Cuck relationship started by the gf/wife?

[2pac]

Not a cuck or a bull. I don't judge the people that engage in it but I find it weird. I'm trying to understand the psychology behind this kink better. It's mostly related to subconscious male inadequacy.

Anyhow cuckolding seems like a fetish that is always initiated by the man. There are so many wannabe cucks that are sharing pictures of their wives/gf (without there consent in most cases) and asking what bulls would do to them. Any couples here where the female half initiated the relationship?

Thanks.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Define "cuckolding".

BTW are you the real Shakur?

 

[2pac]

Define "cuckolding".

BTW are you the real Shakur?

Cuckolding IMO is letting your wife/gf fuck a stud and feeling humiliated which is converted into erotic pleasure.
Hotwifing is more like swinging, which makes much more sense to me. Domming your wife and sharing her with others also makes sense.

Nah dude lol.

 

[spin419]

My answer to this kind of thing is always that if a woman has “started it”, it’s probably through a process precipitated by and connected to her sexual infidelity. It’s unwitting and unintentional, but her cheating is eroticized by her husband or bf, and that leads a couple onto the path.

 

[luvwife-w-bbc]

My wife has always been attracted to black men, so with my encouragement and assurances, she carefully selected a partner and jumped in.

 

[Liquids]

Not a cuck or a bull. I don't judge the people that engage in it but I find it weird. I'm trying to understand the psychology behind this kink better. It's mostly related to subconscious male inadequacy.

Anyhow cuckolding seems like a fetish that is always initiated by the man. There are so many wannabe cucks that are sharing pictures of their wives/gf (without there consent in most cases) and asking what bulls would do to them. Any couples here where the female half initiated the relationship?

Thanks.

Do you count to cheated on me?

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Cuckolding IMO is letting your wife/gf fuck a stud and feeling humiliated which is converted into erotic pleasure.
Hotwifing is more like swinging, which makes much more sense to me. Domming your wife and sharing her with others also makes sense.

Nah dude lol.

There are threads in here in which Women claim to have been the ones who initiated the lifestyle with their significant other. Some verified, so perhaps it's true. i definitely believe that exists. At the same time it may be rare for multiple reasons. There are definitely many men with the fantasy who have a hard time opening up about it to their partners. Much more so Women, i believe, due to social paradigms they can't imagine going against.

Let's be honest, a Woman who is in line with her sexuality, fully accepting her sexual fantasies and openly and honestly talking about those, might still be rare. And then... a wife or girlfriend who's fantasy involves sex with somebody who is not her partner and opening about that to her partner... when all she expects a man to be dead against sharing his Woman which is still what most psychologists will tell you as being the normal, plus the expectation of being slut-shamed for it, doesn't seem to make it easy for a Woman to bring it up in the first place.

And while it is hard for many men too, and if only for the taboo nature of this fantasy, there's still a difference. Men owning their sexuality - whatever kink that may involve - is typically seen as normal. Men are somehow expected to be "dirty lads" when it comes to sex, which makes it all that easier for men than for Women to bring up this topic, i guess.

All i say is "More power to the people!" (...and find your voice. No matter male or female.) - Because life is enabled to give you back so much more, if you do.

 

[marcus3219]

Not a cuck or a bull. I don't judge the people that engage in it but I find it weird. I'm trying to understand the psychology behind this kink better. It's mostly related to subconscious male inadequacy.

Anyhow cuckolding seems like a fetish that is always initiated by the man. There are so many wannabe cucks that are sharing pictures of their wives/gf (without there consent in most cases) and asking what bulls would do to them. Any couples here where the female half initiated the relationship?

Thanks.

My experiences had not to do with my ex gf's coming to me and asking me if it's ok if we can do this cuckold thing but instead getting "cheated" on by two ex gf's and letting the cheating happen and still remain in a relationship with them.

I wrote briefly about my experiences here.... https://www.blacktowhite.net/threads/what-was-your-path-to-the-cuckold-lifestyle.258384/post-5033205

 

[marcus3219]

There are threads in here in which Women claim to have been the ones who initiated the lifestyle with their significant other. Some verified, so perhaps it's true. i definitely believe that exists. At the same time it may be rare for multiple reasons. There are definitely many men with the fantasy who have a hard time opening up about it to their partners. Much more so Women, i believe, due to social paradigms they can't imagine going against.

Let's be honest, a Woman who is in line with her sexuality, fully accepting her sexual fantasies and openly and honestly talking about those, might still be rare. And then... a wife or girlfriend who's fantasy involves sex with somebody who is not her partner and opening about that to her partner... when all she expects a man to be dead against sharing his Woman which is still what most psychologists will tell you as being the normal, plus the expectation of being slut-shamed for it, doesn't seem to make it easy for a Woman to bring it up in the first place.

And while it is hard for many men too, and if only for the taboo nature of this fantasy, there's still a difference. Men owning their sexuality - whatever kink that may involve - is typically seen as normal. Men are somehow expected to be "dirty lads" when it comes to sex, which makes it all that easier for men than for Women to bring up this topic, i guess.

All i say is "More power to the people!" (...and find your voice. No matter male or female.) - Because life is enabled to give you back so much more, if you do.

Just some random thoughts.

I would think it's hard turn to the woman you care about and get her to admit that she , instead of thinking about you sexually, ponders being with another man. I think it's generally counter intuitive to what a relationship is supposed to be. Makes sense that it's the man who has to initiate this because some women I know would never admit to their man that she would prefer someone else in bed.

Now if, while talking about pornography or celebs perhaps, a couple talks about different scenarios of bringing someone else into their bed then the subject is out in the open, but in reality, people talk. There are family and friendship relations to consider and so it may be difficult to keep any of that a secret. Which makes this kind of lifestyle difficult unless a couple is willing to take the plunge.

Personally, I had a few experiences with ex gfs having sex with black men on the side. I knew about it but did nothing. At the time it was confusing but I let it happen and didn't end the relationships. In retrospect, since I'm being more honest about my personal feelings related to cuckolding, it is very arousing to think back at what happened.

It is "weird" that someone would have this kind of cuckold relationship but it's a mix of jealousy and extreme eroticism in my case. It givies me a raging hardon. But that's how my brain is wired. There are black men (and other men) who LOVE to have sex with women who belong to other men. I don't fully understand the dynamic of what a Black Alpha is feeling when he fucks my gf but for me it's a mix of emotions and eroticism. Personally, VERY INTOXICATING.

So, long story short... I guess you could say I'm "weird"

 

[conner95]

I was the one who brought it up first with my GF. I was worried about her reaction but was shocked and amazed at response that she wanted the same thing. After talking more about it she admitted her side of it was she feels safe and comfortable with me in our relationship and loves being dominant but wants have the sexual experience of being treated like a worthless whore by someone and wants to have me - the person she cares about most watch.

We broke it down as thing were deep down she is used to the unhealthy toxic relationships of her past treating her badly which is the hard fucking where she is verbally humiliated and made to feel like a whore which in the past she would do to sabotage relationships by cheating on someone who treated her well with someone who was verbally and physically abusive toward her.

Now that she knows this is my kink and we have talked about it she feels like she is getting that deep psychological need to be treated poorly out of her system without ruining her relationship - because I am into it and getting off on seeing her getting fucked.

So I technically brought it up, but stumbled across a notebook she was journaling in from before we started dating that said that she was interesting in cuckolding. So I may have been the one who brought it up first but it was not a concept she was unfamiliar with.

 

[watcher6019]

What I think is that people are wired differently. Some people would divorce their wife for doing what some of us enjoy on here. I have enjoyed watching my wife have sex with other men, and I like hearing her stories about the men she had sex with before we were married. But I don't really consider myself a cuckold because I don't feel like I am humiliated by it. I am a pretty confident sexual partner myself.

 

[marcus3219]

What I think is that people are wired differently. Some people would divorce their wife for doing what some of us enjoy on here. I have enjoyed watching my wife have sex with other men, and I like hearing her stories about the men she had sex with before we were married. But I don't really consider myself a cuckold because I don't feel like I am humiliated by it. I am a pretty confident sexual partner myself.

I guess if you really love it then you're not humiliated by it. I was there when an ex of mine gave a black man a blowjob but didn't see it directly. Must have been extremely erotic for you. Jealousy and eroticism is a strong combination, and to me intoxicating.

 

[MaxiMan]

Define "cuckolding".

BTW are you the real Shakur?

Although I enjoy my wife having sex with others whenever and wherever she chooses I don’t see myself as a typical cuck. My sole purpose in life is to ensure that my lovely wife enjoys ALL of the pleasures possible. Sex is not to confused with love and I most certainly don’t ‘own’ my wife.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Although I enjoy my wife having sex with others whenever and wherever she chooses I don’t see myself as a typical cuck. My sole purpose in life is to ensure that my lovely wife enjoys ALL of the pleasures possible. Sex is not to confused with love and I most certainly don’t ‘own’ my wife.

No doubt i understand you well even though i think calling it your "sole purpose in life" seems a bit over-motivated in my opinion but it's okay if it is for you i guess. But i definitely share the basic vibe of what you're saying.

 

[Limpcuck31]

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