For us its mainly the psychology of doing what is not expected. My wife is an educated middle-class professional. She has not had sex with me in over 12 months and has a long term Nigerian lover. He treats her very roughly and is very dominant. I love her so much and cannot be aggressive with her like he is. His penis is 7 inches long but very fat. She likes his circumference and ability to maintain intercourse for a long time. She actively encourages her fellow white English friends and family to have coloured lovers. She loves me and we plan maybe to have a bi racial baby soon. im 33, shes 28. Ben, her lover is 48 . . .