Wife training

[erotic_trial]

I'm not really sure were to begin ....

Basically my wife's libido is low (health reasons) and she would like to improve it. She has been suggesting for some time that I condition her to increase her arousal but not a lot of things get her excited. We watch porn together and over the years her genre preference narrowed down to high quality blacked.com production material, some of the user content that came from here that i found and shared with her, but you get it, it's mostly bbc porn that we watch.

I tried a few things in order to get her hot and sexy without porn through our relationship (even before bbc became her go-to porn genre) but without any porn it's tends to be hard work for both of us. Last time before we started our imtimate session I suggested that I could condition her to bbc since it's her favorite porn genre anyway and to my very horny surprise she agreed to it, if we do it slowly. I asked her right away if she has doubts or concerns and she pointed out that it could become the only thing that turns her on, which she finds exciting. I even asked her the day after if she's still ok with the it and she confirmed.

I have some BDSM experiences as Dom with my ex-girlfriends but nothing like this. Because I'm not 100% certain how to approach this "training", I came here trying to find some tips and maybe advice and compare them with what I had in mind. I created a couples account in case she wants to engage with this community.

 

[Blackmilkydick]

I'm not really sure were to begin ....

Basically my wife's libido is low (health reasons) and she would like to improve it. She has been suggesting for some time that I condition her to increase her arousal but not a lot of things get her excited. We watch porn together and over the years her genre preference narrowed down to high quality blacked.com production material, some of the user content that came from here that i found and shared with her, but you get it, it's mostly bbc porn that we watch.

I tried a few things in order to get her hot and sexy without porn through our relationship (even before bbc became her go-to porn genre) but without any porn it's tends to be hard work for both of us. Last time before we started our imtimate session I suggested that I could condition her to bbc since it's her favorite porn genre anyway and to my very horny surprise she agreed to it, if we do it slowly. I asked her right away if she has doubts or concerns and she pointed out that it could become the only thing that turns her on, which she finds exciting. I even asked her the day after if she's still ok with the it and she confirmed.

I have some BDSM experiences as Dom with my ex-girlfriends but nothing like this. Because I'm not 100% certain how to approach this "training", I came here trying to find some tips and maybe advice and compare them with what I had in mind. I created a couples account in case she wants to engage with this community.

Pm me

 

[BGMcDaddy10BBC]

I'm not really sure were to begin ....

Basically my wife's libido is low (health reasons) and she would like to improve it. She has been suggesting for some time that I condition her to increase her arousal but not a lot of things get her excited. We watch porn together and over the years her genre preference narrowed down to high quality blacked.com production material, some of the user content that came from here that i found and shared with her, but you get it, it's mostly bbc porn that we watch.

I tried a few things in order to get her hot and sexy without porn through our relationship (even before bbc became her go-to porn genre) but without any porn it's tends to be hard work for both of us. Last time before we started our imtimate session I suggested that I could condition her to bbc since it's her favorite porn genre anyway and to my very horny surprise she agreed to it, if we do it slowly. I asked her right away if she has doubts or concerns and she pointed out that it could become the only thing that turns her on, which she finds exciting. I even asked her the day after if she's still ok with the it and she confirmed.

I have some BDSM experiences as Dom with my ex-girlfriends but nothing like this. Because I'm not 100% certain how to approach this "training", I came here trying to find some tips and maybe advice and compare them with what I had in mind. I created a couples account in case she wants to engage with this community.

She needs to be fu c ked by a friends with a great BBC Bull like Me. Fuck your Wife while you are kissing on Her Lips and holding her Hands?

 

[BGMcDaddy10BBC]

She needs to be fucked by a friends with a great BBC Bull like Me. And Yes I can Fuck your Wife, especially while You are kissing on Her Lips and holding her Hands so she can let her imagination go wild..?

 

[hungteacher]

I'm not really sure were to begin ....

Basically my wife's libido is low (health reasons) and she would like to improve it. She has been suggesting for some time that I condition her to increase her arousal but not a lot of things get her excited. We watch porn together and over the years her genre preference narrowed down to high quality blacked.com production material, some of the user content that came from here that i found and shared with her, but you get it, it's mostly bbc porn that we watch.

I tried a few things in order to get her hot and sexy without porn through our relationship (even before bbc became her go-to porn genre) but without any porn it's tends to be hard work for both of us. Last time before we started our imtimate session I suggested that I could condition her to bbc since it's her favorite porn genre anyway and to my very horny surprise she agreed to it, if we do it slowly. I asked her right away if she has doubts or concerns and she pointed out that it could become the only thing that turns her on, which she finds exciting. I even asked her the day after if she's still ok with the it and she confirmed.

I have some BDSM experiences as Dom with my ex-girlfriends but nothing like this. Because I'm not 100% certain how to approach this "training", I came here trying to find some tips and maybe advice and compare them with what I had in mind. I created a couples account in case she wants to engage with this community.

This seems like a legit post and question

so here's my 2 cents.

Since you have some previous D/s experience - what you want to do is not "focus" on the type of porn - but you need to understand why she is "excited" If you can answer that question - then you can start to do some mental training with her. Because ultimately the issue is psychological. For some reason - that porn is igniting the synapses in her brain.

Once you know "why" she is excited - you can condition her to get aroused by anything. It could be BBC, it just just be big cocks - or you could have a trigger word that just gets her excited before you guys have sex.

hope that helps.

 

[erotic_trial]

This seems like a legit post and question

so here's my 2 cents.

Since you have some previous D/s experience - what you want to do is not "focus" on the type of porn - but you need to understand why she is "excited" If you can answer that question - then you can start to do some mental training with her. Because ultimately the issue is psychological. For some reason - that porn is igniting the synapses in her brain.

Once you know "why" she is excited - you can condition her to get aroused by anything. It could be BBC, it just just be big cocks - or you could have a trigger word that just gets her excited before you guys have sex.

hope that helps.

I think to know what she likes since we talked about, and every time I asked I get the same response, but I wouldn't know for sure why ... that's a tough nut to crack

 

[hungteacher]

I think to know what she likes since we talked about, and every time I asked I get the same response, but I wouldn't know for sure why ... that's a tough nut to crack

Can you share her "exact words?"

What does she say when you ask the question??

 

[erotic_trial]

Can you share her "exact words?"

What does she say when you ask the question??

Apart from "you already asked me this before" it's "I like how they scream" and by "they" she means the girls. She likes how they enjoy themselves, the wet sounds, but most importantly, the sounds they make when they are really turned on. She mostly watches based on female actors that look good, a few she likes are Dani Daniels, Skylar Vox (the "slim" version), Lena Paul but also Amber Blank. The general rule when watching is: If there's no sound, it's not watched at all. The guys should be at the very least well maintained but ideally athletic, strong and tall. She pointed out once that Jax Slayher was "decent looking"

 

[hungteacher]

Apart from "you already asked me this before" it's "I like how they scream" and by "they" she means the girls. She likes how they enjoy themselves, the wet sounds, but most importantly, the sounds they make when they are really turned on. She mostly watches based on female actors that look good, a few she likes are Dani Daniels, Skylar Vox (the "slim" version), Lena Paul but also Amber Blank. The general rule when watching is: If there's no sound, it's not watched at all. The guys should be at the very least well maintained but ideally athletic, strong and tall. She pointed out once that Jax Slayher was "decent looking"

ty for the reply.

Please dont take this the wrong way, but you're going about this all wrong then, based on what she is telling you.
So here's what I suggest you do.

You need to search for ASMR audio - of sensual sounds and women orgasming. And you need to blindfold your wife and let her listen to the "sounds" of sex and orgasms.

You should not interrupt her or ask her any questions. All I would tell her is that you are going to do this with her for 20 minutes every night uninterrupted. That way she can clear her mind of distractions and start to fantasize more. What seems to be happening is that "reality" is interfering with her sexual desire - and the minute she gets distracted--she is no longer aroused or interested.

 

[erotic_trial]

Please dont take this the wrong way, but you're going about this all wrong then, based on what she is telling you.

I'm not, but its a very far fetched conclusion that "all" of my doing is wrong based on these bits and pieces of information. Neither of us like ASMR nor have the patience to sit through something as boring as that every night for 20 minutes, it's just not realistic. You don't even have that much exposure during actual therapy, even when given homework. Working on something together is one thing, pushing for it every day seems excessive, especially for the beginning of a training. Then there's also the problem with the content that you mentioned. Most ASMR in that sphere is borderline CNC ******* play, which I am not going to expose myself or her to.

What seems to be happening is that "reality" is interfering with her sexual desire - and the minute she gets distracted--she is no longer aroused or interested.

I may get some hate for this but that's just women in a nutshell, that's nothing new. If things (in their lives) aren't aligned with their exepectations, their focus is devided.

 

[zhili]

Nie jestem, ale na podstawie tych fragmentów informacji wyciągam bardzo naciągany wniosek, że „całe” moje postępowanie jest złe. Żadne z nas nie lubi ASMR i nie ma cierpliwości, aby co wieczór przesiadywać przez 20 minut nad czymś tak nudnym, to po prostu nierealne. Nawet podczas rzeczywistej terapii nie masz tak dużej ekspozycji, nawet gdy zadaje się pracę domową. Wspólna praca nad czymś to jedno, codzienne napieranie na to wydaje się przesadą, zwłaszcza na początku treningu. Jest też problem z treścią, o której wspomniałeś. Większość ASMR w tej sferze to gra CNC na pograniczu, na którą nie zamierzam narażać siebie ani jej.



Być może spotkam się z hejtem, ale w skrócie to tylko kobiety, to nic nowego. Jeśli sprawy (w ich życiu) nie są zgodne z ich oczekiwaniami, ich zainteresowania są podzielone.

There is a big problem within you. If I were you, I wouldn't suggest anything to your wife because it won't fix anything. There is a problem in your relationship and it shows in you. This lifestyle doesn't solve problems. If you think that the proposal with ASMR isn't worth checking, you will 100% not be able to cope with more difficult challenges in the future.

 

[erotic_trial]

There is a big problem within you. If I were you, I wouldn't suggest anything to your wife because it won't fix anything. There is a problem in your relationship and it shows in you. This lifestyle doesn't solve problems. If you think that the proposal with ASMR isn't worth checking, you will 100% not be able to cope with more difficult challenges in the future.

Besides failing to grasp the concept of thread, there is a difference between ASMR and h ypno and if you fail to acknowledge a valid concern about the nature of the content itself, you are not worth talking to.

 

[zhili]

Besides failing to grasp the concept of thread, there is a difference between ASMR and h ypno and if you fail to acknowledge a valid concern about the nature of the content itself, you are not worth talking to.

******* is bullshit and only white guys watch this type of content. You need to understand your woman's needs, not your own. Approach the topic again before your emotions fade away and you actually start thinking about her and not about yourself.

 

[BiSubCuck]

Some advice clearly isn't what you hoped to hear. And yes, I too think 20 minutes of audio would not go down well with many women. That's not to say it wouldnt have an effect though. But, you are her man, not her therapist.
Sometimes taking the Bull by the horns (pardon the pun) is the best approach, and maybe, just maybe that is the kind of masculine, take control approach she needs to experience, to bring her sexual desires to a new found height.
Sounds like she has basically told you that the effect these Black porn stars have on these women is the turn on. But i think that is the trigger. The key in her mind that makes her realise she has perhaps not experienced this level of sexual fulfillment. And of course, she really wants to!
How about telling her you know a fine Black Man with such a build and stature and he has a reputation of being a total stud. And you'd like her to meet him. How would such a suggestion go do you think???

 

[erotic_trial]

I don't doubt that it might has effect on some people but she doesn't want to do that and I have my concerns as previously mentioned, in addition to both of us having tried regular ASMR and not gotten the "tingling" or whatever.

Sounds like she has basically told you that the effect these Black porn stars have on these women is the turn on. But i think that is the trigger. The key in her mind that makes her realise she has perhaps not experienced this level of sexual fulfillment.

I came to the same conclusion.

How about telling her you know a fine Black Man with such a build and stature and he has a reputation of being a total stud. And you'd like her to meet him. How would such a suggestion go do you think???

It could make her nervous, get her gears grinding or she's just indifferent, hard to say, especially because we/I don't know any black people.

 

[BiSubCuck]

So, how about her having a dating profile? Just for the excitment of the sexting initially, and to help her become accustomed to men talking with her who want her sexually. Tinder or similar swipe sites perhaps?

 

[BGMcDaddy10BBC]

Can you share her "exact words?"

What does she say when you ask the question??

Yes that is the real Truth, what are Your Wife words not your oppinions?

 

[hungteacher]

I'm not, but its a very far fetched conclusion that "all" of my doing is wrong based on these bits and pieces of information. Neither of us like ASMR nor have the patience to sit through something as boring as that every night for 20 minutes, it's just not realistic. You don't even have that much exposure during actual therapy, even when given homework. Working on something together is one thing, pushing for it every day seems excessive, especially for the beginning of a training. Then there's also the problem with the content that you mentioned. Most ASMR in that sphere is borderline CNC ******* play, which I am not going to expose myself or her to.



I may get some hate for this but that's just women in a nutshell, that's nothing new. If things (in their lives) aren't aligned with their exepectations, their focus is devided.

Well I dont want you to get "hate" mail

I appreciate your feedback and your push back. So here's the issue. First of all - you are the one that holds all the cards right now. You have 100% information and you are leaking it out like a flaccid penis. So I can only make recommendations based on what you allow me to know. If you feel I went in the wrong direction - that's basically because that's the information you gave me.

But here's the unfortunate truth. All you did was disagree with me, you didn't offer me "more" information. All you did was explain why you are right and im wrong. Which sounds like a good idea to you, EXCEPT for the fact that you have a problem that you don't know how to solve. So guess what? you're back to square one.

We need to put all of this in context. My life is fine. I am very happy in my life. I don't have a problem I dont know how to solve. You, on the other hand, are complaining about your wife's reduced libido. If you don't like my first suggestion, that's fine. I dont take these things personally. And if you don't want to reveal more - that's also fine. I respect your privacy.

But I need to make this clear - you're the one that wanted help. If you bite the hand that helps - they won't help anymore.

In terms of your comment about "that's all women." No, it's not all women, its just all women in your limited experience. Regardless, who cares? You still have no idea how to overcome this issue - which I have helped many women overcome this issue in their lives for many different reasons. And sex is just one area of life that can be affected by being "distracted mentally."

Im glad you brought up therapy - because I'm not a therapist. And I didnt suggest this was therapeutic. All I said is this would work. What I should have said is "this would work if I was running it." And that might be the variable that I didn't take into consideration.

The problem is that I know nothing about you - other than the fact that you're a disagreeable and difficult person. Which is also fine - ive dealth with many oppositional people in my life. And the only thing I can say to an oppositional person is - "if you know all the right answers, then why are you asking for help?"

It might be a better idea - for you to propose suggestions that you think might work, and the others can tell you if they have tried those things and what the pros and cons might be - instead of making strangers online "guess" and then you get to sit back and "judge people" based on your hidden secret agenda.

(And since the simps on this site think a long post "must mean" that I'm upset.) I type 60 words a minute, this took me 4 minutes to formulate. Once I hit post - im not thinking about this thread. I'm not upset, im not agitated. Im just a passionate guy who likes to help women. For the most part, most men need to be hit upside the head, but women deserve our help and respect.)

 

[hungteacher]

Yes that is the real Truth, what are Your Wife words not your oppinions?

A lot of hullabaloo over nothing.

I gave the guy a really good suggestion and he sat back in his Monday Morning QB chair and said, "nah, I'd do this instead."

LOL - well if you have a better idea - then why did you post complaining about ur wife's libido and then ask for help??? LOL

 

[erotic_trial]

Well I dont want you to get "hate" mail

I appreciate your feedback and your push back. So here's the issue. First of all - you are the one that holds all the cards right now. You have 100% information and you are leaking it out like a flaccid penis. So I can only make recommendations based on what you allow me to know. If you feel I went in the wrong direction - that's basically because that's the information you gave me.

But here's the unfortunate truth. All you did was disagree with me, you didn't offer me "more" information. All you did was explain why you are right and im wrong. Which sounds like a good idea to you, EXCEPT for the fact that you have a problem that you don't know how to solve. So guess what? you're back to square one.

We need to put all of this in context. My life is fine. I am very happy in my life. I don't have a problem I dont know how to solve. You, on the other hand, are complaining about your wife's reduced libido. If you don't like my first suggestion, that's fine. I dont take these things personally. And if you don't want to reveal more - that's also fine. I respect your privacy.

But I need to make this clear - you're the one that wanted help. If you bite the hand that helps - they won't help anymore.

In terms of your comment about "that's all women." No, it's not all women, its just all women in your limited experience. Regardless, who cares? You still have no idea how to overcome this issue - which I have helped many women overcome this issue in their lives for many different reasons. And sex is just one area of life that can be affected by being "distracted mentally."

Im glad you brought up therapy - because I'm not a therapist. And I didnt suggest this was therapeutic. All I said is this would work. What I should have said is "this would work if I was running it." And that might be the variable that I didn't take into consideration.

The problem is that I know nothing about you - other than the fact that you're a disagreeable and difficult person. Which is also fine - ive dealth with many oppositional people in my life. And the only thing I can say to an oppositional person is - "if you know all the right answers, then why are you asking for help?"

It might be a better idea - for you to propose suggestions that you think might work, and the others can tell you if they have tried those things and what the pros and cons might be - instead of making strangers online "guess" and then you get to sit back and "judge people" based on your hidden secret agenda.

(And since the simps on this site think a long post "must mean" that I'm upset.) I type 60 words a minute, this took me 4 minutes to formulate. Once I hit post - im not thinking about this thread. I'm not upset, im not agitated. Im just a passionate guy who likes to help women. For the most part, most men need to be hit upside the head, but women deserve our help and respect.)

Because I mention that neither of us enjoys that particular type of content and that I find it questionable that it may contain things that go into an area that is unacceptable for either of us as well, I am disagreeable? You gotta do a lot better than that, you could have simply disprove my concerns by suggesting specific content but you didn't think that far either. I'm sure you are not a therapist, but even without being one it should be quite obvious that suggesting excessive (auditory) stimulation against someones preference (listening to whatever without enjoying it) is not exactly a recipe for success, let alone a balanced one. It should be fun, not a chore or ******* and in moderation. Some of you folks really don't seem to get that or simply don't give a fuck. And that's why info is "leaking like a flaccid penis", because I expected that it will draw attention to all kinds of people that are either disrespectful or think they can push their agenda however they like.


And if you think that was a bite, i don't think you have been bitten before