I have never said that your wife should not enjoy sex with someone else and that it makes you a wimp. I think you need to read my post over and see what i am really saying. I also take pleasure in let my wife have her different spice of life. but I don't get down and grovel and I surely don't let other men humiliate me. Men can enjoy married women without having to humiliated the husband, in fact he should put that man above him for sharing his wife with him and the wife should be more loving to him for allowing her to take another man, not be humiliated by her or by him.
I understand and agree with what you say here.
However, I think you misunderstand that for some humiliation play is a turn on. Just as some people can't understand why others enjoy anal sex, having their prostate massaged during a blow job, getting flogged or whipped, having their skin pierced with needles, foot worship or the multitude of other kinky things that some people get turned on by.
That you find the humiliation aspect to be abhorrent is just as understandable as it is that someone else might be turned on by it. Different strokes for different folks. Why make a personal judgement about someone based on their kink? Would you want to be judged by yours?
Even if the guy is a wimp, so what? If it works for he and his wife, isn't that all that really matters?
I know a guy that's a stand up dude in every way, very personable, major set of balls when it comes to bucking the system and so on. His kink is having a woman crap on him and in his mouth. I don't get it, but I don't need to. If it makes them happy, that's fine with me.
I just don't go to dinner with him.
