That's what I did with my wife and she ended up bringing it up on her own it makes it more of a turn on too so you know she's been thinking about it
Hesitant girlfriend…
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It’s so hard to just sit and wait though isn’t it. Patience is needed on my side.
I saw a bbc gif saying “your wife thinks about bbc more than you know”
I hope it’s got some truth in that
Off for a run. She’s in bed sleeping now and we’ll be off to work shortly.
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I believe your on a great path already. I wouldn’t change anything. I would add, as one poster has already suggested, watching interracial porn together. She enjoys the gifs add the interracial movies so she can see those black dicks in action.
Patience is keyIt’s so hard to just sit and wait though isn’t it. Patience is needed on my side.
I saw a bbc gif saying “your wife thinks about bbc more than you know”
I hope it’s got some truth in that
Off for a run. She’s in bed sleeping now and we’ll be off to work shortly.
Yes, jus need to find a good porn video. I do like ‘Touch My Wife’ and ‘Blacked Raw’
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See, I find Blacked and Touch My Wife better. I don’t think the DFW Dark Knight videos are that desirable to get someone lusting over bbc.
Anyway, we were talking about red flags last night as we were watching a dating show, Married at First Sight. She said “You’ve got a red flag! A BBC fantasy, seeing me enjoy bigger than you” - we laughed and a couple minutes later I asked “Ohh is that a red flag is is then, the BBC fantasy?” And she said “Noo, I’m only joking”
Anyway, we were talking about red flags last night as we were watching a dating show, Married at First Sight. She said “You’ve got a red flag! A BBC fantasy, seeing me enjoy bigger than you” - we laughed and a couple minutes later I asked “Ohh is that a red flag is is then, the BBC fantasy?” And she said “Noo, I’m only joking”
I am saying that communication is the most important thing in any relationship. When something of this level of complexity and potential complication comes up, it is even more important.
However, she likes to bring it up on her own terms. She seems to be comfortable using humor to raise the issue. But she does bring it up on her own.
So what I am suggesting is that you propose a type of arrangement. Offer her the opportunity for all fantasies to be on the table to be discussed or explored in the bedroom. And if she is open to that, you promise not to push her with them outside of the bedroom.
The goal is to create a safe space. She will be more comfortable being open and exploring during that time because she will feel like that is the. That is set aside for it. And you know that you have the greenlight to be as open and kinky and forward as you want to be during that period.
But the good news is, the more comfortable. She is the more she tends to bring it up outside the bedroom anyway. So either your bedroom play will lead to more. Or her comfort level will increase and what she’s willing to talk about outside the bedroom will expand.
I say all that, but I honestly think she is open to a next step. With all of the comments that she has made, I feel like she is giving you all the signals. You just need to be smart in what you asked for next. When you are fucking her with the toys, have you asked her, if she wondered what that would feel like with someone who is really that big? Have you asked her outside of the bedroom if she has ever thought what it would be like to kiss a black guy? Have you ever just straight up told her how much it would turn you on to watch her fuck?
Which ever piece of advice you may take, I think she will follow you if you don’t go overboard. You can’t go from super boyfriend to creepy texter, even if she is more open to the Gifs. You want her to understand that this isn’t just some off-the-wall fantasy of yours. If she sincerely believes that this is a fantasy that you were willing to go through with, as a partner, who loves you, she will be much more open to it. So approach this more intellectually as opposed to horny out of your mind lol.
Great explanation. I completely understand. Thanks for your help. I will keep you updated.
I remember with my ex gf, I would be cuddling with her, start kissing her and get her turned on and I’d say I seen a video or gif today that made me think of you…and I’d show her while fingering her. She would get so turned on. I knew she was into when one day I walked out to do something and peeked in to see her fingering herself looking at the gifs with the captions. This was a slow process though. I wouldn’t just send her random gifs throughout the day I would make sure she was already aroused. Before I knew it, she would send me gifs or Pictures. Then it was a bbc dildo, then ultimately we reached out to a black guy she used to work with who She knew was into her, and eventually bam…they were fucking and she loved it. It even got as far as she was considering having a baby with him in the distant future, no *******. Where I messed up, was I didn’t listen to her when she just wanted to have regular sex with me. Don’t make that mistake. If she says she’s not feeling the toys don’t push it. But if she is, make it worth her while. If you guys are dirty talking on the phone and the bbc toy comes up get her worked up on that. I would have the room candle lit and some sexy music playing when she would Get home and I’d use the toy on her. But then there were times she wanted just me and I’d keep pushing my fantasies. And that was my mistake and eventually we grew apart in part because of it. Don’t do that. When I say take baby steps, take BABY STEPS. I’m missing out on possibly amazing cuckolding pleasure because I pushed it just a bit too much. Good luck and continue to keep us updated
It does make sense. Thanks mate!
Update: Last night, we just chilled and didn’t have sex. I played it really cool. She brought it up as a joke twice, maybe three times. I didn’t send a gif yesterday either. Patience is key.
Tonight, I have proposed that we have pizza and red wine night. I’m going to also put a movie on for us… Creed 3 which hopefully gets her thinking about bbc and arouses her. This is because you see black men sweating from working out in it. Creed, the new boxing movie.
Wish me luck.
Tonight, I have proposed that we have pizza and red wine night. I’m going to also put a movie on for us… Creed 3 which hopefully gets her thinking about bbc and arouses her. This is because you see black men sweating from working out in it. Creed, the new boxing movie.
Wish me luck.
Hmmm
Time to have the talk, my friend. Use your words.
We are getting there
Last night then…
When I got home before she got home from work, I lit all the candles, had a shower, got the toys out and put the toys on show in the bedroom. She did not say anything. (which she usually would do - either causing some form of resistance or asking me to put them away, because she just wants me tonight) - great! Perfect.
Right. We ate our pizza’s, started the movie, Creed 3, with a bottle of red wine. She loved the movie. She did make a couple of big black dick comments. One before the movie even started and one during the movie. Very discrete humour - she knows what she is doing.
Anyway, after the movie finished. She took her dressing gown off to reveal her sex outfit which she never wears or does things like that…
We started kissing, (in the living room) she grabs my dick, she sucks my dick whilst I rub her clit. I said “let’s go upstairs” (because that’s where the toys are, I wanted her to see them whilst I play with her to get her mind on it without me saying anything) … she said “no, let’s stay down here, Mr boring, we always go to the bedroom” … Anyway, I didn’t want to push anything or mention the toys. So, she is now begging for me to be inside her. So, I thought I’d tease some more, licking her out. She’s laying down on the sofa on her back, legs open wide. I slide one finger inside her whilst licking… two fingers… three fingers and sliding them in/out of her but only by like 1/2 cm thrusts and then I’d let them sit inside her… all whilst I’m licking her clit - she’s literally soaking. She is loving it and getting so wet. “How many fingers is that?” … I said “3 fingers” and she moaned as if it really turned her on. I kept it going and then I said “would you like another finger inside you to make it 4 fingers?” … without hesitation (unlike her) said “yes” (moaning) … slided another inside her and I found it easier to do this than ever before so her pussy must be loosening up from the bbc dildo plays we’ve been having. She was loving it, she was literally riding my face (gagging for it). I then got inbetween her legs because she is dying for me, easily slided inside her and started thrusting away. She was so horny, loving it! I still didn’t get carried away and did not mention anything of the toys or bbc. I just kept going, grunting, I then moved onto “I’m so deep inside you” “Deeper?” “Deeper?” and inbetween each bit of dirty talk, I get a “YEEEE”.
All of a sudden, out of nowhere, she demand’s … “Let’s go upstairs” … I think, that dirty talk got her going thinking about the bbc dildo. We went upstairs, she layed on the bed and I said “How do you want it?” … she said “Surprise me” with a smirk on her face. (Usually she says that she wants it on her side or some sort of position where I AM fucking her). I pulled her over to the edge of the bed. I get on my knees and start to lick her out. She lays back, closes her eyes and is loving it. I’m playing with her nipples, which she absolutely loves. I then throw the blanket over her face, because she loves being blindfolded (got one on the way from Lovehoney today) and this is a huge signal for the dildo’s. She had no complaints and let me carry on. She heard me grab the toys and felt me place them on the bed, she had no complaints (usually she would have said “I want you” or “no toys tonight” or she would make some sort of comment) … it was like she was gagging for it. I grabbed her clit stimulator, placed that on her clit, she took over. I grabbed the bbc dildo. Put it at the entrance of her pussy opening and she moaned hard. She even got rid of the clit stimulator and took the dildo in slowly and absolutely loved it more than ever. She wanted to cum straight away as she definitely loves the feeling. “Do you feel full?” “Do you like this big, thick dick?” “I bet it feels so long and thick” … she was saying “Yes” in between each bit of dirty talk and cummed straight away!
I then started to fuck her - still on the edge of the bed with her legs wide open. She was loving it, she felt so loose. After a couple of minutes, I said “Suck this bbc dildo whilst I fuck you” and she said “No, put it back inside me instead”… THIS SHOCKED ME. Purely for the fact that she is a one-time cummer and she always wants me instead. She took it inside her again very well, taking it deeper and harder. I was dirty talking her and she cummed this time without the clit stimulator which SHOCKED ME massively - As she never cums without clit stimulation, that’s a huge fact!
She was dead on the bed after all this. It was like her soul had left her and she didn’t want to move. She said “Let’s go to sleep” and I said “I thought we could go watch some tv” and she said “that’s unlike you to want to stay up this late” and I said “I’m not going gym in the morning, that’s why and I’m buzzing off the play we just had. Are you tired are you? That’s unlike you” and she said “well, I’ve basically have been fucked haven’t I” and I said “what? From work?” And she said “both”. So, she definitely felt the effect of BBC.
Things are heating up guysssss what do you think? Apologies for the wait. I’m working today and I wanted to lay out the scene in detail of what happened so that you all know what exactly happened and you can provide me with more useful advice to help me get closer to having a bbc slut girlfriend.
When I got home before she got home from work, I lit all the candles, had a shower, got the toys out and put the toys on show in the bedroom. She did not say anything. (which she usually would do - either causing some form of resistance or asking me to put them away, because she just wants me tonight) - great! Perfect.
Right. We ate our pizza’s, started the movie, Creed 3, with a bottle of red wine. She loved the movie. She did make a couple of big black dick comments. One before the movie even started and one during the movie. Very discrete humour - she knows what she is doing.
Anyway, after the movie finished. She took her dressing gown off to reveal her sex outfit which she never wears or does things like that…
We started kissing, (in the living room) she grabs my dick, she sucks my dick whilst I rub her clit. I said “let’s go upstairs” (because that’s where the toys are, I wanted her to see them whilst I play with her to get her mind on it without me saying anything) … she said “no, let’s stay down here, Mr boring, we always go to the bedroom” … Anyway, I didn’t want to push anything or mention the toys. So, she is now begging for me to be inside her. So, I thought I’d tease some more, licking her out. She’s laying down on the sofa on her back, legs open wide. I slide one finger inside her whilst licking… two fingers… three fingers and sliding them in/out of her but only by like 1/2 cm thrusts and then I’d let them sit inside her… all whilst I’m licking her clit - she’s literally soaking. She is loving it and getting so wet. “How many fingers is that?” … I said “3 fingers” and she moaned as if it really turned her on. I kept it going and then I said “would you like another finger inside you to make it 4 fingers?” … without hesitation (unlike her) said “yes” (moaning) … slided another inside her and I found it easier to do this than ever before so her pussy must be loosening up from the bbc dildo plays we’ve been having. She was loving it, she was literally riding my face (gagging for it). I then got inbetween her legs because she is dying for me, easily slided inside her and started thrusting away. She was so horny, loving it! I still didn’t get carried away and did not mention anything of the toys or bbc. I just kept going, grunting, I then moved onto “I’m so deep inside you” “Deeper?” “Deeper?” and inbetween each bit of dirty talk, I get a “YEEEE”.
All of a sudden, out of nowhere, she demand’s … “Let’s go upstairs” … I think, that dirty talk got her going thinking about the bbc dildo. We went upstairs, she layed on the bed and I said “How do you want it?” … she said “Surprise me” with a smirk on her face. (Usually she says that she wants it on her side or some sort of position where I AM fucking her). I pulled her over to the edge of the bed. I get on my knees and start to lick her out. She lays back, closes her eyes and is loving it. I’m playing with her nipples, which she absolutely loves. I then throw the blanket over her face, because she loves being blindfolded (got one on the way from Lovehoney today) and this is a huge signal for the dildo’s. She had no complaints and let me carry on. She heard me grab the toys and felt me place them on the bed, she had no complaints (usually she would have said “I want you” or “no toys tonight” or she would make some sort of comment) … it was like she was gagging for it. I grabbed her clit stimulator, placed that on her clit, she took over. I grabbed the bbc dildo. Put it at the entrance of her pussy opening and she moaned hard. She even got rid of the clit stimulator and took the dildo in slowly and absolutely loved it more than ever. She wanted to cum straight away as she definitely loves the feeling. “Do you feel full?” “Do you like this big, thick dick?” “I bet it feels so long and thick” … she was saying “Yes” in between each bit of dirty talk and cummed straight away!
I then started to fuck her - still on the edge of the bed with her legs wide open. She was loving it, she felt so loose. After a couple of minutes, I said “Suck this bbc dildo whilst I fuck you” and she said “No, put it back inside me instead”… THIS SHOCKED ME. Purely for the fact that she is a one-time cummer and she always wants me instead. She took it inside her again very well, taking it deeper and harder. I was dirty talking her and she cummed this time without the clit stimulator which SHOCKED ME massively - As she never cums without clit stimulation, that’s a huge fact!
She was dead on the bed after all this. It was like her soul had left her and she didn’t want to move. She said “Let’s go to sleep” and I said “I thought we could go watch some tv” and she said “that’s unlike you to want to stay up this late” and I said “I’m not going gym in the morning, that’s why and I’m buzzing off the play we just had. Are you tired are you? That’s unlike you” and she said “well, I’ve basically have been fucked haven’t I” and I said “what? From work?” And she said “both”. So, she definitely felt the effect of BBC.
Things are heating up guysssss
what do you think? Apologies for the wait. I’m working today and I wanted to lay out the scene in detail of what happened so that you all know what exactly happened and you can provide me with more useful advice to help me get closer to having a bbc slut girlfriend.