Almost exactly the same for us except not yet using BAM.My wife was nervous at first about admitting she liked the thickness of allot of bbc that does it for her and the length she says is nice icing . We built up to a BAM and i love using it on her as much as she likes to take it. She loves cumming first with the dildo she says its so thick it just feels better fucked by bbc first and makes her more sensitive.