I understand her very well. My wife and I came together for other reasons than sex, which was not high up on our list of priorities at the time given that we had both, more or less recently, been through disappointing relationships. It didn't take my wife long, then, to buy herself her first vibrator and after we talked about it at greater length, she owned up to me about her needs as compared to what I had been providing up to then. It was a bit disconcerting to me, but not a surprise, and so we quickly settled for a "modus operandi" that havs made gadgets her main "penetrators". Tbh, my sex life, too, has seen a vast increase in quality, especially in psychological terms, as a result of that.
