Alicia0142
Female
im a married housewife in south east Alabama, I just can't cross that line but I want to. Wish some ladies that had that problem would give some advise. Thanks
Been around awhile but still nervous
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Alicia0142
Female
I will but I have been for a long time. Been talking to one guy for a long time just can't take the plunge
What do you believe is holding you back?
Alicia0142
Female
I married again and he is not going to let me. We are not going to ever be anything but a couple and monogamous. I don't know how I got to this point.
Oh ok PM me so we can talk more
From a guys perspective, you have to decide if you are happy with your husband or not? If the marriage great, or are you willing to cheat on him? If you are willing to cheat on him, its better to tell him you think you want a divorce and why. He may tell you that he is fine with you screwing other guys and cant imagine life without you. He may tell you that you are all sorts of nasty things.
The simple fact is, once you are in a relationship where you both are choosing to be only with each other, its not fair to make the decision to be with someone else. You can determine that you want it, but you have to decide how badly you want it. Is it worth losing your marriage over? Do you love him enough to tell him you have a fantasy that involves sex with someone other than him? Maybe he will tell you he is fine with it. Maybe he will expect the same level of permission from you in return.
Some people just live in fear. They are afraid to be themselves out of concern that they will be judged harshly. So, just be honest with him and let things go how they go. Because, nothing is worse than getting cheated on, and you would hate him if he did another woman behind your back.
Once that is settled, then you know if you are still a married woman or not. You know if your marriage is most important or not. You have been talking with this guy for a long time, but have you been doing it behind your husband's back? I'm not judging you, I'm just trying trying to help you determine what you want. If its BBC, that's fine. If you want it even if it means you get divorced, that's not a problem.
Just don't leave him in the dark. You care about him, so treat him with respect and be prepared for whatever comes from your desires. It's fair to you, and to him.
The simple fact is, once you are in a relationship where you both are choosing to be only with each other, its not fair to make the decision to be with someone else. You can determine that you want it, but you have to decide how badly you want it. Is it worth losing your marriage over? Do you love him enough to tell him you have a fantasy that involves sex with someone other than him? Maybe he will tell you he is fine with it. Maybe he will expect the same level of permission from you in return.
Some people just live in fear. They are afraid to be themselves out of concern that they will be judged harshly. So, just be honest with him and let things go how they go. Because, nothing is worse than getting cheated on, and you would hate him if he did another woman behind your back.
Once that is settled, then you know if you are still a married woman or not. You know if your marriage is most important or not. You have been talking with this guy for a long time, but have you been doing it behind your husband's back? I'm not judging you, I'm just trying trying to help you determine what you want. If its BBC, that's fine. If you want it even if it means you get divorced, that's not a problem.
Just don't leave him in the dark. You care about him, so treat him with respect and be prepared for whatever comes from your desires. It's fair to you, and to him.
This is a matter of your life....be happy or be miserable. Decide what gets you to which path and simply choose. If you're worried about dousing his happiness, you can't. Only one of you would be truly happy. If it doesn't work however, ending it is best for both of you. Whatever hurt that lingers will last only as long as it lasts. Then you two will find your own individual happiness again. Think about it...
you know in your heart you need to go for black sex. it is best you try it and then decide if you want to be single again and pursue this lifestyle. If you can't share it with the man you are with, he is not the one for you.
I'm just saying if she wants it, she should be able to tell her husband she wants a divorce and why. That way he can decide if he would rather stay married and accept it, or if he can not accept it and agrees they should get divorced.
If it was your wife, would you want her to be honest with you, or go behind your back? I'm guessing most married people would rather have honesty. It wont change what she wants or stop her from doing it. It will just show her husband that she respects him enough to let him know she can not continue a marriage as it exists.
