Advice for next time?

[Tmallory1976]

We went to Collette’s lifestyle club in Dallas last Wednesday for newbie night. The parking lot looked decently filled, but there were only maybe about 50 or so people we saw inside. We sat on a couch in the main area checking out everything while drinking. Being our first time, we just wanted to chill and let whatever happen happen. However, no one came up to us until the end of the night to talk and that was just to see if we’d be there again on Saturday, which we were not going to be since we were visiting. There were about 7 or so single guys constantly walking around, but none were her type so she didn’t make eye contact or give them any signals to come talk. However, there were a handful of tall black men that she definitely looked at more then once, but they were all part of couples. She has told me before she has previous black girlfriends who don’t like black men dating white/Latina girls, so she didn’t want to approach the couples. She told me that she really wanted one of those guys to come up to her though.

So, we left the club and had great sex at our hotel, but we still haven’t experienced the lifestyle yet. She isn’t real into the planned meet ups at this point because she feels like it’s too mechanical and fake to her. She has this fantasy of meeting someone at a club like Collette’s or a real bar and having things progress from there.

Any advice on how to proceed?

 

[Tmallory1976]

Anyone?

 

[kwan870]

Where are you guys from

 

[425oldsmar]

Hotel bar see someone she likes invite for a ******* etc....
If things go well her hand on his cock he'll get the message that should do it.

 

[Jdingo619]

We went to Collette’s lifestyle club in Dallas last Wednesday for newbie night. The parking lot looked decently filled, but there were only maybe about 50 or so people we saw inside. We sat on a couch in the main area checking out everything while drinking. Being our first time, we just wanted to chill and let whatever happen happen. However, no one came up to us until the end of the night to talk and that was just to see if we’d be there again on Saturday, which we were not going to be since we were visiting. There were about 7 or so single guys constantly walking around, but none were her type so she didn’t make eye contact or give them any signals to come talk. However, there were a handful of tall black men that she definitely looked at more then once, but they were all part of couples. She has told me before she has previous black girlfriends who don’t like black men dating white/Latina girls, so she didn’t want to approach the couples. She told me that she really wanted one of those guys to come up to her though.

So, we left the club and had great sex at our hotel, but we still haven’t experienced the lifestyle yet. She isn’t real into the planned meet ups at this point because she feels like it’s too mechanical and fake to her. She has this fantasy of meeting someone at a club like Collette’s or a real bar and having things progress from there.

Any advice on how to proceed?

Swing club regulars are very cliquish! When a woman brings her BBC to the club she is not really looking to share with another woman unless she has a good partner to share with her in exchange! Some of the couple's you will see at the swing club are not the married couple but the Bull and the hotwife.

She was right not to approach because if it's a black guy in the couple the woman isn't interested in sharing only making an equal or acceptable trade! Some women will "take one for the team" but most will not if your man is not attractive to her or the wrong flavor! In the lifestyle the women with black men are not bothered about race they are bothered about you wanting to have what's theirs and not providing something of equal attraction in exchange.

You can go and meet men I a bar or a club but just know that 9 out of ten of them will not be actual lifestyle Bulls. Those guys might not be into a man in the room while he's naked and watching him have sex. Being a real Bull is not just about fucking another man's hotwife but having the lifestyle mindset to do all that you can to help that couple fulfill their fantasies! Random guys don't give a ******* about fantasies they just want to get laid!

At the swing club you guys are just going to have to make the effort and introduce yourselves and try to play with the couple that you guys find attractive. Now someone may have to take one for the team meaning you may have to play with someone's partner that you aren't really attracted to or you may just be the unattractive person that the woman of the couple doesn't want to play with so hopefully the woman wants to take one for the team.

The best way to find actual bulls is on a swinger site but you guys obviously need to have that first time experience first from meeting someone in the bar.