@Nolabull , I'm going to go out on a limb here and make the intuitive assumption ("intuitive" in that I haven't researched this) that meeting up with someone from this dating site is very similar to meeting someone for sex - or friendship, for that matter! - anywhere else or in real life. In terms of the amount of success, the numbers will statistically form a bell curve, where the amount of "success" (you meet and fuck) is relatively small, like 10% on the front end of the curve, the number of outright "get the fuck out of my face!" represents about 5%-8% on the tail end of the curve, and the other 80%+ majority being ones you spend some time going back and forth, you find you don't match, the logistics are too difficult (time and distance), ghosting, fakes, flakes, etc. form the large bump in the middle. This suggests that you need some patience and understanding. It may seem like every woman here is waiting for you to come along and fuck them, just because they are here, too, some even showing their ass and pussy and tits saying "fuck me" but the reality is that's a very bad and disappointing assumption to make.
On the qualitative side, as
@AnnieS and
@Jdingo619 essentially explain, the same factors that make
any connection in life work apply just as much here - your approach, your manner, your presentation...who you are. As James Brown once sang, "some like 'em fat, some like 'em tall, some like 'em short, skinny legs and all". Point is, there's a common denominator of respect and consideration that combines with what any particular woman wants and you will hit the mark with some but miss for many. The example I live by is that some women do not respond at all with showing a bunch of dick pics on the first reach out, whereas a few will slam you because you don't show your dick pics up front. "Let's fuck!" "I want to love you!" as an initial come on, for example, is unwanted and seen as disrespectful to many but that aggression up front turns some women on.
So, don't give up just because 80% of your attempts don't go anywhere. If you fine tune your presentation, etc., check out the threads and see what women you would like seem to like and respond to, then over time you may "hit" successfully.
