Could use advice on next steps...

[farnsworth]

Wife and I have very open communication and both fantasize about her being with a BBC, etc. Masterbate together, watch IR porn occasionally. She's made it clear that she really enjoys the fantasy but at this point isn't interested in being with another man. While I may disagree, she's the boss of her body and I've come to respect that decision. Fast forward, we were out of town recently on vacation and I suggested we go to a swingers club to watch because we both enjoy it and she controls the process -- i.e., if she feels uncomfortable, we could leave at any point and there are no expectations she participates. Surprisingly, she said yes, because she knows this type of thing is important to me so long as I understood the ground rules (I do). We go to the club and there is only one other couple there and a handful of guys. Guys were definitely creeping us out and making both feel uncomfortable. Mutually, we agreed to leave. Since then, we definitely have had more BBCs fantasies together while masterbating, etc. I'd like to try the swinger club route again because I think a more positive experience could better guide our future plans. How long do you think I should wait to broach the subject? Any ways to ensure this second time around isn't a total disaster?

 

[NicholeB]

I would say that a very honest discussion with your wife is in order here. Make a special time for discussion. Make it super passive and based on fun. Ask her if she would go again.

You need to be prepared that she is ready more than you are

 

[farnsworth]

Thanks. Very helpful. Would be great if she’s ready to go again!

 

[Chuchipower]

My humble advice is keep doing it slowly like you've been doing,going to swingers clubs or her flirting while out,and my guess is that after the 5th time (at much) in doing it,your wife will be awarded of the blessing of being worthy of black cock...

 

[Jimmydong]

Wife and I have very open communication and both fantasize about her being with a BBC, etc. Masterbate together, watch IR porn occasionally. She's made it clear that she really enjoys the fantasy but at this point isn't interested in being with another man. While I may disagree, she's the boss of her body and I've come to respect that decision. Fast forward, we were out of town recently on vacation and I suggested we go to a swingers club to watch because we both enjoy it and she controls the process -- i.e., if she feels uncomfortable, we could leave at any point and there are no expectations she participates. Surprisingly, she said yes, because she knows this type of thing is important to me so long as I understood the ground rules (I do). We go to the club and there is only one other couple there and a handful of guys. Guys were definitely creeping us out and making both feel uncomfortable. Mutually, we agreed to leave. Since then, we definitely have had more BBCs fantasies together while masterbating, etc. I'd like to try the swinger club route again because I think a more positive experience could better guide our future plans. How long do you think I should wait to broach the subject? Any ways to ensure this second time around isn't a total disaster?

Unless you know of or have experienced swinger clubs that are really fantastic I would say skip them. My personal opinion is that most of them are just a bunch of ugly creepy guys and usually lack attractive women if they have women at all. I’m not an expert in that area but I have heard a thousand stories. Attending these things and being disappointed time after time could hinder your progress instead of helping by discouraging her. Instead why not do some research into lively clubs in an area of the city that is very diverse and go out and people watch. All she needs to see is some interracial couples and it could possibly ignite something in her. About 20 years ago I was out with a bunch of friends and saw a really hot mixed couple that were all over each other and engaging in some heavy pda. A white guy and a black chick. I dated nothing but hot black women over the next 5 years lol. A pair of one year relationships and a 3 year live in relationship. Great times.

 

[robbiewillsuck]

May 2023, Hello I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with a nice c*ck and nice tits. I want you to try this on your wife or GF -- suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.

Do this every time when you suck her tit. Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask ---
May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock.

Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.

Email me back and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.

If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock.