Any guys wish this fetish didn’t excite them?

I'm slowly letting go of the shame.

I think any lingering regret stems from the complexity of the fetish. Few women are into it, so it's so hard to pull off in real life. I wish I was into simpler things sometimes so it would be easier to feel satisfied.
 
No shame here!! I have come to love everything about it! Nothing excites me more than seeing my wife arroused. And her natural fetish is black men with really big cock. She and I have an amazing marriage, a hot sex life and we both love and share this naughty fun. I do enjoy some of the cuck aspects more than she does as taking the role of voyeur has also allowed slightly sub or cuck fetishes to arise. I
 
I think its a double edged sword. Nothing, and I mean nothing, gives me a rush like seeing my wife going crazy with lust while he fucks her senseless, and being that I have a tiny cock, it also gives me a sex life i'd never have in a vanilla relationship. Plus being amongst other small endowed men on places like here helps deal with those issues. The flip side is, I can't get sexually excited any other way, when she's not seeing other guys, i'm masturbating over memories of her with them. I wish I had at least an average sized cock and we could enjoy a 'normal' sex life at times with cuckolding there to add some spice, but i've been like this for 35 years, so i just live with it.
Interesting. Sounds to me like you made the best of the situation.
 
I've never felt ashamed. However every time my wife and I talk about her being with a black man and I talk about him being bigger than me and he can pleasure her in ways I can't or we watch amateur videos of a hung black man with someone's wife and my wife talks about how erotic black men are in bed and their size compared to mine I do feel awkward afterwards and I get this serious case of angst.
I admit it is a mind game knowing my wife sees black men as sexual powerhouses and admittedly finds their manhood far more impressive than mine. It takes me a day to sort it out but I have never regretted it because at least I know the truth about how my wife feels about black men. I say that because there are a lot of white men walking around with a false sense of security and I am not one of them; I have a prime example too.
I routinely eat at this Subway where these two young white girls (27ish) work that I have a good rapport with and anytime they are in the back prepping and a customer walks in I usually get up and poke my head around the corner to let them know. One of the girls is single and dates only black guys and the other is married and has told me she is not really happy with her husband in certain ways and one was sex because he takes it for granted.
Well one night this guy was walking in the parking lot towards the door so I get up to let them know and as I am about to round the corner I hear the one girl who dates black guys saying sex is awesome with black guys to the married girl and the girl asks her why and she says because they "know how to fuck and they have really huge dicks."
I stood there for a moment listening and this sweet innocent married white girl that I've gotten to know replies in this melancholy voice "you know, I wouldn't mind having a piece of big black chocolate" then laughs but still says to the other girl "you might have to set me up with a black guy one day so I can find out just what you are talking about since my husband is so lazy." I was floored because I knew she was "unhappy" but I could not imagine she would talk about seeking out a black man for sex, she was not as innocent as I thought.
Anyway I waited for the lull as the guy walked in and just "yelled" out customer so they knew I did not hear them. White guys heed this warning.

EDIT: Her husband is so Beta it is not funny, has no drivers license so she drives him everywhere and has stocked groceries since she met him in high school so basically 10 years, says he has no desire to do anything more. He also plays video games all day which was one of her complaints because he ignores her.
I could see why that other girl talking about a well endowed virile Alpha black man would peak her interest. I bet she has not ever been "properly" fucked and thinking about a black man wearing her pussy out must sound thrilling. She's probably done it by now.
If the husband is as lazy as he sounds, she has for sure gone black by now. No doubt about it. Interesting dynamic you brought up with your wife. I have found that I also enjoy the size difference aspect.
 
I'm slowly letting go of the shame.

I think any lingering regret stems from the complexity of the fetish. Few women are into it, so it's so hard to pull off in real life. I wish I was into simpler things sometimes so it would be easier to feel satisfied.
100% agree with you. It’s takes so much to get the courage to bring it up. Then you get shot down and it’s just a huge blow to you.
 
No shame here!! I have come to love everything about it! Nothing excites me more than seeing my wife arroused. And her natural fetish is black men with really big cock. She and I have an amazing marriage, a hot sex life and we both love and share this naughty fun. I do enjoy some of the cuck aspects more than she does as taking the role of voyeur has also allowed slightly sub or cuck fetishes to arise. I
That’s awesome! I’m glad you successfully live the lifestyle.
 
When my wife and I first started talking about this during sex, the same exact thing would happen to us. During sex, it was so hot and I was absolutely sure I wanted to see her getting fucked hard by a big black cock but right after I came, it completely went away and I would feel embarrassed and couldn’t believe
that’s what I wanted. But now, as the years have passed and even though we still haven’t done it, I no longer get that feeling. Even after I cum, I now still want her to do it.
 
When my wife and I first started talking about this during sex, the same exact thing would happen to us. During sex, it was so hot and I was absolutely sure I wanted to see her getting fucked hard by a big black cock but right after I came, it completely went away and I would feel embarrassed and couldn’t believe
that’s what I wanted. But now, as the years have passed and even though we still haven’t done it, I no longer get that feeling. Even after I cum, I now still want her to do it.
That’s awesome! Hopefully I can come to accept it and not feel bad after I cum.
 
If the husband is as lazy as he sounds, she has for sure gone black by now. No doubt about it. Interesting dynamic you brought up with your wife. I have found that I also enjoy the size difference aspect.

I got the sense that she loved him but was frustrated as hell with him that this was what she was going to be doing with him for the rest of her life. I was 50 (now 55) at the time she told me about their sex life and trust me I did not ask or pry about any of it.
She was on break one day and sat at the table and just opened up about it saying they never have sex and asked me was that normal. BTW, this girl is easy on the eyes and I was like hell no that ain't normal with a girl like you at home and said he should be all over you. I kept it clean.
Anyway it wasn't long after that I heard her talking of a big piece of dark chocolate. Her and that girl go out on occasions for a "girls night out" and that other girl goes to clubs where black men are so you might be right, she might have met a black guy to take care of her sexually.
 
When my wife and I first started talking about this during sex, the same exact thing would happen to us. During sex, it was so hot and I was absolutely sure I wanted to see her getting fucked hard by a big black cock but right after I came, it completely went away and I would feel embarrassed and couldn’t believe
that’s what I wanted. But now, as the years have passed and even though we still haven’t done it, I no longer get that feeling. Even after I cum, I now still want her to do it.


ME TOO!! It did not completely go away but I felt so awkward knowing I had told my wife I wanted a well hung black man to make love to her.
 
The problem for me as a white male who wants to meet a white female to develop an interracial cuckold relationship is the difficulty of finding the right lady. In particular is this dilemma: As a white male I want a white female who has a sexual preference for big dominant black men! Now that makes things a bit tricky!
 
When I started dating my wife, neither of us had a clue as to what a cuckold. Hotwife or Bull was. I thought of myself as totally perverted by how beyond excited hearing about her dating and having sex with other men made me. I wanted it to go away, to be normal. It took a while and a wonderfully understanding wife to let me not only live with it but recognize it for what I was. Seeing her happy getting the sex she wanted and needed and my getting the after attention was a blissful state.

The first skill she learned was edging. She understood that making me ejaculate took the wind out of my sails. Instead she took me to the brink and left me hanging and wanting more. At first she didn't get it and felt guilty about not letting me cum. It took a lot of effort on my part to convince her that is exactly what I wanted. So, guilt developed with both of us but talking about it openly was the fix we both needed. This led to more and more confessions and adjustments along with meeting Men more familiar with the lifestyle to bring us to our current status.
 
ME TOO!! It did not completely go away but I felt so awkward knowing I had told my wife I wanted a well hung black man to make love to her.

Buckets of cum to cuckold and BBC cuckold porn.

Short of the cuckold porn, and watersports porn, I've probably only spent more time trying to figure out how to make it go away. I'd give nearly anything to end my cuckold fetish. The shame I feel is mountainous.

Now, that shame isn't because of the act of my wife fucking other men. (This will always remain fantasy, so the fantasy of the act anyway) It is absolutely at the feeling of inadequacy at sexually satisfying my wife. I'm not small, and she cums during sex with me, when she wants sex which is less and less any more. I kinda feel like her lack of sex drive is what pushes this fetish forward and supplementally what creates the feeling of inadequacy.

Not good enough for her, she isn't into it, I fantasize about her fucking others because she isn't into sex, fuck her even though she doesn't want to have sex (not ******* people. She's willing just not horny. Wives here should get that) while fantasizing, feel bad, watch cuckold porn, feel worse.

Lots of shame, and though sexually released, not satisfied.

The mental aspect of cuckolding fucks me up so badly.

Yeah, give anything to get rid of it.
 
I both love and hate this fantasy. When ever I jack off to to the thought of my wife getting blacked, it turns me on like nothing else. I cum so hard thinking about it. But after I just feel so ashamed that I’m having theses thoughts and liking them.

Anybody feel the same way?
If I could choose, i'd probably prefer it didn't excite me. it'd be ideal if i could be maximally aroused just with my wife without wanting another person involved.

since i'm white and my wife is asian, i try to get into the mood where i'm the big white cock bull, and it's pretty good, but it's just not nearly as exciting as when the girl's with BBC.
 
No shame for me! The way I see it is that even if I didn’t like cuckolding I’d be into something else equally as “embarrassing”.

At the end of the day there are people out there who like having sex with animals, dead people, some dress up as women, others like to be degraded beyond belief, some even alter their bodies in the name of a kink so ultimately no one should feel ashamed for what they’re into, we’re all wired a different way, as long as it turns you on who cares what anyone else thinks?
 
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