Okay, I'm the wife, but I think I'm qualified to answer your questions.
I understand that you and your girl are together in a dating/married relationship. (in our case, married) Y’all live together, go out on dates, do things like a couple. (True)
Does the wife and the bull ever do relationship things or is it just sex?
Yes and no. My husband and I meet my Bull together in a casual restaurant (usually a bar and grill). We have dinner, chat and just generally socialize. After dinner, we go to the hotel where my husband just watches as my Bull has me. By and large, that's the extent of socialization.
However, my Bull is a corporate lawyer. He has to attend social functions and events a few times a year. I have gone as his 'date' on a few of these occasions. Just like any other situation you might imagine. Socialization, small talk, eating rubber chicken and the like. Of course, my husband isn't present. But as far as his circle of friends (professional associates) I'm a small part of their community. No one knows (we travel in different social circles) that I'm married to a White man.
How does the relationship dynamic between the wife and bull go?
During one of these social functions, we act like any other couple who is dating. I stand next to him, make small talk, hold his arm or hand, Others, seeing this, just believe I'm single woman dating a Black guy. But let's be real about it, they all know that our 'friendship' isn't strictly platonic. And, after attending three or four of these events, they know I haven't been 'hired' by him. So I would say that interaction between me, my Bull and them is pretty normal. I'm sure no one suspects. We don't do anything that suggests otherwise.
Do you and the bull have any relationship, like do y’all hang out like friends?
Interestingly enough, I don't nearly as much as my husband does! They have gone to football games, gone to sports bars, and played golf a few times together. They really are good friends. But I'm not involved in those. Usually he has an extra ticket or needs someone to round out a foursome on the golf course. That sort of thing.
I may not be the usual married woman with a Black lover, but thought I'd share our rather unique relationship with you, since you asked.
Hope you find the answers your looking for!
Donna