I've been reading this thread an am curious as to how many of you would explain the difference between a hotwife couple and a cuckold couple. Sadly there are a lot of me who think that just because a man enjoys seeing his wife/gf with black men that he is by default a cuckold. Curious to hear your thoughts.
IMO the difference between a hotwife/wifesharer and a hotwife/cuckold couple as adult lifestyles lies both in the
roles taken by the participants and their attached
feelings.
A typical aspect for a
cuckolding couple would be some sort of
D/s play with either the wife/girlfriend or her "bull(s)"/lover(s) or both/all of them taking a dominant role over a submissive husband/boyfriend, at least to some extent, in many cases also including
humiliation and/or
degradation of the husband/boyfriend.
A
wifesharing couple, in contrast, can more suitably be described as a swinger couple with mostly or only the wife playing, or as a sexually half open relationship. Typically, there is no or only minor D/s play involved, and neither the wife/girlfriend nor their lover(s) aim to degrade the husband/boyfriend
nor does he feel humiliated.
In some cases there are only blurred lines between the two. For instance, when a husband/boyfriend feels humiliated or set back simply by the fact that another man gets intimate with his woman: In this case it may already be referred to as
cuckolding. But there are other cases too...
For instance, i would call it plain
wifesharing, when a long term swinger couple decides to change their sexually fully open relationship to a half open one with only the wife/gf actively playing. The husband/bf probably won`t feel humiliated at all as he is used to his wife playing with others like she has done many times before already.
Aspects of ethnic groups, "race", skin color or "interracial" sex need not necessarily be associated with cuckolding or wifesharing. Many wifesharing and cuckolding couples play outside the "IR" domain, while yet others choose it as the foundation of their adult lifestyle.
Personally, i would take the role of a
wifesharer, not a cuckold. i would like for my woman to play with others - men and women -
as she chooses and feels comfortable with, no matter age, size or skin color. But i`d
prefer for her male lover(s) to have good
stamina, a
big "tool" and
dark skin.
Also, i would
prefer taking part or
watching to her playing alone, and
LTRs to ONSs.
But in the end it`s all about a couple`s mutual
respect,
love,
trust,
support,
consent,
agreement,
loyalty and the well-earned rewarding
pleasure for all the involved!