Did you struggled to accept your fetish? Any tips?

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Hi everyone, just a bit of context:

Long story short, I'm a white guy in his early 20s, i've had a huge porn addiction for over 10years. When i was around 16yo, i started to watch more and more extreme genres of porn since it's the only thing i was doing all day long and in these "extreme" genre there was ir porn, not really extreme but it came with the whole cuckolding and raceplay package. I didn't pay attention to it right away since i was watching way more hardcore stuff at that time but when i realised i had a problem with porn, i started the whole nofap thing wich helped me a lot for a year or so but the only kind of porn that made relapse every single time was interracial porn. I can try as hard as i can, the fact is that the triggers are absolutely everywhere in the medias, outsides and everything and everytime i see one trigger like just one interracial couple in the whole city, my brain overthink it and start imagining stuff and i quickly go back to my old habits and i hate it. Don't get me wrong, i absolutely love ir porn, nothings get me off harder than that. It's the only kind of porn that i can watch all day without getting bored and always be rock hard for it. The thing is, everytime i finish i feel completely ashamed, i hate myself for watching this cuz i don't want to be a cuck, i want to have a "normal" relationship and all but everytime i try to go like just a week without my brain can't help but only think about ir porn and all, i don't even see a beautiful women irl as a potential partner or whatever so i don't try to hit on them, i just think that she must have a black boyfriend and give up.

I've been like this for almost 2 years now (or at least, it started to bother me 2years ago). Recreating all my olds ir porn accounts when i'm horny and deleting them right after because i'm ashamed. and it only gotten worse when i couldn't perform with a girl last year, since then i relapse every 3 days and i'm sick of it. I'm sick of trying to quit this addiction, it's been way to long now, i'd like to fully accept it, but my brain is killing me everytime.

All that for this question: Did any of you struggled to accept your fetish in the beginning? if so, do you have any tips to make it easier?
 
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I'm in my late 40's and I've been into interrrcial porn for over 20 years now. For me it's not been an issue as it helped me discover myself and what i was truly into, and that's being a cuckold by a dominating wife that enjoys getting fucked by black men with big cocks, as well as being okay with being Bi in the cuckold scene. One of my ex's used to make me feel bad over this fetish, but it did not make me feel shameful as it's what i like and want and there is nothing wrong with any of it...all it did for me is make me want to find the right partner that was accepting and currious in explorind this fetish with me, which i did 5 years ago and I've never been happier.

Her Pet!
 
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Goddesskat said:
One of my ex's used to make me feel bad over this fetish, but it did not make me feel shameful as it's what i like and want and there is nothing wrong with any of it
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I love that confidence. i wish i was confident like that about it. Right now, if a girl or anyone discovered my fetish, i'd be so ashamed and i'd feel so bad about it. I don't want anyone to know this part of me since i still not really accepted it, even if by any chance i find a partner someday, i feel like i'll never be able to show this part of me but i wish i'll develop enough confidence in my fetish to do it.
 
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WhiteVoyeur said:
Hi everyone, just a bit of context:

Long story short, I'm a white guy in his early 20s, i've had a huge porn addiction for over 10years. When i was around 16yo, i started to watch more and more extreme genres of porn since it's the only thing i was doing all day long and in these "extreme" genre there was ir porn, not really extreme but it came with the whole cuckolding and raceplay package. I didn't pay attention to it right away since i was watching way more hardcore stuff at that time but when i realised i had a problem with porn, i started the whole nofap thing wich helped me a lot for a year or so but the only kind of porn that made relapse every single time was interracial porn. I can try as hard as i can, the fact is that the triggers are absolutely everywhere in the medias, outsides and everything and everytime i see one trigger like just one interracial couple in the whole city, my brain overthink it and start imagining stuff and i quickly go back to my old habits and i hate it. Don't get me wrong, i absolutely love ir porn, nothings get me off harder than that. It's the only kind of porn that i can watch all day without getting bored and always be rock hard for it. The thing is, everytime i finish i feel completely ashamed, i hate myself for watching this cuz i don't want to be a cuck, i want to have a "normal" relationship and all but everytime i try to go like just a week without my brain can't help but only think about ir porn and all, i don't even see a beautiful women irl as a potential partner or whatever so i don't try to hit on them, i just think that she must have a black boyfriend and give up.

I've been like this for almost 2 years now (or at least, it started to bother me 2years ago). Recreating all my olds ir porn accounts when i'm horny and deleting them right after because i'm ashamed. and it only gotten worse when i couldn't perform with a girl last year, since then i relapse every 3 days and i'm sick of it. I'm sick of trying to quit this addiction, it's been way to long now, i'd like to fully accept it, but my brain is killing me everytime.

All that for this question: Did any of you struggled to accept your fetish in the beginning? if so, do you have any tips to make it easier?
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I think I can understand how you are feeling about your (our) fetish.
All I can say is that you are not alone.
And never look back.
 
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Jacktone said:
All I can say is that you are not alone.
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Thank you and i won't look back, not anymore. when i woke up this morning, i was ashamed that i came back to all this again and everything, but i right away took my phone, put on some good ir porn to get the good feelings back. I think i'll do that from now on, everytime i feel bad or ashamed about my fetish, i'll watch interracial porn and completely give myself to it. Hopefully, with some time, it will help me to fully accept it.
 
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Goddesskat said:
I'm in my late 40's and I've been into interrrcial porn for over 20 years now. For me it's not been an issue as it helped me discover myself and what i was truly into, and that's being a cuckold by a dominating wife that enjoys getting fucked by black men with big cocks, as well as being okay with being Bi in the cuckold scene. One of my ex's used to make me feel bad over this fetish, but it did not make me feel shameful as it's what i like and want and there is nothing wrong with any of it...all it did for me is make me want to find the right partner that was accepting and currious in explorind this fetish with me, which i did 5 years ago and I've never been happier.

Her Pet!
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I love this, I feel the same. I do still feel so ashamed sometimes but I’ve accepted that this is who I am sexually and I can’t change that no matter how hard I try. I will always be a female cuck that enjoys black men and white women. I just need to find a black boyfriend that prefers white women and is willing to cuck me good. This is not a phase in my life- this is my preference, this is what I enjoy sexually and I shouldn’t feel ashamed of it.
 
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WhiteVoyeur said:
I love that confidence. i wish i was confident like that about it. Right now, if a girl or anyone discovered my fetish, i'd be so ashamed and i'd feel so bad about it. I don't want anyone to know this part of me since i still not really accepted it, even if by any chance i find a partner someday, i feel like i'll never be able to show this part of me but i wish i'll develop enough confidence in my fetish to do it.
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Me too :(
 
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WhiteVoyeur said:
Hi everyone, just a bit of context:

Long story short, I'm a white guy in his early 20s, i've had a huge porn addiction for over 10years. When i was around 16yo, i started to watch more and more extreme genres of porn since it's the only thing i was doing all day long and in these "extreme" genre there was ir porn, not really extreme but it came with the whole cuckolding and raceplay package. I didn't pay attention to it right away since i was watching way more hardcore stuff at that time but when i realised i had a problem with porn, i started the whole nofap thing wich helped me a lot for a year or so but the only kind of porn that made relapse every single time was interracial porn. I can try as hard as i can, the fact is that the triggers are absolutely everywhere in the medias, outsides and everything and everytime i see one trigger like just one interracial couple in the whole city, my brain overthink it and start imagining stuff and i quickly go back to my old habits and i hate it. Don't get me wrong, i absolutely love ir porn, nothings get me off harder than that. It's the only kind of porn that i can watch all day without getting bored and always be rock hard for it. The thing is, everytime i finish i feel completely ashamed, i hate myself for watching this cuz i don't want to be a cuck, i want to have a "normal" relationship and all but everytime i try to go like just a week without my brain can't help but only think about ir porn and all, i don't even see a beautiful women irl as a potential partner or whatever so i don't try to hit on them, i just think that she must have a black boyfriend and give up.

I've been like this for almost 2 years now (or at least, it started to bother me 2years ago). Recreating all my olds ir porn accounts when i'm horny and deleting them right after because i'm ashamed. and it only gotten worse when i couldn't perform with a girl last year, since then i relapse every 3 days and i'm sick of it. I'm sick of trying to quit this addiction, it's been way to long now, i'd like to fully accept it, but my brain is killing me everytime.

All that for this question: Did any of you struggled to accept your fetish in the beginning? if so, do you have any tips to make it easier?
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Hey we're a young couple, it was hard at first for both of us, we ended up falling into the porn trap as well. We both got off to IR and it's one of those things that you'll have to either learn to accept that you enjoy it and delve further into it. Or simply let it pass, ultimately you can go deeper or slow down at any point. If this is something your truly torn on take some time off for yourself to search yourself for what you truly desire. Take all the time you need.

For us we decided that IR cuckoldry was a fantasy we like to play with. We too haven't made the full real jump into it just yet as we're savoring the descent. We accepted that IR porn is hot and it is a core part of our sexual relationship now. Orgasms have never been better for us.
 
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Goddesskat said:
I'm in my late 40's and I've been into interrrcial porn for over 20 years now. For me it's not been an issue as it helped me discover myself and what i was truly into, and that's being a cuckold by a dominating wife that enjoys getting fucked by black men with big cocks, as well as being okay with being Bi in the cuckold scene. One of my ex's used to make me feel bad over this fetish, but it did not make me feel shameful as it's what i like and want and there is nothing wrong with any of it...all it did for me is make me want to find the right partner that was accepting and currious in explorind this fetish with me, which i did 5 years ago and I've never been happier.

Her Pet!
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This really resonates with me. My girlfriend was cheating on me with our black roommate while in the navy in the 90's. It killed me inside but also turned me on more than anything else and it's always on my mind. I struggled with it for many years before learning that there are really couples who do this and are very happy with their decision and their relationship. I have long ago accepted myself as a cuckold and I wouldn't change anything about it even if I could. It's who I am and I love it. I haven't been as lucky as you as I'm still searching for someone who wants this but thankfully this is starting to catch on as more women see it as the beautiful thing that it is and so I have hope
 
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My girlfriend and I were lucky, we we're both into watching IR around a year after she graduated and we moved in together. We got off to the idea of Interracial cuckoldry. It just made orgasms together that much better, and we found ourselves masterbaiting to it over sex with eachother in a fair few cases. We did have a moment though in which we knew that watching Interracial porn and coming here could ruin our relationship if we ever went all the way. Pleasure won out and we surrendered to letting it take over our sexual thoughts. Accepting that and accepting that was understanding that some doors when opened can never be closed again.

It's more adventurous and the risk adds to the excitement.
 
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To accept it no, to express it yes. You should not feel ashamed fetishes have some deep psychological and biological roots that can be difficult to understand in yourself let alone other people. First thing is that you should be able to accept your sexual desires without judging yourself by false cultural perspectives, if you live by mainstream sexual norms you are denied your right to express your true self. Shame is really not a good thing, and is very psychologically damaging believe me. Then I think you should analyse the what specifically arouses you about it, i do not believe it is a single fetish like many assume. There are a lot of good resources online that may help you come to terms with it, but also a lot of bad ones that tend to try to pigeon hole you or over simplify it. At the end of the day there is nothing more rewarding than being able to express your self sexually freely without feeling ashamed.
 
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In a very similar boat. You know what sucks? I always wanted to be a rapper, but even if I made it I would Definitely be exposed. If I'm being completely honest, of I didn't have any family that I loved or cared about what they thought, i would probably run away and fully embrace the fetish. I hope every thing works out for you.

My plan is to try to do it and either get it out of my system or just be a secret cuck. I've already been having gay sex for years, but it's not right for me because there's no girls there when i do it
 
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Serviceboy said:
In a very similar boat. You know what sucks? I always wanted to be a rapper, but even if I made it I would Definitely be exposed. If I'm being completely honest, of I didn't have any family that I loved or cared about what they thought, i would probably run away and fully embrace the fetish. I hope every thing works out for you.

My plan is to try to do it and either get it out of my system or just be a secret cuck. I've already been having gay sex for years, but it's not right for me because there's no girls there when i do it
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What do you mean you would be exposed?
 
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Serviceboy said:
If I were to reach a level of fame(especially in rap) word would definitely get out about all my gay sex and cuck fetishes. People are shitty and don't keep secrets
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Oh ok I get you. So for now, just don’t indulge. Only fantasise about it on on blacktowhite while pursuing your rap career 😅 they can’t trace this account back to you
 
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WhiteVoyeur said:
Hi everyone, just a bit of context:

Long story short, I'm a white guy in his early 20s, i've had a huge porn addiction for over 10years. When i was around 16yo, i started to watch more and more extreme genres of porn since it's the only thing i was doing all day long and in these "extreme" genre there was ir porn, not really extreme but it came with the whole cuckolding and raceplay package. I didn't pay attention to it right away since i was watching way more hardcore stuff at that time but when i realised i had a problem with porn, i started the whole nofap thing wich helped me a lot for a year or so but the only kind of porn that made relapse every single time was interracial porn. I can try as hard as i can, the fact is that the triggers are absolutely everywhere in the medias, outsides and everything and everytime i see one trigger like just one interracial couple in the whole city, my brain overthink it and start imagining stuff and i quickly go back to my old habits and i hate it. Don't get me wrong, i absolutely love ir porn, nothings get me off harder than that. It's the only kind of porn that i can watch all day without getting bored and always be rock hard for it. The thing is, everytime i finish i feel completely ashamed, i hate myself for watching this cuz i don't want to be a cuck, i want to have a "normal" relationship and all but everytime i try to go like just a week without my brain can't help but only think about ir porn and all, i don't even see a beautiful women irl as a potential partner or whatever so i don't try to hit on them, i just think that she must have a black boyfriend and give up.

I've been like this for almost 2 years now (or at least, it started to bother me 2years ago). Recreating all my olds ir porn accounts when i'm horny and deleting them right after because i'm ashamed. and it only gotten worse when i couldn't perform with a girl last year, since then i relapse every 3 days and i'm sick of it. I'm sick of trying to quit this addiction, it's been way to long now, i'd like to fully accept it, but my brain is killing me everytime.

All that for this question: Did any of you struggled to accept your fetish in the beginning? if so, do you have any tips to make it easier?
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I think maybe it's best you accept it to some degree, because it doesn't sound very healthy. I can assure you that not every girl has a black boyfriend lmao. Itd probably be best to watch and engage in this stuff in moderation, that could decrease the severity of the situation. Just have some faith in yourself, itll turn out alright ❤
 
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