It is great she doesn't let you out when you ask.....knowing how badly you want out.It's two fold, double edged sword. Obviously when I WANT to masturbate but I'm in Chastity I can't. Wife likes that. Doesn't like me masturbating Without her presence. I do find I am much more productive with it on. She so enjoys the tenderness, romance and control. But, yes, I'd be lying if I said it wasn't, at times frustrating, especially when she teases me trying to arouse me in it, or won't let me out if I ask. But, she LOVES having that control.