Well, I'll use my own 17 year marriage as proof that a couple can include others in their sexual relationship and it not only survive, but flourish. However, we do follow some rules that I often see ignored in websites that discuss cuckolding. The most important one (the one that provides support to all the others) is the respect we have for each other, as a couple. My wife & I mutually see the two of us as a
partnership, and the fact that our partnership relies on the both of us to work. Because we have the responsibility of two children, we take special effort to make our partnership work, and is one of the reasons we've slacked off the swinging the past 6 or so years. We are both lucky that we both come from families with strong, moral fabrics, thus deceiving, cheating, and lying are considered critical breaches to our partnership.
I, personally, can't see a cuckold relationship working (longterm) in
most cases, and particularly when the husband is actually denied sex by his only sexual outlet, his wife. But, I also think that the word, cuckold, is terribly overused and missused to describe relationships of some other form. Cuckolding means "infidelity" & "cheating" ... and those are words that all of us would detest when used in other unrelated subjects. Yet, we have husbands encouraging/desiring their wives to take other men for sex partners, being subjected to cocklocks, being humiliated & denied a normal sex life, ****** into bisexuality, and even encouraging the risks of"breeding" and other vile crap. Sorry folks, but I can't buy into this, myself, as real
cuckolding. Real cuckolding means a total disrepect of a marriage agreement ... how can any partnership survive when one partner deceives and ignores the respect of the other partner? If the husband is in agreement that his wife can have other sexual partners, maybe a
wittol would be a better definition to use, but cuckolding is about lying, cheating, and deceiving ... none of us want those happening to us. That's just the way I see it ... Mac