Wife training

[Ips]

I'm not really sure were to begin ....

Basically my wife's libido is low (health reasons) and she would like to improve it. She has been suggesting for some time that I condition her to increase her arousal but not a lot of things get her excited. We watch porn together and over the years her genre preference narrowed down to high quality blacked.com production material, some of the user content that came from here that i found and shared with her, but you get it, it's mostly bbc porn that we watch.

I tried a few things in order to get her hot and sexy without porn through our relationship (even before bbc became her go-to porn genre) but without any porn it's tends to be hard work for both of us. Last time before we started our imtimate session I suggested that I could condition her to bbc since it's her favorite porn genre anyway and to my very horny surprise she agreed to it, if we do it slowly. I asked her right away if she has doubts or concerns and she pointed out that it could become the only thing that turns her on, which she finds exciting. I even asked her the day after if she's still ok with the it and she confirmed.

I have some BDSM experiences as Dom with my ex-girlfriends but nothing like this. Because I'm not 100% certain how to approach this "training", I came here trying to find some tips and maybe advice and compare them with what I had in mind. I created a couples account in case she wants to engage with this community.

Involve your wife in the discussion. Everybody is talking about her except your wife.

 

[hungteacher]

Because I mention that neither of us enjoys that particular type of content and that I find it questionable that it may contain things that go into an area that is unacceptable for either of us as well, I am disagreeable? You gotta do a lot better than that, you could have simply disprove my concerns by suggesting specific content but you didn't think that far either. I'm sure you are not a therapist, but even without being one it should be quite obvious that suggesting excessive (auditory) stimulation against someones preference (listening to whatever without enjoying it) is not exactly a recipe for success, let alone a balanced one. It should be fun, not a chore or ******* and in moderation. Some of you folks really don't seem to get that or simply don't give a fuck. And that's why info is "leaking like a flaccid penis", because I expected that it will draw attention to all kinds of people that are either disrespectful or think they can push their agenda however they like.


And if you think that was a bite, i don't think you have been bitten before

Sir.

Please use the internet for what it was intended to do. If you don't understand what a word means, please look it up. Being "disagreeable" is a psychology term. It describes someone, like yourself, who always takes the opposite position no matter what someone says.

Which is exactly what you're doing again.

No one can speak to you without being wrong. Which is the reason why I described you as "disagreeable."

No one is claiming that you're not allowed to have boundaries and limits. Your assertion that someone is blaming you for having limits is quite laughable. The issue is that you claimed a boundary "AFTER" I made the suggestion - and tried to assert that my suggestion was therefore offensive.

Sir, you did not disclose your boundary before I made the suggestion. Therefore, only a psychic would have known what your limits were. And since I dont practice voodoo, I am not trying to read your mind.

I wish you the best of luck, sincerely, but can you please not reply to any more messages.

Try - really hard to not reply to this. I know it will be very difficult for you, since you have an obsessive compulsive need to have the last word. But its not necessary. I do not want to help you. You dont want my help. Therefore, we can just walk away and no one has to think twice about this interaction.

 

[hungteacher]

Involve your wife in the discussion. Everybody is talking about her except your wife.

save your breath.

you hit the nail on the head - this is all just a charade.