Any Advice to Convince Wife?

hoburgh said:
Yup, I'm there too. I desperately want my wife to cuck me (with a BBC, of course) and have tried every possible way to convince her, and have (over time) come to understand that she's just simply never gonna do it. But as you said, it's up to her. It's her choice. That doesn't mean I'm not allowed to mourn the loss of that dream, from my end. I am, and I do. But not every dream comes true, and what I *do* get out of my wife and soulmate far outweighs the absence of this one particular thing that I *don't* get.
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yes very true
 
If your wife came to you (husband) and said I want to see a BBC fuck your ass, suggested you watch some gay porn and even bought a big black dildo, would that convince you to say yes?!!! Extreme example I know, but some people just aren’t into things. It’s already been mentioned a little, but move slowly. Begin to explore other sexual fantasies both of you talk about. Find local sex or kink clubs. Go, but discuss that there are no expectations to do anything. Just enjoy the sexual atmosphere. Nude beaches or lifestyle resorts. Pressure is a huge turnoff. As you both get more comfortable, these events will serve as discussion topics. She may not want to jump right into being fucked by an anonymous BBC, but maybe it starts w playing w just another guy (white guy, average guy, whatever). Alcohol can help in these situations, but in great moderation. Loosening inhibitions is the goal, but not getting so intoxicated you make a regretful decision. Also don’t put any pressure on her. That’s incredibly hard to do as a guy, but it’s an instant turnoff for her and will only set you back.
 
Naughtygators said:
If your wife came to you (husband) and said I want to see a BBC fuck your ass, suggested you watch some gay porn and even bought a big black dildo, would that convince you to say yes?!!! Extreme example I know, but some people just aren’t into things. It’s already been mentioned a little, but move slowly. Begin to explore other sexual fantasies both of you talk about. Find local sex or kink clubs. Go, but discuss that there are no expectations to do anything. Just enjoy the sexual atmosphere. Nude beaches or lifestyle resorts. Pressure is a huge turnoff. As you both get more comfortable, these events will serve as discussion topics. She may not want to jump right into being fucked by an anonymous BBC, but maybe it starts w playing w just another guy (white guy, average guy, whatever). Alcohol can help in these situations, but in great moderation. Loosening inhibitions is the goal, but not getting so intoxicated you make a regretful decision. Also don’t put any pressure on her. That’s incredibly hard to do as a guy, but it’s an instant turnoff for her and will only set you back.
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If my wife came to me and wanted me to be fucked by a big cock watch gay porn etc I would do for her as her happiness is the most important thing to me. I may not like it at first but would grow to like it. 5 or 10 years ago I doubt I would be so accepting but now would do it without much hesitation.
 
I just slowly let mine know. Like would say I would not mind if you ever wanted another guy. Then asked her to tell me about her exs when I would jack off when she was not in mood but would help out. Then bought her black dildos for gifts. Then would turn on porn. Then just said you would look hot fucking a big black cock. She was about it but is not the most confident so had to constantly tell her how hot she is. Then eventually she started being wild. If she says she is not interested then give her a few months then ask again or bring up during sex. I was like wish we had another cock here since I cum so fast. Lol! At end of day if they are not into it at all then you may want to thing about leaving or compromise somehow if your really obsessed with this happening. A bit extreme I know. You only got one life to live so have fun.
 
Kjh3131 said:
I recently opened up to my wife of 10 years about my interracial fantasy with her and black men. She’s told me in the past that she’s never been interested at all in black men which is why I kept it in so long. As you can imagine she was caught off guard. I told her all I really wanted was to have bbc dirty talk with her and possibly one day get a bbc dildo for her to tease me with and play with. About a month went by for her to think about it and she decided she still wanted nothing to do with it. It just makes her feel uncomfortable she says. I was very disappointed and I told her this as I thought she would at least do that because it was what made me happy. It seemed like a fair compromise to me. Should I just accept this fact and move on with life while I keep this fantasy to myself? Any advice is appreciated? Thank you
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I had the same results it is my fantasy not hers
 
I have been patient, subtle and softly persistent in my desires

Were to the point where she will play out fantasies. She even told me unsolicited that I need to buy her a black dildo to fuck her with. I overstepped and bought Bam, but she’s won’t use it. Though she hasn’t made me get rid of it. She told me I need to get her a smaller one but I have been putting it off. Next time I can get her whiskey *******, she’s getting fucked with it. I’ll have her using it on herself soon.

I advise patience, and soft persistence.
 
Kjh3131 said:
I recently opened up to my wife of 10 years about my interracial fantasy with her and black men. She’s told me in the past that she’s never been interested at all in black men which is why I kept it in so long. As you can imagine she was caught off guard. I told her all I really wanted was to have bbc dirty talk with her and possibly one day get a bbc dildo for her to tease me with and play with. About a month went by for her to think about it and she decided she still wanted nothing to do with it. It just makes her feel uncomfortable she says. I was very disappointed and I told her this as I thought she would at least do that because it was what made me happy. It seemed like a fair compromise to me. Should I just accept this fact and move on with life while I keep this fantasy to myself? Any advice is appreciated? Thank you
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Show her some BBC porn
 
With my wife, I didn’t go to black cock right away. I just wanted her to get fucked. It started with a white guy she worked with. Once she knew that I wanted her to get fucked, she started mentioning things to me about this guy at work. I kept encouraging her to test the waters and see what happened. She saw how hard it made me when we talked about it and it led to some great sex. She opened up more and started flirting with him more. Then one day she called me from work and said he asked her to come to his place and help him work on a resume. We both knew what he wanted. She asked if I was ok if she went. I encouraged her to go. The last thing I said to her was “Fuck him good baby”. She came home a few hours later, stripped, and sank her sloppy pussy down on my dick. She fucked him a few more times before I moved her on to black cock. It didn’t take long as her confidence grew. It was well worth the wait and effort. If your wife doesn’t respond to the whole thing, take what you can get and let it grow on its own.
 
Kjh3131 said:
I recently opened up to my wife of 10 years about my interracial fantasy with her and black men. She’s told me in the past that she’s never been interested at all in black men which is why I kept it in so long. As you can imagine she was caught off guard. I told her all I really wanted was to have bbc dirty talk with her and possibly one day get a bbc dildo for her to tease me with and play with. About a month went by for her to think about it and she decided she still wanted nothing to do with it. It just makes her feel uncomfortable she says. I was very disappointed and I told her this as I thought she would at least do that because it was what made me happy. It seemed like a fair compromise to me. Should I just accept this fact and move on with life while I keep this fantasy to myself? Any advice is appreciated? Thank you
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I say keep trying buy the toys encourage her take her out on vacation. Everyone is entitled to be happy I truly think there's nothing more beautiful than a woman taking real good care of a big black cock. There really is beauty in the idea it really is the best thing to be addicted to
 
Bigjohn60 said:
With my wife, I didn’t go to black cock right away. I just wanted her to get fucked. It started with a white guy she worked with. Once she knew that I wanted her to get fucked, she started mentioning things to me about this guy at work. I kept encouraging her to test the waters and see what happened. She saw how hard it made me when we talked about it and it led to some great sex. She opened up more and started flirting with him more. Then one day she called me from work and said he asked her to come to his place and help him work on a resume. We both knew what he wanted. She asked if I was ok if she went. I encouraged her to go. The last thing I said to her was “Fuck him good baby”. She came home a few hours later, stripped, and sank her sloppy pussy down on my dick. She fucked him a few more times before I moved her on to black cock. It didn’t take long as her confidence grew. It was well worth the wait and effort. If your wife doesn’t respond to the whole thing, take what you can get and let it grow on its own.
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That's amazing it's just unfortunate it wasn't a black cock first I made it clear that I only want her with big black cock. I'm waiting for the day to make it happen I truly will be the happiest man in the world.
 
Words of wisdom from BigJohn. But if she’s not going for it you may have resign yourself to not being able to fulfill this fantasy. I think about what I would’ve done if my wife rejected fucking other men and had no interest in going black. If I had laid it all out there and she still said no, I would stop coming to this site and do my best to not even entertain the idea any longer. Hard as that sounds. It would be too frustrating jerking off all the time fantasizing about her with a black lover knowing it would likely never happen. That would only serve to make me keep trying to push her into doing it. That could eventually cause big problems in your marriage. Unless this thing is really in your bones and you won’t be at peace or happy if she never does it. Then maybe it is time to consider moving on. But be forewarned, you might end up leaving a good woman for something you never achieve. It’s hard enough to find a woman who you can make a life with and if you do, you’re right back in the sane place. There’s no guarantee that any woman you have a relationship with is going to be into this lifestyle. I’ve heard of guys advertising for a cuckold relationship online where it’s understood from the beginning that the woman will live the life but it just seems unrealistic to me. You really have to just get lucky to be honest.
 
Kjh3131 said:
I recently opened up to my wife of 10 years about my interracial fantasy with her and black men. She’s told me in the past that she’s never been interested at all in black men which is why I kept it in so long. As you can imagine she was caught off guard. I told her all I really wanted was to have bbc dirty talk with her and possibly one day get a bbc dildo for her to tease me with and play with. About a month went by for her to think about it and she decided she still wanted nothing to do with it. It just makes her feel uncomfortable she says. I was very disappointed and I told her this as I thought she would at least do that because it was what made me happy. It seemed like a fair compromise to me. Should I just accept this fact and move on with life while I keep this fantasy to myself? Any advice is appreciated? Thank you
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My wife wasn't into black cock at all at first . She knew I liked watching it she found it on my phone one day . I never said anything to push it on at first just kept it to myself. One day I was like can we get a black dildo I was like you can see the colour better when you cum it shows up more . She said no don't like black cocks . I was like ok . I didn't push it at all . This was in 2017 time . Time went on lockdown came in 2020 i thought fuck it I'm gonna tell her I've orded a black dildo (at the time I didn't just wanted to see what she would say) she said oh have you I said yeah she said whatever floats your boat . So I thought OK she seems cool so I orded it and when it came she was eager to use it which I was shocked about . Time went on we used it a few times nothing else really happend until one day I thought fuck this I have to tell her my fantasy cos I can't hold it in anymore so I sent her some GIFS to her what's app she looked over at me like wtf is this why you sending me these for ? There disgusting I was like fuck . So I told her why I did it and she was like you really want to see me fuck a black guy I was like yeah it would turn me on it wobbled her head for a few hours . She came in thst night cuddled up to me and said show me what you watch then and I said I thought your not interested and she well I don't know until I try do I. We have an amazing relationship we are strong always had good communication . So I showed her IR porn . From then on it's changed everything. I think it's Time & patience and IR porn is the icebreaker . We haven't done it for real yet but we both agreed we would like to one day . My fantasy is now hers I can't believe it would ever happen . She always tell me when we fuck how she wants to suck my dick why she's got a black cock in her from the back and she wants to be full up with cum . Honestly she was against it so much and the IR porn changed it all I think . The dildo is good idea but to really see in a different way is watch it . My wife loves us watching threesomes with white guy and black guy that's what her fantasy is now . It's amazing we can share it together. I know some women will think you don't love them and you don't care about them but you have to re assure you love them and it's just abit of fun and it's sex .. threesome is most popular fantasy thiers nothing wrong with it . We role play it likes it's normal now ! Good luck
 
P.s my wife loves it because it turns me on and she loves the taboo of it and skin contrast. Knowing its something you shouldn't be doing when your married it makes it hot . At first I think she thought I was testing her and when she found I wasn't she opened up alot more .
 
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