For the majority of the time, it has been a meet/greet either with the couple or the female (restaurant, bar, parking lot, and even at Walmart). Once we establish some level of comfort and attraction, we find things flow easier. As to fucking on the first meet, yes. If there is chemistry after the meet/greet, why not. Some husbands are up to joining, and some sit/watch/take pics or fetch snacks/drinks while I ravish the wife.