I doubt this thread will get much attention on this site. I know it's not a very sexy, fetishized topic but I think it's necessary to start the conversation here.
As I write this post, I am hours away from resuming my boyfriend and I’s cuckolding lifestyle after a nearly four months hiatus. I’ve been reviewing all of the things we’ve learned during that time and ultimately I’m abundantly grateful that we decided to take a hiatus. I wanted to share some of the benefits we experienced during this time, especially with any new cuckold couples like us. This lifestyle brings soaring high moments and, for many of us, some pretty low times as well. If you and your partner are experiencing difficulty, whether it comes in the form of cuckold angst, jealousy, hesitance, a bad experience with a bull, or reality not living up to fantasy, I want to encourage you to take a hiatus and re-focus on your relationship goals.
I was aware that things were going awry for a while before our hiatus. However, I was trepidatious about going on hiatus for a few reasons. Besides the fact that I didn’t want to miss out on all the amazing sex I was having, I was nervous about what my relationship would be like after so long in a non-monogamous lifestyle. I didn’t know how our power dynamic would shift, our whether or not we would both be left unsatisfied returning back to a “vanilla” relationship. However, I’m happy to report that any difficulty we experienced during our hiatus was minimal compared to the benefits.
Here are a few of the benefits we experienced during our hiatus:
As I write this post, I am hours away from resuming my boyfriend and I’s cuckolding lifestyle after a nearly four months hiatus. I’ve been reviewing all of the things we’ve learned during that time and ultimately I’m abundantly grateful that we decided to take a hiatus. I wanted to share some of the benefits we experienced during this time, especially with any new cuckold couples like us. This lifestyle brings soaring high moments and, for many of us, some pretty low times as well. If you and your partner are experiencing difficulty, whether it comes in the form of cuckold angst, jealousy, hesitance, a bad experience with a bull, or reality not living up to fantasy, I want to encourage you to take a hiatus and re-focus on your relationship goals.
I was aware that things were going awry for a while before our hiatus. However, I was trepidatious about going on hiatus for a few reasons. Besides the fact that I didn’t want to miss out on all the amazing sex I was having, I was nervous about what my relationship would be like after so long in a non-monogamous lifestyle. I didn’t know how our power dynamic would shift, our whether or not we would both be left unsatisfied returning back to a “vanilla” relationship. However, I’m happy to report that any difficulty we experienced during our hiatus was minimal compared to the benefits.
Here are a few of the benefits we experienced during our hiatus:
- We were able to take a step back and see where we had made mistakes. We were able to objectively and clearly identify how each element of the lifestyle made us feel. We were able to discern what went right for us and what went wrong with the clarity that comes with a break from active engagement in the lifestyle.
- We were able to break the grip of cuckold fantasy and begin to focus on the reality of the lifestyle. I cannot emphasize enough how beneficial this has been for us. One of the sure-fire ways to bring discord into your relationship is to allow the overly fetishized, idealized version of what you think cuckolding should be to take hold of your experience. Watching porn is the worst offender here. During our hiatus we were able to communicate and be honest with one another about what we both want.
- We were able to research, read, and communicate about what we have learned. We began to consult more practical guides on cuckold relationships rather than erotica. Removed from engaging in the lifestyle, we were able to communicate new ideas and set forth boundaries.
- It allowed us to refine the power play between us and focus on our goals and a couple. We have wanted a female lead or female-centric relationship for quite some time, but struggled to establish it. Now, we are more confidant than ever in the direction of our relationship and work daily to develop this dynamic in a healthy way.