Do you guys watch porn? If so watch one that’s IR. Heck even come up with an excuse like my wife did, she fooled me for a long long time. Within weeks she was feeling more open to ordering black dildos and I snooped in her browsing history which included, and I don’t remember the studio, but pretty violent BDSM IR stuff. Without even realizing it, and she admits it now, she was in a way introducing it to me hoping I’d take to it. After a couple months of watching exclusively IR with her at her request and demand she caught me in the middle of the night jerking off while watching an IR gangbang movie. Understand that I had watched a fair, not a lot, but a fair amount of porn up to meeting her. Not once had I selected IR porn, it just wasn’t my thing. I’m not saying she will but ultimately you may introduce something to her that both of you enjoy.
I wish good luck to you and hope you guys find whatever things in common. Ultimately coming out whether subtle or not to let her know your interests is important.
Great reply and i really appreciate it. Knowing my wife if sat dwn and explained to her my feelings of this lifestyle i know exactly how she would respond snd how it would go...not nice. By "accidentally" putting it out there in front of her could really intrigue her to how i would notice changes in her good or bad. We have started watching porn together before/during sex which is hot. We will lay there and jyst play with eachother while we watch and i flip thru the channels looking for something she responds to. As i hit the ir channels i pause a little longer each time. I cant jyst keep it on ir as i flip thru afraid she may verbally object so i rush thru the vanilla ones to the ir. When we start having sex ill roll over grab the remote and put it on ir which def helps getting me hard hoping she eventually catches on. Next time im going to try to situate her so she faces the tv as she rides my dick. Cant wait to tell you how it goes. She loves sucking my dick and riding on top. Great wife great sex.
Hell yes. Lol
Give her a few hours alone with someone she likes, then she doesn't have to perform for you and it feels organic to her. That's special.
You're a lucky man. Enjoy that wonderful woman you've got because she has spectacular taste in sex!
OneAboutLife
Male
Porn is the start, I can tell you from experience. That’s how my wife got me. No way either of us would have thought we’d be where we are. She’s mentioned it several times that she can’t believe I have gone along with it for her, and let’s be honest, it is primarily for her. Above all I’m happy for her.
And how do you feel about that? Have you gone out with a bull? We are stuck in the fantasy of it but she says she just likes to turn me on with talking about it most of the time but sometimes she wants to go for it...
Exactly, yes it would b a thrill for me but the thrill is because she gets tobexperience something i can never give her. And to be the one to give/allow her to enjoy such exctasy and see her body quiver is the thrill i will get. She deserves to be filled completely with no judgements from me.
There are so clips/videos of ir pirn but 99% are staged and look like actors, wife did mention one night "that looks so fake" i agree. I figured out how to screen play from my fon to the tv but need a video that depicts real couples and thier bull longer than 5 minutes. Something that i can okay for her in the background while we have sex
who's baby's in her belly now?
Well said, when we started about 5+ yrs. ago, I would have about 5 or 6 bbc for her to pick from over a weekend when we planned playing. She told me she wanted to fuck them all....I was like wow, I want that too.....well we never did, she would always get cold feet when I would have 2 line up. We went from playing 4times a yr to now maybe twice a yr. She still gets really wet and horney when we talk about it. I would just tell her your concerns and ride it out and enjoy the trip...
