Some good advice here but most of it is irrelevant. If you are serious, the absolute
FIRST thing you
MUST do is become verified as a real person. If you won't do that, nothing else matters. You have posted a couple of pics to your profile, if they are really of you that means you are not afraid to take a couple of pics holding a verification sign. You don't have to show your face.
Here are the directions:
https://www.blacktowhite.net/threads/read-me-1st-how-to-become-verified-as-a-real-person.50490/
If you
WON'T do this, or, if there is a ridiculous excuse as to why you can't, it proves that you are fake.
There are plenty of potential cucks here. Many are pure fantasists and compulsive masturbators but some are sincere. You might like one or two of them enough to consider meeting. But no one should waste their time talking with you unless you are verified.
Don't be offended, but there are simply far too many fakes and frauds. LOT's of gay/bi or closeted gay white men here claiming to be women.
What you want isn't easy to find in the mainstream world. Difficult to bring up on a first date. A site like this might help you find what you are looking for but you have to put in the effort. That means becoming a verified real person.
Several posters have mentioned being honest upfront. That's true and great advice, start here where you can be honest anonymously.