Next weekend we are going to have our second session with her guy. The first time I came too soon due to the excitement of it all, then I got bored and stopped them after a few hours and they were not ready to stop. I don't want to screw up the experience for her this time. Any recommendations on how to control myself?
Advice on how hold back cumming.
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cancuck165
Male
Maybe you can jerk off beforehand? That might take the pleasure out of watching them though. But maybe jerking off a couple hours before will give you enough time to recharge but you'll still have a harder time cumming?
I spent the majority of my teens and early 20s doing the "stop and go" method for jerking. Jerking until you're just about to hit the point of no return but then stop, and let yourself cool off. Then repeat. It take a lot of motivation not to just cum but it helps build up your stamina.
You probably don't have a cock cage either? maybe they can tie your hands or something so you can't jerk off while you watch? Either way, good luck! Keep us posted.
I spent the majority of my teens and early 20s doing the "stop and go" method for jerking. Jerking until you're just about to hit the point of no return but then stop, and let yourself cool off. Then repeat. It take a lot of motivation not to just cum but it helps build up your stamina.
You probably don't have a cock cage either? maybe they can tie your hands or something so you can't jerk off while you watch? Either way, good luck! Keep us posted.
Better let her play on her own. If you can't handle it to see her in that position, better not watch. jm2ct's
terryeaton
Male
I last around 30-40 min. I got this way using a technique callled “peaking” google it, it works.
He goes for hours so 30-40 minutes doesn't help. I can do that already.
terryeaton
Male
wait... u wanna last MORE than 35 min?! No way lol... that’s terrible no woman wants that. And after a while, it becomes medically dangerous and u can INJURE ur cock!!
RE: Advice on how hold back cumming
8 Ways to Stop an Orgasm From Happening Too Fast During Sex (menshealth.com)Allshawn,
Its a pretty good article; why not try a few of these?
When you're watching and feel yourself ready to cum, take your thumb & index or middle finger and firmly squeeze your cock at the base for about 15-20 seconds. That'll give you another 2-3 minutes, usually.
Beautyandheat
Couple
Yes. I can also say this works
hw mass cpl
Couple
Try not to think about an upcoming meeting ahead of time, it will get you over-arroused.
When they are starting a session don’t touch yourself and if possible tend to their needs.
What everyone said ....Also, certain positions may make you come fast, depending on what does it for you. Try switch quickly from the ones that make you go bust quick lol.
For me, on reverse cowgirl, I can be ridden till the lady is tired, while I enjoy the view and slap her hot, after that I would've overcome the point of no return and can go on for a while until she wants me to go bust
Stop and go helps you recognise when you're reaching your point of no return, that's where you can pull out or switch positions or please her while you cool down.
Don't overthink it though... Have fun!
For me, on reverse cowgirl, I can be ridden till the lady is tired, while I enjoy the view and slap her hot, after that I would've overcome the point of no return and can go on for a while until she wants me to go bust
Stop and go helps you recognise when you're reaching your point of no return, that's where you can pull out or switch positions or please her while you cool down.
Don't overthink it though... Have fun!
This is very hard to explain... In my 20's, I used to explode 1 time in first 10 minutes for sure but I dunno if it's with experience now, last 3 white sluts I banged, I didn't explode within first 30 minutes... She told me, I cum 3 times, its your turn and I only cum into her mouth bc she was asking for that 
This one is hard to explain for sure as everybody is different... But in my 20's, I def cum way easier.
This one is hard to explain for sure as everybody is different... But in my 20's, I def cum way easier.
best thing is get a chastity cage and not unlock tell they are done. but you might cum in your cage
plezrnpain
Couple
Age does have it's benefits. When I was young, I could go 4 loads easy, but the first two, I'd be lucky if I could hold out more than 10 minutes. Now in my 60's, I can only get hard for 2, maybe 3 times with help of a pill, but I can go 30-45 minutes easy. As I am mostly Dom, it's actually kind of fun challenging the wife or one of our playmates to get their reward out of me as I ridicule them for taking so long to get me off.
Ya, here's best advice. STOP!!, if you dont have the same passion after you spluge then your doing that thing they call making your little head think for your big head. Not good. Id pack it up and jump to another fantasy that just involves you two.
Cuthach
Couple
Get a cage. You might discover new and better ways to pleasure your wife.
I think many men have a misconception that sex is determined by their orgasm, because it usually ends when he cums.
Some may see a cage as an act of submission. In some ways it is, but it does not have to be to the wife's current lover.
A cage is a deterrent from you jerking off. The less you can do that the more it may turn you on.
Look at it like your wife is helping you. Many couples that use a cage the wife holds the key. Hopefully you both agree not to unlock the cage until she has finished with her lover
You may find that touching, caressing, and kissing her is a better experience for the both of you.
Men are visual and get aroused by what they see. Ignore your dick and focus on your wife's pleasure. Watching your wife have an orgasm maybe what turns you on the most.
I think many men have a misconception that sex is determined by their orgasm, because it usually ends when he cums.
Some may see a cage as an act of submission. In some ways it is, but it does not have to be to the wife's current lover.
A cage is a deterrent from you jerking off. The less you can do that the more it may turn you on.
Look at it like your wife is helping you. Many couples that use a cage the wife holds the key. Hopefully you both agree not to unlock the cage until she has finished with her lover
You may find that touching, caressing, and kissing her is a better experience for the both of you.
Men are visual and get aroused by what they see. Ignore your dick and focus on your wife's pleasure. Watching your wife have an orgasm maybe what turns you on the most.
Cumming first is definitely a mistake. It leads to all sorts of emotions.
the best way we have solved this is to film their sex.
preferably without you being there.
this way, it’s like watching porn but with your wife as the star. You aren’t quite sure what will happen next and you can fast forward / rewind etc.
You can then achieve many orgasms on many different occasions just by watching the film back.
the first time we did this - I came watching her giving him a blowjob.
It was so intense.
if I had been there in person it might have been awkward.
But now I have a long video and I can safely choose to climax at any part of it.
the best way we have solved this is to film their sex.
preferably without you being there.
this way, it’s like watching porn but with your wife as the star. You aren’t quite sure what will happen next and you can fast forward / rewind etc.
You can then achieve many orgasms on many different occasions just by watching the film back.
the first time we did this - I came watching her giving him a blowjob.
It was so intense.
if I had been there in person it might have been awkward.
But now I have a long video and I can safely choose to climax at any part of it.
I try my best to avoid cumming to quickly while my wife and her bull fuck.
I will get myself off after I clean her up. If I wait until after cleaning their hot mess she will tell me “your turn” and they will watch me as I jerk off.
Other times I watch and I am the first to blow my load when she makes eye contact with me.
She will smile as I hold my penis in my cum filled hand. She will say, “See ya later,” which is a hint to leave them alone.
I will get myself off after I clean her up. If I wait until after cleaning their hot mess she will tell me “your turn” and they will watch me as I jerk off.
Other times I watch and I am the first to blow my load when she makes eye contact with me.
She will smile as I hold my penis in my cum filled hand. She will say, “See ya later,” which is a hint to leave them alone.
TucsonWife4Men
Couple
Easy, they must be left to play 1-1 in complete privacy. His place? Hotel? You should not be present at all.
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