How to explain my desire to be cuckolded to my wife?

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First off, my wife is well aware of my desire to have her cuckold me. She just can't wrap her head around it. She wonders how, if I'm supposed to love, honor, and cherish her, I could want her to fuck other men. I've given her my reasons for wanting her to do it, but I'm at a loss to explain it to her in a way that makes sense to her. Any advice is appreciated.
 
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Wife here. This was first brought up in our marriage in 2012. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. It’s a bit difficult to grasp, honestly. Would you say the issue you mentioned is her only hang up or is there more to it?

For me I think the true cuckold aspect is the hardest part. The tease, denial, humiliation. It’s difficult to do this to the man i love, even if i see it turns him on. I am steadily trying new things but at a slower pace, and I know this also frustrates him. It’s almost scary for me though, then scary that it’s also a turn on.

I wondered, and have asked, if he would prefer the stag/vixen type relationship or cuckold/cuckoldress.. he’s been reassuring that he’s interested in the latter but still, I’m pressing forward with caution.
 
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Thanks for the female perspective. While we have had "threesomes" before, its been a while. Been experimenting with the cuck thing (just the two of us, fantasy at the time mind you), but she has mentioned most of what you said in your second paragraph. Just wanting to see if this is something that we'd like, but still trying to get there to see if we do.
 
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This is the husband-
While everything about the cuck aspect is exciting to me, I haven't experienced it yet per say but I'm open to it. I'm definitely open to trying it with my gorgeous wife and I've expressed that to her as well. However I am doing my best to not push her into it before she's ready. Which had been a flaw of my own. We are both newbies to this and I don't want to be the factor that ruins it
 
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Ally’s Key said:
Wife here. This was first brought up in our marriage in 2012. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. It’s a bit difficult to grasp, honestly. Would you say the issue you mentioned is her only hang up or is there more to it?

For me I think the true cuckold aspect is the hardest part. The tease, denial, humiliation. It’s difficult to do this to the man i love, even if i see it turns him on. I am steadily trying new things but at a slower pace, and I know this also frustrates him. It’s almost scary for me though, then scary that it’s also a turn on.

I wondered, and have asked, if he would prefer the stag/vixen type relationship or cuckold/cuckoldress.. he’s been reassuring that he’s interested in the latter but still, I’m pressing forward with caution.
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I like reading about (and BEING) a couples 'first'. I just had this conversation with another B2W wife about the 'Fear Factor' - the nervous excitement of having her First Black Bull.

If you think of the majestic power of a Massive Bull - how it commands attention. Especially a 6'4" Black Man having his way You, Ally...yes, all kinds of stomach knots that a large male endowment could...untangle. :)
 
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Ally’s Key said:
Wife here. This was first brought up in our marriage in 2012. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. It’s a bit difficult to grasp, honestly. Would you say the issue you mentioned is her only hang up or is there more to it?

For me I think the true cuckold aspect is the hardest part. The tease, denial, humiliation. It’s difficult to do this to the man i love, even if i see it turns him on. I am steadily trying new things but at a slower pace, and I know this also frustrates him. It’s almost scary for me though, then scary that it’s also a turn on.

I wondered, and have asked, if he would prefer the stag/vixen type relationship or cuckold/cuckoldress.. he’s been reassuring that he’s interested in the latter but still, I’m pressing forward with caution.
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Thank you Ally, these true words what real wife express are very valuable for us cuckolds and for whole succes of this lifestyle, thank you for your words.
 
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bcab said:
First off, my wife is well aware of my desire to have her cuckold me. She just can't wrap her head around it. She wonders how, if I'm supposed to love, honor, and cherish her, I could want her to fuck other men. I've given her my reasons for wanting her to do it, but I'm at a loss to explain it to her in a way that makes sense to her. Any advice is appreciated.
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Tell her that you love her so much that you want her to receive the best sexual pleasure that she can get. It's no secret that black men are sexual dynamos and typically have bigger cocks. That isn't always the case but more often than not. Tell her that you want to be apart of that as well as how you won't be jealous or love her any less because of it. Buy her flowers and listen to her. Help her out around the house and do things to show her that you truly love her and that you'd do anything for her. Also, give it time. These things take time. I'm a work in progress and it's been almost 3 years since I confessed my desires.
 
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Blkdreams88 said:
Tell her that you love her so much that you want her to receive the best sexual pleasure that she can get. It's no secret that black men are sexual dynamos and typically have bigger cocks. That isn't always the case but more often than not. Tell her that you want to be apart of that as well as how you won't be jealous or love her any less because of it. Buy her flowers and listen to her. Help her out around the house and do things to show her that you truly love her and that you'd do anything for her. Also, give it time. These things take time. I'm a work in progress and it's been almost 3 years since I confessed my desires.
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what happened after you confess your wife your true feelings..
 
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husbandchris said:
what happened after you confess your wife your true feelings..
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It was a slow confession that started out as pillow talk. Eventually it grew and I started talking about her and BBC in more detail. Eventually after sex we just had a discussion about it. She thinks it's a little weird but she doesn't love me any less because of it. And honestly she cums really hard when I start talking about her getting multiple Bbcs so I know shebhas some love for the idea at least.
 
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bcab said:
First off, my wife is well aware of my desire to have her cuckold me. She just can't wrap her head around it. She wonders how, if I'm supposed to love, honor, and cherish her, I could want her to fuck other men. I've given her my reasons for wanting her to do it, but I'm at a loss to explain it to her in a way that makes sense to her. Any advice is appreciated.
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. First. Other Men. Vs. Black Men. Second. Years Married. Third. Age group. Given this website , there is a focus of wives having black sex partners but cuckholding began long ago so there is a difference between "other men" and "BBC" motivations. Couples married "many" years may be stuck in sexual doldrums. Some husbands and wives already cheat. Cuckholding involves the open discussion of sex with other partners. Many women perceive this as permission for husbands sex with other women and they are uncomfortable with that. Sexual Values differ between younger people and more "mature" couples today. Both may consider exploring sexually but for different reasons. Younger Couples are still in childbearing years and all that goes with raising children. Many mature couples are "empty nesters" and are looking for new experiences including travel and making new "friends"
 
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bcab said:
First off, my wife is well aware of my desire to have her cuckold me. She just can't wrap her head around it. She wonders how, if I'm supposed to love, honor, and cherish her, I could want her to fuck other men. I've given her my reasons for wanting her to do it, but I'm at a loss to explain it to her in a way that makes sense to her. Any advice is appreciated.
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I am following this thread closely as I’m in a similar situation. Only difference is I haven’t built up the courage to admit I really do want her/us to venture out and try cuckolding. I’ve only teased about it.. I couldn’t really get a feeling about her thoughts. Anyways.. Great question you asked.
 
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I know. There’s been many opportunities and like an idiot I let them pass me by and regret it later. She’s so into IR porn and I KNOW she wonders how a big black cock would feel in her.. She gets so wet and I love to lick her pussy while she’s watching. I’m thinking that might be the best time to ask..?
 
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