My girlfriend and I have been together for years and our relationship has been completely healthy, but I've secretly wanted to see her with another guy (preferably a black one) for years. She's only 4'11 and 90 pounds so seeing her fucked by a massive cock would be amazing. She has no idea that this is something I've fantasized about and I'm worried that telling her would ruin our relationship. Does anyone have any advice?
Convincing a devoted girlfriend...
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If you are worried that this "fantasy/fetish" would ruin your relationship, take your time introducing her to it. How open minded is she in general when it comes to sexual stuff? Do you watch porn as a couple? If so, try introducing interracial porn into the bedroom, if that works well then try to introduce cuckold stuff. First treat it as just a fantasy that you get off on and then possibly move into making it a reality.
If you jump into it right away and treat her as a piece of meat that you want to see get fucked by a hung guy, its going to end in a disaster.
If you jump into it right away and treat her as a piece of meat that you want to see get fucked by a hung guy, its going to end in a disaster.
Welcome, both of you, to B2W ... and I think Felicia gave DMWV good advice.
...DMVA, the first thing I do before commenting "with advice" is to look at the person's profile, and even some of their past posts to give me an idea of their maturity, ages. experience, etc. You haven't filled that info in as of yet, so, I encourage you to complete your profile IF you are going to ask for advice from forum members. Some of us actually take questions seriously and try to give good advice, but it helps to have a little info on the subject. For all we know you and your GF are teenagers or early 20s.
...If you haven't developed your relationship to a point to where you can discuss sensitive matters with your partner, the next best is to make it a "fantasy sharing" type event ... where, if she feels offended, you can laugh it off as just fantasy even if you are serious. You say you've been with her for years, yet, you may not know your partner as well as you think you do ... possibly, if you've been together for 5 years, for example, you have 5 one-year experiences with her and haven't really learned a lot about her. Maybe you'll find that you've been dating each other for convenience, not for building the relationship.
...An easier way to open the sensitive topics, like this, is to simply make it a "sharing" topic ... like "let's talk about our sexual fantasies" or "what your deepest sexual fantasies are". You may find her sexual fantasies the same as yours, but most likely her fantasies will be somewhat different. What it does give YOU, however, is the opening to share your sexual fantasies with her. The ladies tend to be quite reluctant with sharing these kind of "suppressed thoughts", but if you can have some good drinks, like margaritas or a good bottle of wine, she's likely to drop her "sharing personal info" shield long enough to give you some ideas where her sexual fantasies lie. Then, you set about having some fantasy sex play involving those deep fantasies, and eventually make them become real.
...But, if you're concerned about opening up such topics, you guys are not growing as a couple ... simply milling away the time in a relationship that's not maturing, and that would be a waste of time. Relationships get more interesting as time passes ... I know, I've been married 21 years as of this September.
...Hopefully, more forum members will take your question seriously and try to help you. Ask more questions if you like ... this is a very sensitive subject, I know.
...Best of luck ...
...Mac
...DMVA, the first thing I do before commenting "with advice" is to look at the person's profile, and even some of their past posts to give me an idea of their maturity, ages. experience, etc. You haven't filled that info in as of yet, so, I encourage you to complete your profile IF you are going to ask for advice from forum members. Some of us actually take questions seriously and try to give good advice, but it helps to have a little info on the subject. For all we know you and your GF are teenagers or early 20s.
...If you haven't developed your relationship to a point to where you can discuss sensitive matters with your partner, the next best is to make it a "fantasy sharing" type event ... where, if she feels offended, you can laugh it off as just fantasy even if you are serious. You say you've been with her for years, yet, you may not know your partner as well as you think you do ... possibly, if you've been together for 5 years, for example, you have 5 one-year experiences with her and haven't really learned a lot about her. Maybe you'll find that you've been dating each other for convenience, not for building the relationship.
...An easier way to open the sensitive topics, like this, is to simply make it a "sharing" topic ... like "let's talk about our sexual fantasies" or "what your deepest sexual fantasies are". You may find her sexual fantasies the same as yours, but most likely her fantasies will be somewhat different. What it does give YOU, however, is the opening to share your sexual fantasies with her. The ladies tend to be quite reluctant with sharing these kind of "suppressed thoughts", but if you can have some good drinks, like margaritas or a good bottle of wine, she's likely to drop her "sharing personal info" shield long enough to give you some ideas where her sexual fantasies lie. Then, you set about having some fantasy sex play involving those deep fantasies, and eventually make them become real.
...But, if you're concerned about opening up such topics, you guys are not growing as a couple ... simply milling away the time in a relationship that's not maturing, and that would be a waste of time. Relationships get more interesting as time passes ... I know, I've been married 21 years as of this September.
...Hopefully, more forum members will take your question seriously and try to help you. Ask more questions if you like ... this is a very sensitive subject, I know.
...Best of luck ...
...Mac
Thanks for the response. We haven't lately but for a year or so we watched porn pretty frequently, even if it was just to laugh at bad acting or ridiculous premises. That being said, sometimes it lead to sex and other times it lead to talking about sex. I think watching interracial porn might be the right way to introduce the idea. She really enjoyed interracial lesbian scenes when we were younger, not sure if she still would but I can't imagine why it would have changed.
That's my main concern. The last thing I want is to make her think that I consider her a sex toy or anything like that. I wouldn't want to ******* her into anything!
I appreciate the long response. We've been together for a little over six years and, to be entirely honest, I kind of feel like we've talked about or done just about everything we can do together in our current relationship. We've been financially limited due to both of us being enrolled in college. Virtually all of our income comes from me working part-time jobs whenever I can find the time. This puts a lot of stress on us and limits what we can do.
Btw, we are in our early 20's and have been together since we were around 14-15. Before we started living together, we spent several nights talking about our fantasies but I've noticed that any time I've tried to pursue them in person she sort of shrugs it off. She never outright said she wanted to sleep with another person, but the implication was always there and on certain nights she'd admit that there were lots of things she was nervous to tell me. I'd always pursue it further but she never seemed comfortable enough to tell me.
Jungle Juice time, my man .... 3 of these delicious drinks and "your Wish will be her Command" ... LOL
My wife gets quite "flirty" when she's had a couple of these.
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Amazing advise..
So my wife and I have been together since we were teenagers as well. Going on 25 years of relationship at this point!! My greatest advice....communicate and show tolerance, patience, and understanding if you love each other there is a lifetime of figuring and exploring and morphing your sexual interests together... And if you both are true to each other about exploring interests, then you will eventually explore things that maybe you never expected to be interested in.
Enjoy. Explore. Don't push, and take your time. A lifetime of pleasure is ahead of you.
Enjoy. Explore. Don't push, and take your time. A lifetime of pleasure is ahead of you.
