Bottom line: It would be Amazing to Make my Fantasy a Reality, but a Friendship is a Great Fall Back
I’ve always thought there are 2 ways to realize my ultimate interracial cuckold fantasy about watching my cute, sexy, Catholic raised white wife get deeply pleasured by a better hung black guy.
Option 1, arrange a “chance” meeting when my wife and I are out for a date night or on a vacation with just the two of us. The advantages are she’s more relaxed, spontaneous, sexually interested and uninhibited when we are away from home, especially if she’s had an adult beverage or two. The challenges are that it’s a one shot deal, if that encounter is unsuccessful, whether mildly or wildly, there is no second chance. Also, with limited interaction in advance you are taking a leap of faith the other man is cool, decent, basically a good guy you would be comfortable hooking your wife up with. Just having a good body and big cock can’t be the sole criteria, at least not for us.
Option 2, introduce the person as a friend, either portraying them as someone who used to be a part of my life from a time many years ago when I lived in Southern California or slowly introduce him as someone I met recently while engaged in an activity he and I have in common. The risk is introducing someone, a relative stranger, into our lives who I don’t know much about and that can be potentially dangerous. But coming in as a friend also increases the time spent getting to know what kind of person they are, and seeing if there are potential red flags and how well we mesh.
Option 2, especially the latter part, started to appeal to me more for a couple logical and well intentioned reasons.
First, although I am a friendly and fairly outgoing guy, I haven’t put in effort to actually build friendships with guys who live around us. I have a great, core group of (college) friends who are friends for life and will always be there for me if needed, but they live down South and we see each other usually just once or twice a year.
I had work friends from a prior job but the ones I did the most with, one moved out of state, and the other out of the country. My brother in law is probably my best local friend but there are challenges to us getting together to do stuff. Another friend from college lives up here and we get together to watch games but he’s a home body whose wife dictates a lot of his social events.
I mentioned to my wife a few months back that I need to make some new friends I can actually do stuff with. Maybe it’s just me, but I have talked with some other guys about this and they agree, as men we typically keep more to ourselves rather than making an effort to reach out and connect. Maybe it’s entrenched gender stereotypes we are programmed to follow, where social outreach and connection fly in the face of tough “lone wolf” personas we think we should default to? Don’t know, but do know there are times I feel more disconnected to life and to other men, than I want. Makes me think of this famous quote, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
Ok, that deeper stuff aside. My wife a couple years back said she wished that all of us in our immediate family developed some more diverse friendships. It’s true, we live in a very non diverse area. My friends, neighbors and coworkers since coming to the Bay Area have been very much the same as us.
Wasn’t the case when I was in SoCal. I had black male friends starting in college. A black guy I worked with on campus was key to my political transformation. One of my best friends after college was a black guy I worked with. We hung out together all the time before I moved to go to grad school. Had a black roommate in grad school before switching programs, then shared an apartment with another black guy I met through work while I finished grad school. Then moved to the Bay Area for a job and it was like my life was cast for a Terry Gilliam movie.
Now this may seem totally off the hook but I don’t think so. It’s with the best of intentions. Yes I would love to watch my wife live out my fantasy, but even if that didn’t come to pass, if the downside is I just have a new friend to sometimes hang out and do stuff with? Sounds good to me. You may be looking at this warily but I’m not a shut in or desperate for friends. I’m generally a happy, fun person who sees the value of possibly making a new friend.
A lot of people see this kink as disgusting, not just because of the non vanilla nature of the dynamic, but because some see it as objectifying black men, just being used as a “stud service” for the wife, or a piece of meat etc. But I have always seen any guy I might be fortunate enough to hook up with my wife as a valued person, yes, more dominant with my wife than I am in the bedroom, yes, better hung than me and able to get her wildly off, but still a cool guy I’d like to be able to have a real conversation with.
My interests: cycling, fishing (I have a boat I take out in the bay), sports (NFL, fantasy football, baseball (Dodgers), NBA (Warriors), hiking, a lightly used gym membership, comedy (movies, stand up). Politics- big fan of: democracy even if my guy\gal loses, the constitution, rule of law, facts\science. Shouldn’t have to read tea leaves to figure out my politics.
Feel free to direct message me if this interests you and:
You are between 30 and 60
You are a non smoker
You don’t do ******* (occasional weed or alcohol is ok)
You are cool and chill and don’t expect that my wife is a lock to make my fantasy a reality (she’s not, read my prior posts to see where things stand)
You like having conversations about a lot of different things.
You hopefully have some common interests to what I have listed or you mention others when you reach out that I may like but forgot to include.
You are clean health wise.
Endowment between 7-10”
You don’t have any or certainly not many tattoos (my wife doesn’t like them)
You are not bi and are opposed, like me, to guy on guy contact.
This may be a total bust but you never know. Hopefully this makes sense to the right guy. Thanks.
I’ve always thought there are 2 ways to realize my ultimate interracial cuckold fantasy about watching my cute, sexy, Catholic raised white wife get deeply pleasured by a better hung black guy.
Option 1, arrange a “chance” meeting when my wife and I are out for a date night or on a vacation with just the two of us. The advantages are she’s more relaxed, spontaneous, sexually interested and uninhibited when we are away from home, especially if she’s had an adult beverage or two. The challenges are that it’s a one shot deal, if that encounter is unsuccessful, whether mildly or wildly, there is no second chance. Also, with limited interaction in advance you are taking a leap of faith the other man is cool, decent, basically a good guy you would be comfortable hooking your wife up with. Just having a good body and big cock can’t be the sole criteria, at least not for us.
Option 2, introduce the person as a friend, either portraying them as someone who used to be a part of my life from a time many years ago when I lived in Southern California or slowly introduce him as someone I met recently while engaged in an activity he and I have in common. The risk is introducing someone, a relative stranger, into our lives who I don’t know much about and that can be potentially dangerous. But coming in as a friend also increases the time spent getting to know what kind of person they are, and seeing if there are potential red flags and how well we mesh.
Option 2, especially the latter part, started to appeal to me more for a couple logical and well intentioned reasons.
First, although I am a friendly and fairly outgoing guy, I haven’t put in effort to actually build friendships with guys who live around us. I have a great, core group of (college) friends who are friends for life and will always be there for me if needed, but they live down South and we see each other usually just once or twice a year.
I had work friends from a prior job but the ones I did the most with, one moved out of state, and the other out of the country. My brother in law is probably my best local friend but there are challenges to us getting together to do stuff. Another friend from college lives up here and we get together to watch games but he’s a home body whose wife dictates a lot of his social events.
I mentioned to my wife a few months back that I need to make some new friends I can actually do stuff with. Maybe it’s just me, but I have talked with some other guys about this and they agree, as men we typically keep more to ourselves rather than making an effort to reach out and connect. Maybe it’s entrenched gender stereotypes we are programmed to follow, where social outreach and connection fly in the face of tough “lone wolf” personas we think we should default to? Don’t know, but do know there are times I feel more disconnected to life and to other men, than I want. Makes me think of this famous quote, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
Ok, that deeper stuff aside. My wife a couple years back said she wished that all of us in our immediate family developed some more diverse friendships. It’s true, we live in a very non diverse area. My friends, neighbors and coworkers since coming to the Bay Area have been very much the same as us.
Wasn’t the case when I was in SoCal. I had black male friends starting in college. A black guy I worked with on campus was key to my political transformation. One of my best friends after college was a black guy I worked with. We hung out together all the time before I moved to go to grad school. Had a black roommate in grad school before switching programs, then shared an apartment with another black guy I met through work while I finished grad school. Then moved to the Bay Area for a job and it was like my life was cast for a Terry Gilliam movie.
Now this may seem totally off the hook but I don’t think so. It’s with the best of intentions. Yes I would love to watch my wife live out my fantasy, but even if that didn’t come to pass, if the downside is I just have a new friend to sometimes hang out and do stuff with? Sounds good to me. You may be looking at this warily but I’m not a shut in or desperate for friends. I’m generally a happy, fun person who sees the value of possibly making a new friend.
A lot of people see this kink as disgusting, not just because of the non vanilla nature of the dynamic, but because some see it as objectifying black men, just being used as a “stud service” for the wife, or a piece of meat etc. But I have always seen any guy I might be fortunate enough to hook up with my wife as a valued person, yes, more dominant with my wife than I am in the bedroom, yes, better hung than me and able to get her wildly off, but still a cool guy I’d like to be able to have a real conversation with.
My interests: cycling, fishing (I have a boat I take out in the bay), sports (NFL, fantasy football, baseball (Dodgers), NBA (Warriors), hiking, a lightly used gym membership, comedy (movies, stand up). Politics- big fan of: democracy even if my guy\gal loses, the constitution, rule of law, facts\science. Shouldn’t have to read tea leaves to figure out my politics.
Feel free to direct message me if this interests you and:
You are between 30 and 60
You are a non smoker
You don’t do ******* (occasional weed or alcohol is ok)
You are cool and chill and don’t expect that my wife is a lock to make my fantasy a reality (she’s not, read my prior posts to see where things stand)
You like having conversations about a lot of different things.
You hopefully have some common interests to what I have listed or you mention others when you reach out that I may like but forgot to include.
You are clean health wise.
Endowment between 7-10”
You don’t have any or certainly not many tattoos (my wife doesn’t like them)
You are not bi and are opposed, like me, to guy on guy contact.
This may be a total bust but you never know. Hopefully this makes sense to the right guy. Thanks.
