The rules for the slave/owner need to be mutually agreed to and the slave's input is as important as the owner. My ex required that I open doors for her, hold chairs, and take her coat. All reasonable rules that might be mistaken for a gentleman being polite. My rule was that nothing happen that should only be in the bedroom happen in public, like calling her goddess or receive punishments. When she got ******* and forgot my limits, the relationship ended. Rules are a sub's protection as well as the dom's expectations.