My two cents: There's no real magic/magick nor mystery in fulfilling your desire or fantasy, no headache in making it come true, no tricks. A simple, normal conversation with down-to-earth potential man would take you a long way. The main topics of conversation would need to turn around getting to know each other, your fantasy and how you wish it to happen in the first place, what would make it comfortable and safe for you. And bear in mind, you should always make sure that it all contains an aspect of safety.