After 3 years, It finally happened and we are both confused

I appreciate the response. I was actually casually talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. Expectations were all there, he didnt make me uneasy. As far as the rules are concerned, I completed forgot about them thinking its just what we both wanted and Ive been real skiddish with these men because i usualy find so many flaws in them that bother me enough to make me pass. I cannot exaggerate how anti social I usually am and trust me when I say I have been patient (3 years being picky). I was calm, cool and collected and he just fell very short of expectations. I tried to comminicate but he was so into it he kind of didnt listen. He lasted about 3 minutes and we went again and I gave him a pass bc maybe it was just missionary, doggystyle wasnt any better and I literally had to fake moan. He had no clue i didnt like it as he messaged me about an hour later bragging about how his dick calmed me down. Fact is, after crying to my husband, he had to take care of me.. tsk
Make a connection before you meet . Men are visual and women are more different you have to set the mood .
 
Unfortunately some times things don’t seem to work out the way you expect.. A couple of years back I meet up with a black guy that ended in a hotel room and I can say when we started he almost choked me when I sucked his cock grabbing my head and shoving me on his cock, we had sex he was so rough held me around the throat I couldn’t breath and he bit my tit and nipple and made that ******* I told him to get off and go to that he became all aggressive and verbally abused me... so went into the bathroom and locked it and rang hotel reception and asked them to help ... he left thank goodness... I was that worried I left that hotel and booked another room in a different hotel.... a memorable date for all the wrong reasons... always cautious when meeting guys ...

What a fucking tool that guy was... glad that everything ended well.
 
What a fucking tool that guy was... glad that everything ended well.

About 5 years ago, there was a thread here about when it went wrong. A woman told a story of her, the husband and the bull at a hotel room. Something went seriously wrong. The police were called, and they figured it out.

It was not easy to read. So, everybody, who's had a negative experience, can be glad that this didn't happen to them! :)
 
So we have been into this lifestyle for awhile now and never pulled the trigger as both of us are mostly introverted and dont go out much. I (the wife) spontaneously used a empty house my husband and I own to invite over a college football coach over for a little fun. My husband and I have rules that we follow but I completely disregarded them as I was trying to turn him on with it. With that said, the sex was terrible. The guy had a decent cock. (8") or so but I couldnt get into it. I could barely feel him and he was only into missionary.. I dont know how to continue to want to try this because it was so bad. Ive been with one man since I was 16 and I dont understand how that happens.. I guess my question is, has anyone else here, experienced this? My husband was really pissed off because some of the rules we agreed to didnt happen (safety and agreement) and to top it off, it wasnt good. I feel like a need a little council to help me get past this.
Be Front as fuck with your expectations. I prefer a partner who can play hard. Ive been disappointed someone who was toooo tender and nice, since then, I lay down what I'm looking for exactly, ask about experinces With that activity and how they feel about it, THEN if they pass nun physical vetting, the link ensues.
People hate to have their time wasted, don't be afraid to state exactly what you'd like
Provide porn for examples:p
 
HI,
First, lots of great advice here. Understand your situation and predicament totally.

I had a guy who appeared to be everything I wanted - 9" cock, friendly, funny, polite, etc. However, once we got down to it, his demeanor totally changed! He turned into a dominating, unskilled, uncaring dolt! These things happen.

From your description, I would suggest that he had issues. First, is he married? If so, guilt may have been playing a huge part in his inability to perform. Second, he may have been concerned about the ramifications. What if he was discovered having you? Would his job as a coach be in danger? Lots of people associated with schools are getting into trouble these days and it may have been bothering you.

You seem to be suffering from some guilt as well in that you broke your agreements with your husband. Happens and is natural.

A suggestion may be to apologize to him, promise to follow the rules and offer to do something special for him to help make it up. Then I would have your husband establish the next encounter and you accept it. Kind of a way to make amends and get you both back on track so to speak.

These are just suggestions of course. You know your situation and more importantly, your husband better than anyone else. But the universal approach is to apologize and promise to follow the rules from now on.

Best of luck and please, keep us advised.

Donna
You are so cool....a keen witness FOR the prosecution...execution by

BLACK. BLACK....AGain...again bigger....Harder. LONGER FUCKED to death
 
So we have been into this lifestyle for awhile now and never pulled the trigger as both of us are mostly introverted and dont go out much. I (the wife) spontaneously used a empty house my husband and I own to invite over a college football coach over for a little fun. My husband and I have rules that we follow but I completely disregarded them as I was trying to turn him on with it. With that said, the sex was terrible. The guy had a decent cock. (8") or so but I couldnt get into it. I could barely feel him and he was only into missionary.. I dont know how to continue to want to try this because it was so bad. Ive been with one man since I was 16 and I dont understand how that happens.. I guess my question is, has anyone else here, experienced this? My husband was really pissed off because some of the rules we agreed to didnt happen (safety and agreement) and to top it off, it wasnt good. I feel like a need a little council to help me get past this.
Haven’t you heard, most people think ? and say, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence....

Truth of the matter is, why don’t you water ? n take care of your own lawn, it will be nice ? and green just like your neighbor as well.

heard a story about a couple who were on a date at a restaurant. The two were finished eating so the man asked for the waiter to bring him a to-go box. This was a nicer place, so the waiter took the food back and boxed it for him. He put the box of food in a paper bag and rushed out to give it to the man.

On the way home, the woman happened to peek in the bag and gasped. Instead of a to-go box, she counted nearly $2,000 in cash! Apparently, the manager had a bag of petty cash sitting around, and the waiter, in a rush, accidentally grabbed it instead of the to-go box.

So the two turned around and headed straight back to the restaurant. When the man ran in and gave the money back, the ecstatic manager told him, “I’m going to call the newspaper and let them know you’re the most honest man in town!”

The man looked at the manager and said, “No, no, no. You see, I’m married… and the woman I’m with isn’t my wife.”

Sometimes, what people seem to be on the outside isn’t who they are on the inside. In fact, to find someone who is honest through-and-through is a rarity these days. So in a world full of people who are consistently inconsistent with their morals and values, be the exception!

Bottom line, be happy ? n content with your husband/ wife at home, and no need to look for a lover. Once you start this lifestyle, you won’t stop ? n it becomes an obsession n addiction.

REPRESENT CHRIST WELL BY BEING CONSISTENT IN YOUR VALUES, WHATEVER THE CIRCUMSTANCE.
 
So we have been into this lifestyle for awhile now and never pulled the trigger as both of us are mostly introverted and dont go out much. I (the wife) spontaneously used a empty house my husband and I own to invite over a college football coach over for a little fun. My husband and I have rules that we follow but I completely disregarded them as I was trying to turn him on with it. With that said, the sex was terrible. The guy had a decent cock. (8") or so but I couldnt get into it. I could barely feel him and he was only into missionary.. I dont know how to continue to want to try this because it was so bad. Ive been with one man since I was 16 and I dont understand how that happens.. I guess my question is, has anyone else here, experienced this? My husband was really pissed off because some of the rules we agreed to didnt happen (safety and agreement) and to top it off, it wasnt good. I feel like a need a little council to help me get past this.
You need a guy you can feel more comfy with. Like maybe a really good fwb!
 
Unfortunately some times things don’t seem to work out the way you expect.. A couple of years back I meet up with a black guy that ended in a hotel room and I can say when we started he almost choked me when I sucked his cock grabbing my head and shoving me on his cock, we had sex he was so rough held me around the throat I couldn’t breath and he bit my tit and nipple and made that ******* I told him to get off and go to that he became all aggressive and verbally abused me... so went into the bathroom and locked it and rang hotel reception and asked them to help ... he left thank goodness... I was that worried I left that hotel and booked another room in a different hotel.... a memorable date for all the wrong reasons... always cautious when meeting guys ...
What a pig you had!
 
So we have been into this lifestyle for awhile now and never pulled the trigger as both of us are mostly introverted and dont go out much. I (the wife) spontaneously used a empty house my husband and I own to invite over a college football coach over for a little fun. My husband and I have rules that we follow but I completely disregarded them as I was trying to turn him on with it. With that said, the sex was terrible. The guy had a decent cock. (8") or so but I couldnt get into it. I could barely feel him and he was only into missionary.. I dont know how to continue to want to try this because it was so bad. Ive been with one man since I was 16 and I dont understand how that happens.. I guess my question is, has anyone else here, experienced this? My husband was really pissed off because some of the rules we agreed to didnt happen (safety and agreement) and to top it off, it wasnt good. I feel like a need a little council to help me get past this.
Not all bbc is gonna be earth shattering, just have to keep trying.
 
I appreciate the response. I was actually casually talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. Expectations were all there, he didnt make me uneasy. As far as the rules are concerned, I completed forgot about them thinking its just what we both wanted and Ive been real skiddish with these men because i usualy find so many flaws in them that bother me enough to make me pass. I cannot exaggerate how anti social I usually am and trust me when I say I have been patient (3 years being picky). I was calm, cool and collected and he just fell very short of expectations. I tried to comminicate but he was so into it he kind of didnt listen. He lasted about 3 minutes and we went again and I gave him a pass bc maybe it was just missionary, doggystyle wasnt any better and I literally had to fake moan. He had no clue i didnt like it as he messaged me about an hour later bragging about how his dick calmed me down. Fact is, after crying to my husband, he had to take care of me.. tsk
:unsure: Just to be clear, the only other man you've been with was your husband?
And your husband is bigger than 8 ?
 
Unfortunately some times things don’t seem to work out the way you expect.. A couple of years back I meet up with a black guy that ended in a hotel room and I can say when we started he almost choked me when I sucked his cock grabbing my head and shoving me on his cock, we had sex he was so rough held me around the throat I couldn’t breath and he bit my tit and nipple and made that ******* I told him to get off and go to that he became all aggressive and verbally abused me... so went into the bathroom and locked it and rang hotel reception and asked them to help ... he left thank goodness... I was that worried I left that hotel and booked another room in a different hotel.... a memorable date for all the wrong reasons... always cautious when meeting guys ...
That's terrible...I am sorry.
 
HI,
First, lots of great advice here. Understand your situation and predicament totally.

I had a guy who appeared to be everything I wanted - 9" cock, friendly, funny, polite, etc. However, once we got down to it, his demeanor totally changed! He turned into a dominating, unskilled, uncaring dolt! These things happen.

From your description, I would suggest that he had issues. First, is he married? If so, guilt may have been playing a huge part in his inability to perform. Second, he may have been concerned about the ramifications. What if he was discovered having you? Would his job as a coach be in danger? Lots of people associated with schools are getting into trouble these days and it may have been bothering you.

You seem to be suffering from some guilt as well in that you broke your agreements with your husband. Happens and is natural.

A suggestion may be to apologize to him, promise to follow the rules and offer to do something special for him to help make it up. Then I would have your husband establish the next encounter and you accept it. Kind of a way to make amends and get you both back on track so to speak.

These are just suggestions of course. You know your situation and more importantly, your husband better than anyone else. But the universal approach is to apologize and promise to follow the rules from now on.

Best of luck and please, keep us advised.

Donna
Yeah, what she said...
 
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