If your husband were aware you were actually and actively considering/planning this pregnancy, I doubt seriously he would "adjust" quite so easily and the fact that you seem to write his feelings off so easily, makes me curious about a great many things not the least of which is the true state of your marriage to be very honest with you. What you are considering doing, which is making a life choice for not only you, but your husband as well without his input, is wrong. Your looking for justification here doesn't free you from any responsibility in conferring with him.