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Not to take away the components that make it a good site, wide variety of threads, wide variety of men and women and honesty of people who are serious about IR. It appears their are a lot of literate and intelligent posters and participants. It appears that the site could possibly evolve from just an amateur porn site (which can continue) to a mechanism that encourages the engagement of more white ladies at various stages of IR interest.
I agree, however, I think it might be better to ask the owners/moderators to expand the "Interracial Dating" section to include a dating discussion forum for those who are here to seriously try to hook with others and want to address issues regarding dating.
This way it won't be mixed in with all the fantasy, hard core and other non-related stuff which many of those looking for a real time experience might find objectionable.
As an example, a woman contacted me, just due to the avatar. It conveyed a way to contact a male member and not be intimidated by his package or aggressiveness. As a suggestion to the active and real male members, we might post avatars that are available versus the pics of packages. It is nice to impress the ladies with the packages, but the consistent response, I have heard in the chats, has been that they are interesting but do not make them want to contact the owner of the avatar. The sample of women I admit are small, but possibly an indicator that the components that make them want to move forward have to be conveyed in a more engaging manner.
Absolutely correct!
Most women get turned off if the only picture a guy shows them is one of his dick. My Wife always complains about this as that is what she and her girlfriends have had to deal with. 'Horny-Toads" she calls them.
Guys tend to forget that even though a woman may be looking for a good fuck, most still want a little romance or eroticism to go along with it.
That's not to say that on a site like this having one or two tastefully done full physique pics that show the package in working order and the buttocks (women seem to be more into butts) in an enticing manner, wouldn't be inappropriate as long as they are displayed along with more vanilla style photos.
If a guy is serious about hooking up with a woman or couple, it would behoove him to use a classy picture of himself or a scene such as you are using for an avatar and build up a nice profile and personal picture thread of himself in the "Black Men Seeking" section of the dating area. Then he can add in a picture or two of his "endowment" to go along with some basic overall body shots and whatever other photos he feels displays his best features along with a well written bio and description of what he is looking for and what he offers. Some tasteful erotic scenes that depict his interests might do well at piquing interest also.
Put a link to this in his general profile and incorporate it into his "signature" so it shows up in his posts and he may get some worthwhile inquiries from interested parties.
Serious women and couples should do the same. If enough serious "seekers" establish such a format, this site could have a pretty nice "real people" dating section to go along with what it currently offers.
However, that area of the site should be well policed by the participants and moderators as no one needs to be wasting their time and energy chasing fakes and flakes.