Are you confused, or just conflicted? I am a straight male who loves women, but at some point I found that, when it comes to sex, I have a feminine mind with all that entails. I have come to love cock, sucking and being fucked, to the point of obsession, much like a bitch in heat must feel. I began to test my wife's attitude with little things, like going to bed wearing a pair of her panties (like it was a joke). I was delighted to find that she liked it.When we fucked we often used fantasy, and I offered a fantasy of a threesome with another guy. at first it was he and I doing my wife. And then I slipped in my sucking his cock, later him fucking me.
Not only did my wife accept it, but she whole-heartedly contributed, describing his big hard cock and how he was fucking me. When I whimpered, "It hurt." She responded with, "But it hurts good. You like it. You want it."
From then it was me on my hands and knees, she pulling down my panties and fucking me with her vibrator. I wasn't into black men at the time, but that can be added.
Try it with your wife. Perhaps she'll like it.