Very conservative wife makes BBC comments watching mainstream/hollywood movies with IR theme

Guys, i have a kinky mind myself and i would be lying if i said i wouldn't understand the wish for your wives or girlfriends to be layed by a Woman, another man, or a Black man in particular - whatever is your thing. But doing anything behind her back, and if it was arranging a real-life sexual scenario without her knowledge and consent, satisfies the definition of cheating - and is abusive!

If you want to share your partner sexually, don't try to have it done by making the fifth step first! The first step is to open your mouth and tell your lady how you feel and what your sexual turn-ons are. You'll have to win her for it, otherwise it's not going to happen, or at worst it will but in a very bad way. :(

How do you think you will be able to share your Woman with another person (/a Black man) if you are not even able to communicate with her your sexual fantasies? - If you ask yourself and give an honest answer... doesn't that feel silly?
 
The first thing I would suggest is to casually acknowledge that all women are curious about black men. Make it the default and allow her to argue against that point of view. If she says thats not true and argues she has no interest then you'll have a starting point.

I think the key is to not make her feel weird for having those thoughts, let her feel like it would be totally normal for her to feel that way.
Absolutely, we should all assure white women that it's not just okay, but ideal for them to have sex with Black Men. Convince her not to stop at one, but to hook up with several different Black Men, individually and in groups. We should do what we can to make sure our wives/girlfriends cut us off sexually, forever, and give themselves to our Superior Black Masters.
 
Bit of context:
- Male/female couple in our mid-30's been married for 12 years
- Wife is very conservative, never had a relationship with another guy before marriage, let alone sex
- Before marriage she used to listen to a lot of black hip hop artists
- We're sexually active (have sex most nights of the week) and she gets extremely turned on giving me oral and making comments about my huge c*ock (I'm average about 6")
- Have watched porn together in the past, sometimes interracial porn where the male has a huge c*ck

I've noticed recently that almost every time we watch a mainstream hollywood movie together that involves a while female actress falling for / getting into a relationship with a black male actor, my wife will make a comment like "oh she wants that big black dick" or "she's going for the big black cock". She'll make these comments even if there's only hugging/kissing involved in the scene and no explicit sex. In the beginning she'd make these comments infrequently, but now she'll make them almost every time there's an interracial theme in the movie. I can vivdly remember two separate occasions. In these films the while female cheats on her partner with a black male. Again there's no explicit content. But my wife was so fixated on the scene (and visually very turned on) that she got quite sweaty!

For some weird reason I find this a massive turn on to the point I usually get a really hard erection and we have the most intense sex ever! At first I thought her comments about BBC may have something to do with the interracial porn scenes we watched together in the past. But now I'm convinced that she's always had a thing for black guys. I think she won't admit the fact that she's into black guys as it might hurt my feelings, i.e., the whole BBC thing.

How do I get her to come out of her shell and admit that she finds black guys attractive and is turned on by BBC? We're quite adventurous sexually in the sense that we've used sex toys in the past - a vibrator for her and a fleshlight for me. But she's never used a dildo before. I think she'd love to experience a BBC dildo but again is afraid to ask in case it'll hurt my ego. How do I get her to come round to the live out the fantasy?
I think she’s definitely sending a message
 
ome of the comments on here are very insightful and perceptive
Bit of context:
- Male/female couple in our mid-30's been married for 12 years
- Wife is very conservative, never had a relationship with another guy before marriage, let alone sex
- Before marriage she used to listen to a lot of black hip hop artists
- We're sexually active (have sex most nights of the week) and she gets extremely turned on giving me oral and making comments about my huge c*ock (I'm average about 6")
- Have watched porn together in the past, sometimes interracial porn where the male has a huge c*ck

I've noticed recently that almost every time we watch a mainstream hollywood movie together that involves a while female actress falling for / getting into a relationship with a black male actor, my wife will make a comment like "oh she wants that big black dick" or "she's going for the big black cock". She'll make these comments even if there's only hugging/kissing involved in the scene and no explicit sex. In the beginning she'd make these comments infrequently, but now she'll make them almost every time there's an interracial theme in the movie. I can vivdly remember two separate occasions. In these films the while female cheats on her partner with a black male. Again there's no explicit content. But my wife was so fixated on the scene (and visually very turned on) that she got quite sweaty!

For some weird reason I find this a massive turn on to the point I usually get a really hard erection and we have the most intense sex ever! At first I thought her comments about BBC may have something to do with the interracial porn scenes we watched together in the past. But now I'm convinced that she's always had a thing for black guys. I think she won't admit the fact that she's into black guys as it might hurt my feelings, i.e., the whole BBC thing.

How do I get her to come out of her shell and admit that she finds black guys attractive and is turned on by BBC? We're quite adventurous sexually in the sense that we've used sex toys in the past - a vibrator for her and a fleshlight for me. But she's never used a dildo before. I think she'd love to experience a BBC dildo but again is afraid to ask in case it'll hurt my ego. How do I get her to come round to the live out the fantasy?
Well some of the responses you've had on here are very insightful and perceptive. I certainly wouldn't try to manipulate her in any way but just talk and be honest. I would be so happy to hear my female partner say things like "oh she wants that big black dick" or "she's going for the big black cock" and find it impossible not to play along and say "who can blame her", "black is best after all" etc....,etc....In other words, confronted with a situation like this I would find it impossible for my partner to not be made immediately aware of my fetish/kink for BBC. Women are very perceptive in my view in reading men. There is no point in trying to hide your own desires in this regard.
 
I'll just say the obvious, she's watching Big Black Cock porn when you aren't around, the best way to break the ice is to buy some interracial porn or pull up a scene and show her, without any prompt or comment beforehand, and as her once she's watching "what do you think about that?" the question is, what scene....
I wonder at times also. Mine situation is similar. However. She teases she wants a black dildo. Talks about hot men. Once told someone flirting she would only cheat with bbc. Admitted after 20 years she's curious. Wonder the depth of her curiosity. Claims it's all teasing and joking
 
I wonder at times also. Mine situation is similar. However. She teases she wants a black dildo. Talks about hot men. Once told someone flirting she would only cheat with bbc. Admitted after 20 years she's curious. Wonder the depth of her curiosity. Claims it's all teasing and joking
You can't be for real, are you? A wife of 20 years and you are wondering about "the depth of her curiosity"? When what you say is true then you have open communication channels already. So why not simply ask her and see if you can make the next step together? Would that be all too easy? 🤔 🤦‍♂️
 
Do you want her to actually take another guy? Or just like the fantasy of it and want to spice things up? To me, it sounds more like you like the fantasy and there isn’t anything wrong with that. I’d suggest talking to her about trying new things, like a toy. Don’t go out and buy her the biggest black dildo you can find. Try to find a high quality one with cyber skin (or something like it) that is maybe slightly bigger than you. You can get a black one and see how she reacts, or you can get her one with a similar skin tone to yours if you want to ease into it. Get her really worked up, like do whatever it is that gets her in the mood and really wet. If that’s watching certain porn or dirty talk or whatever. If it’s eating her out and smacking her ass, do that. You know her and you know what she likes. So get her really really worked up before you give her the dildo. You want to make sure it’s a great experience for her. Over time, you guys can become more adventurous, try out a black dildo if you didn’t start off that way. Get ones that are slightly bigger over time. Make it about what she likes and not just what you want. I see many guys who post on here how they are 5-6” and went out and bought their chick a 10” dildo and they don’t want to touch it.
 
The first thing I would suggest is to casually acknowledge that all women are curious about black men. Make it the default and allow her to argue against that point of view. If she says thats not true and argues she has no interest then you'll have a starting point.

I think the key is to not make her feel weird for having those thoughts, let her feel like it would be totally normal for her to feel that way.
When the Black Men first came to this country as slaves they were stripped naked to be inspected for sale to the white Master.I bet the White Master felt inferior seeing these muscular naked black men with huge cocks.
 
Listen,I BELIEVE THAT MOST WHITE WOMEN ARE CURIOUS ABOUT THE BLACK MAN.BUT MANY WON'T ADMIT IT BECAUSE OF SOCIAL PRESSURE.NOT WANTING ANYONE TO KNOW,LIKE FRIENDS,FAMILY *******.FOR YEARS WHITE MEN SPREAD FALSE PROPAGANDA SAYING SIZE DIDNT MATTER.BACK IN THE 60,70S,80S WHITE WOMEN WOULD SAY THAT SIZE DIDNT MATTER TO APPEASE THERE WHITE SMALL HUBBY BUT IN THERE MINDS THEY WANTED TO BE BLACKED BY A BIG SUPERIOR DOMINANT BLACK MAN.THATS THE TRUTH.MY OWN mom WENT BLACK.THE WHITE GIRL I WAS FUCKING ACROSS THE STREET TURNED BLACK AND SO DID HER MOM.TRUE STORY.WHEN A BLACK MAN IS AROUND WHITE WOMAN SND HE LOOKS GOOD HE ALWAYS HAS THAT TALK GAME WITH HIM.AND WHITE WOMEN EAT IT UP!!!LOL
 
Do you want her to actually take another guy? Or just like the fantasy of it and want to spice things up? To me, it sounds more like you like the fantasy and there isn’t anything wrong with that. I’d suggest talking to her about trying new things, like a toy. Don’t go out and buy her the biggest black dildo you can find. Try to find a high quality one with cyber skin (or something like it) that is maybe slightly bigger than you. You can get a black one and see how she reacts, or you can get her one with a similar skin tone to yours if you want to ease into it. Get her really worked up, like do whatever it is that gets her in the mood and really wet. If that’s watching certain porn or dirty talk or whatever. If it’s eating her out and smacking her ass, do that. You know her and you know what she likes. So get her really really worked up before you give her the dildo. You want to make sure it’s a great experience for her. Over time, you guys can become more adventurous, try out a black dildo if you didn’t start off that way. Get ones that are slightly bigger over time. Make it about what she likes and not just what you want. I see many guys who post on here how they are 5-6” and went out and bought their chick a 10” dildo and they don’t want to touch it.
Just remember that at some point your both going to want a. REAL BLACK MASTER
 
One night when I was bold and sexting with my wife (while I was away on a business trip), I told her that I wanted to see her with big black dildo. And that I wanted her to go to a porno shop, and ask for one. Just the thought of my very conservative wife doing that turned me on immensely. Much to my surprise, she did it! She said she was super embarrassed, but one day after work screwed up the courage to do it.

Quite frankly, I was surprised just how big and how black the dildo she got turned out to be. It was a realistic 9 inch black cock with balls. We have had so much fun with "Jamaal" (which we named it). When we are having sex, I will offer: do you want me to get Jamaal involved? She has to be in a really horny mood to say yes, but my goodness I love it when she does.

Her favorite thing is probably me eating her out and her sucking on the dildo. But then she complains that her jaw is getting sore, so I will start to fuck her with the dildo while she sucks me. She looks so beautiful getting double penetrated. I'm above average size (6 inches and very thick), but the 9 inch dildo dwarfs me. It looks so good going up her tight shaved cunt, I have to go so slowly.

So far, her ass has been a no-go zone. But I just bought us cute little his-and-her butt plugs, and also a strap on. I'm working up the courage to introduce these toys into our sex play. I also bought her a "BBC slut" set of underwear, a queen of spades tank top, and an "I LOVE BBC" choker necklace. Oh, and also an anklet, which she also has refused to wear in the past. I am hoping she will dress up in these slutty items just for me - in our bedroom for starters. Seeing her in all her BBC gear, in nice high heels, and also wearing the strap on - I might cream myself right there.

She will never really watch porn, but I'm hoping for the next baby steps I can get her to watch IR porn while I go down on her, and we can start using the butt plugs together when we fuck. At least I'm using mine!
 
My wife was the same.
But like others have said, you need to tell her you would love to watch her take a real bbc!
Tell her it's YOUR fantasy, we all know she wants it, she has all but told you!
If you want, pm me and I'll walk you through how to do it. Also, check out my media, that is my Japanese wife!
Oh, I wouldn't do the couple thing, she would most likely not want the other woman there.
 
My wife was the same.
But like others have said, you need to tell her you would love to watch her take a real bbc!
Tell her it's YOUR fantasy, we all know she wants it, she has all but told you!
If you want, pm me and I'll walk you through how to do it. Also, check out my media, that is my Japanese wife!
Oh, I wouldn't do the couple thing, she would most likely not want the other woman there.
hey, thanks 4 ur reply! what u say makes total sense, i think shes afraid to admit. i would appreciate ur advice yes.
 
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