Questions on where my husband is at mentally?

[time2try]

My husband sent me this and said this is what happens when he thinks of me fucking a black guy. When we have sex he doesn’t fuck me anymore because he says that I cum so much better using my black dildos and watching interracial porn. He is right about me cumming harder than when he fucked me, although I always cum good, it’s just my black dildos are much more filling which make my orgasms much harder.
I am confused as he vacillates between wanting to be a cuck, and letting me go meet someone alone to have sex, and come home nice and full of cum.
We are currently talking to a local bull who is good with either situation. I have serious thoughts on wanting my husband to clean me up after sex with a bull. We have discussed it (during sex play) and he says if I asked him he would. After play is over he isn’t so sure about that then.
when he is horny he is down for most anything, during sex play he is down for anything, afterwards not so much.
I would love to hear from the guys here as to how I get him to decide one way or another. It’s like he is 2 people. One before his orgasm, and one after his orgasm!
I told him not long ago to get on here and talk to other guys who want to watch their wives with a black guy. He said he might later and that was that.

 

[Maddam M]

We call that post nut clarity. Best advice would be for the two of you to sit down and have a serious conversation in a non-sexual setting and do that before meeting a Bull. Most likely the thoughts and ideas turn him on, but some form of shame or humiliation hits during post nut clarity and he doesn't know how to handle it.

See where he's at when he's not horny and start there. Don't push or rush too quickly into anything. Communication is key to everything in this lifestyle and it's ok for both of you to have certain boundaries. If he's into it outside of a sexual situation then you have your answer. If he's not or is uncertain then it may just take time mentally on his end or he may not actually be into it and it's better left as fantasy. That's a conversation only you two can have. Best of luck!!

 

[time2try]

We call that post nut clarity. Best advice would be for the two of you to sit down and have a serious conversation in a non-sexual setting and do that before meeting a Bull. Most likely the thoughts and ideas turn him on, but some form of shame or humiliation hits during post nut clarity and he doesn't know how to handle it.

See where he's at when he's not horny and start there. Don't push or rush too quickly into anything. Communication is key to everything in this lifestyle and it's ok for both of you to have certain boundaries. If he's into it outside of a sexual situation then you have your answer. If he's not or is uncertain then it may just take time mentally on his end or he may not actually be into it and it's better left as fantasy. That's a conversation only you two can have. Best of luck!!

Good advice, thanks

 

[Jjooee]

My husband sent me this and said this is what happens when he thinks of me fucking a black guy. When we have sex he doesn’t fuck me anymore because he says that I cum so much better using my black dildos and watching interracial porn. He is right about me cumming harder than when he fucked me, although I always cum good, it’s just my black dildos are much more filling which make my orgasms much harder.
I am confused as he vacillates between wanting to be a cuck, and letting me go meet someone alone to have sex, and come home nice and full of cum.
We are currently talking to a local bull who is good with either situation. I have serious thoughts on wanting my husband to clean me up after sex with a bull. We have discussed it (during sex play) and he says if I asked him he would. After play is over he isn’t so sure about that then.
when he is horny he is down for most anything, during sex play he is down for anything, afterwards not so much.
I would love to hear from the guys here as to how I get him to decide one way or another. It’s like he is 2 people. One before his orgasm, and one after his orgasm!
I told him not long ago to get on here and talk to other guys who want to watch their wives with a black guy. He said he might later and that was that.

this is why most cucks are kept "locked"

 

[smallglans]

We call that post nut clarity. Best advice would be for the two of you to sit down and have a serious conversation in a non-sexual setting and do that before meeting a Bull. Most likely the thoughts and ideas turn him on, but some form of shame or humiliation hits during post nut clarity and he doesn't know how to handle it.

See where he's at when he's not horny and start there. Don't push or rush too quickly into anything. Communication is key to everything in this lifestyle and it's ok for both of you to have certain boundaries. If he's into it outside of a sexual situation then you have your answer. If he's not or is uncertain then it may just take time mentally on his end or he may not actually be into it and it's better left as fantasy. That's a conversation only you two can have. Best of luck!!

Excellent, cogent advice, to which I'll add just a few brief remarks. Those moments of post nut clarity are the most honest ones, when a man's word can be trusted most; if you're keen to know how far you can go as a couple, these are the circumstances in which those boundaries are best identified, discussed, and agreed. Never trust the words of a horny man!

 

[Dcuckold]

I will suggest something a little different than the excellent advice given above. Post nut is the sign so take or leave mine as it suits you.
Role play his Cuckoldress/HotWife at home by dressing up in a way he has expressed to you, if hasn't then sweet talk it out of him. Like me, I have told and requested from both of my smokin ex wives that they wear high heels when we are together and alone lingerie. I love seeing my woman walk away from me to the kitchen calves taught thighs ripe hips swaying in a skimpy pair of panties.
You dress up, make shy comments softly so he has to lean closer to you and you say it again...."I had a thought about that scene in the video." You say. "Which video?" He says hopefully.
"I don't know why I thought of it....."
"What did you think of baby?" (He is closer to you now)
(Get really close to him kiss him) "Oh that one of the bosses wife, the blonde in her husbands shop. They were all black employees. She told them she wants them to do her." ( I made that description up, you choose your own)
You watch and see his attention will be all on you. Tease him gently like that for an evening. Just talk about it just slightly out of your comfort zone, he will notice and ask more questions. You ask him very specific questions like do you want to be a good husband when he comes over and you can watch like a cuck? What do you want me to do with him? Etc etc...
You can have some fun and strut around the house in front of him wearing heels and panties asking him if he thinks men find you attractive as you pose in a sultry manor. You can have a good time and he will too.
One other thing, and I think this is important. He wants you to come home dripping cum and he cleans up? Then I suggest the next time he blows inside you. "I know you want to clean up after he is done." you say when he is getting close to cumming. "I want that " as you look him eye to eye when he cums. When you are ready, put your hand on top of his head and tell him "I want you to clean up, eat me"
Things like that will maintain his interest for a long time until you are fully confident.
I got more of that, I have been in cuck relationships a couple of times.

 

[Rob Johnson]

If he is locked up, or you refuse him orgasms, then he will always be on heightened arousal and want you to have a lover.

So keep him in this state, his mind will then always be focussed on your needs.

You can then chose when or if he cums, and chose the times that won’t get in the way of your objectives.


The fewer his orgasms, the more he will have positive thoughts.

It really does make sense for everyone that his orgasms are controlled.

 

[Dcuckold]

We call that post nut clarity. Best advice would be for the two of you to sit down and have a serious conversation in a non-sexual setting and do that before meeting a Bull. Most likely the thoughts and ideas turn him on, but some form of shame or humiliation hits during post nut clarity and he doesn't know how to handle it.

See where he's at when he's not horny and start there. Don't push or rush too quickly into anything. Communication is key to everything in this lifestyle and it's ok for both of you to have certain boundaries. If he's into it outside of a sexual situation then you have your answer. If he's not or is uncertain then it may just take time mentally on his end or he may not actually be into it and it's better left as fantasy. That's a conversation only you two can have. Best of luck!!

I personally think that the wife of a cuck wanna be should be a good girl one day then be at home with a video of a huge cock plowing into a white wife in a motel room without the husband present so when her cuck husband walks in he hears the sound of the video and he will wonder if the woman he hears is his wife.
She is finger fucking herself with a sheet covering up her pussy. When he walks into the living room and lays eyes on his wife playing with herself and making noises like, "I think I want to hear you tell me how much you love the idea of me being plowed by a BBC. I have started to think about it more often and I have been looking at some men and I want you to give me permission to be a Cuckoldress, a Hotwife. You will put it in writing for me so I have proof."
"Get naked and put on this cock ring so I can admire or ignore your little cock as I please. DO IT NOW!" She shouts out loud at him.
She starts to orgasm and she does it very loud grunting and saying, "YEA THATS IT FUCK ME DEEP WITH YOUR BIG FAT BLACK DICK!"
This will surely drive her husband crazy.

 

[Limpcuck31]

My husband sent me this and said this is what happens when he thinks of me fucking a black guy. When we have sex he doesn’t fuck me anymore because he says that I cum so much better using my black dildos and watching interracial porn. He is right about me cumming harder than when he fucked me, although I always cum good, it’s just my black dildos are much more filling which make my orgasms much harder.
I am confused as he vacillates between wanting to be a cuck, and letting me go meet someone alone to have sex, and come home nice and full of cum.
We are currently talking to a local bull who is good with either situation. I have serious thoughts on wanting my husband to clean me up after sex with a bull. We have discussed it (during sex play) and he says if I asked him he would. After play is over he isn’t so sure about that then.
when he is horny he is down for most anything, during sex play he is down for anything, afterwards not so much.
I would love to hear from the guys here as to how I get him to decide one way or another. It’s like he is 2 people. One before his orgasm, and one after his orgasm!
I told him not long ago to get on here and talk to other guys who want to watch their wives with a black guy. He said he might later and that was that.

You need to take control of his orgasms Dear. Male Chastity is a wonderful tool for a Woman.

 

[nrbill]

Hi time2try:

I've been doing cleanup since 1970 on women filled with both my own and other men's semen. I've found that I can go down easily if I do it as fast as I can after cumming. Not waiting and thinking about it is the secret for me. Just get down there and get busy. If I wait very long, like only a few minutes, I always find myself becoming more and more reluctant to eat a fresh fucked pussy. It's best for me to start licking in less than a minute.

If I'm eating another man's cum, it's easiest when I haven't cum yet myself. If you make certain your hubby doesn't cum before he cleans you up, he'll have a much easier time doing it. It helps tremendously when my wife uses one or both hands to guide my head to her pussy, telling me, "You know what to do." It also helps if she keeps her hands on my head for as long as possible while I suck all the cum out of her. My favorite is when she is standing talking to him, while ignoring me like I'm not there, about their next get together as I'm kneeling in front of her with her hand on my head sucking his cum out of her. That's about as humiliating as it gets.

 

[robbiewillsuck]

let hubby fuck you then your ride on top of hubby face and tell him to fantasize that it is others cum.

 

[Nipple Dad]

Understandably he (we) loose desire once we cum It takes training in order to eat your own cum when you have just orgasmed !! I stood in front of a mirror many days after masturbating with my seed in my hand I looked at myself and said if I want to move forward and do this I have to eat this cum !! Like all of us I loved eating cum when I was hot and horny It took a few times of me standing in front of that mirror but I licked my hand clean with one big gulp !! I eat my cum load each time now

 

[Dcuckold]

Hi time2try:

I've been doing cleanup since 1970 on women filled with both my own and other men's semen. I've found that I can go down easily if I do it as fast as I can after cumming. Not waiting and thinking about it is the secret for me. Just get down there and get busy. If I wait very long, like only a few minutes, I always find myself becoming more and more reluctant to eat a fresh fucked pussy. It's best for me to start licking in less than a minute.

If I'm eating another man's cum, it's easiest when I haven't cum yet myself. If you make certain your hubby doesn't cum before he cleans you up, he'll have a much easier time doing it. It helps tremendously when my wife uses one or both hands to guide my head to her pussy, telling me, "You know what to do." It also helps if she keeps her hands on my head for as long as possible while I suck all the cum out of her. My favorite is when she is standing talking to him, while ignoring me like I'm not there, about their next get together as I'm kneeling in front of her with her hand on my head sucking his cum out of her. That's about as humiliating as it gets.

This sounds smokin hot! Especially when she is talking to him and ignores you with your mouth planted right where it should be. I LOVE IT!

 

[Marica73]

My husband sent me this and said this is what happens when he thinks of me fucking a black guy. When we have sex he doesn’t fuck me anymore because he says that I cum so much better using my black dildos and watching interracial porn. He is right about me cumming harder than when he fucked me, although I always cum good, it’s just my black dildos are much more filling which make my orgasms much harder.
I am confused as he vacillates between wanting to be a cuck, and letting me go meet someone alone to have sex, and come home nice and full of cum.
We are currently talking to a local bull who is good with either situation. I have serious thoughts on wanting my husband to clean me up after sex with a bull. We have discussed it (during sex play) and he says if I asked him he would. After play is over he isn’t so sure about that then.
when he is horny he is down for most anything, during sex play he is down for anything, afterwards not so much.
I would love to hear from the guys here as to how I get him to decide one way or another. It’s like he is 2 people. One before his orgasm, and one after his orgasm!
I told him not long ago to get on here and talk to other guys who want to watch their wives with a black guy. He said he might later and that was that.

Nice BoS tattoo. His dick is so weak and small!
He should suave that ass.

 

[cuck47ult]

I will suggest something a little different than the excellent advice given above. Post nut is the sign so take or leave mine as it suits you.
Role play his Cuckoldress/HotWife at home by dressing up in a way he has expressed to you, if hasn't then sweet talk it out of him. Like me, I have told and requested from both of my smokin ex wives that they wear high heels when we are together and alone lingerie. I love seeing my woman walk away from me to the kitchen calves taught thighs ripe hips swaying in a skimpy pair of panties.
You dress up, make shy comments softly so he has to lean closer to you and you say it again...."I had a thought about that scene in the video." You say. "Which video?" He says hopefully.
"I don't know why I thought of it....."
"What did you think of baby?" (He is closer to you now)
(Get really close to him kiss him) "Oh that one of the bosses wife, the blonde in her husbands shop. They were all black employees. She told them she wants them to do her." ( I made that description up, you choose your own)
You watch and see his attention will be all on you. Tease him gently like that for an evening. Just talk about it just slightly out of your comfort zone, he will notice and ask more questions. You ask him very specific questions like do you want to be a good husband when he comes over and you can watch like a cuck? What do you want me to do with him? Etc etc...
You can have some fun and strut around the house in front of him wearing heels and panties asking him if he thinks men find you attractive as you pose in a sultry manor. You can have a good time and he will too.
One other thing, and I think this is important. He wants you to come home dripping cum and he cleans up? Then I suggest the next time he blows inside you. "I know you want to clean up after he is done." you say when he is getting close to cumming. "I want that " as you look him eye to eye when he cums. When you are ready, put your hand on top of his head and tell him "I want you to clean up, eat me"
Things like that will maintain his interest for a long time until you are fully confident.
I got more of that, I have been in cuck relationships a couple of times.

yes that's a good way, it works well, my ex-wife did that to me for a while with steel and quite cuckold and now it's ok

 

[Privatewhtcple]

My husband sent me this and said this is what happens when he thinks of me fucking a black guy. When we have sex he doesn’t fuck me anymore because he says that I cum so much better using my black dildos and watching interracial porn. He is right about me cumming harder than when he fucked me, although I always cum good, it’s just my black dildos are much more filling which make my orgasms much harder.
I am confused as he vacillates between wanting to be a cuck, and letting me go meet someone alone to have sex, and come home nice and full of cum.
We are currently talking to a local bull who is good with either situation. I have serious thoughts on wanting my husband to clean me up after sex with a bull. We have discussed it (during sex play) and he says if I asked him he would. After play is over he isn’t so sure about that then.
when he is horny he is down for most anything, during sex play he is down for anything, afterwards not so much.
I would love to hear from the guys here as to how I get him to decide one way or another. It’s like he is 2 people. One before his orgasm, and one after his orgasm!
I told him not long ago to get on here and talk to other guys who want to watch their wives with a black guy. He said he might later and that was that.

I think you should try to show him, that you love him more than anyone else, and more than the bull. Take the time just the 2 of you and spend romantic and intimate time together, like talking, foreplay and having sex in an intimate way.

Yes, it may be difficult and hard now, but if you don't rekindle your love to him, and the 2 of you get back together just for yourselves once a while, your marriage may get cold or its already cold now, and nothing but only sex.

When we play, we play safe and always together, and we always set time just for for ourselves.

Your hubby is your partner, but your bull is only a tool that can be replaced, so are you.

 

[WetNwild57]

We call that post nut clarity. Best advice would be for the two of you to sit down and have a serious conversation in a non-sexual setting and do that before meeting a Bull. Most likely the thoughts and ideas turn him on, but some form of shame or humiliation hits during post nut clarity and he doesn't know how to handle it.

See where he's at when he's not horny and start there. Don't push or rush too quickly into anything. Communication is key to everything in this lifestyle and it's ok for both of you to have certain boundaries. If he's into it outside of a sexual situation then you have your answer. If he's not or is uncertain then it may just take time mentally on his end or he may not actually be into it and it's better left as fantasy. That's a conversation only you two can have. Best of luck!!

i agree with you 100%

 

[time2try]

let hubby fuck you then your ride on top of hubby face and tell him to fantasize that it is others cum.

We stopped fucking several years ago. His meds for BP keep him from being able to fuck as it only gets partially hard now. If it does get hard, and it does, it doesn’t stay hard long enough for him to fuck me. I wish it did because he is a good lover…..

 

[time2try]

UPDATE 12-12
2 nights ago he told me to text this bull he has talked to a bit the past couple months. He gave him my personal cell number. So after we got finished playing he said text him and say something sexy. He then said to let him take a pic of my pussy and send him that too, so I did.
he said he thinks it would be easier for him to get used to me fucking other guys would be for me to meet them by myself. I told him I can’t do that but we could meet together at the hotel and he could leave if I wanted it. He said he thinks he could do that. So our friend wrote me back the next day and said he wants to meet soon.
How do I approach hubby now? I told him he texted me back and he said “ ok was he nice to you,” and I told him he was very respectful because he was. Since then nothing has been said because we both have been busy with the holiday season and all that entails. Still when I was out tonight doing some shopping I thought about being in a motel room getting fucked while he is at home. No I won’t do that, but it is erotic!
Merry Christmas all

 

[hungteacher]

UPDATE 12-12
2 nights ago he told me to text this bull he has talked to a bit the past couple months. He gave him my personal cell number. So after we got finished playing he said text him and say something sexy. He then said to let him take a pic of my pussy and send him that too, so I did.
he said he thinks it would be easier for him to get used to me fucking other guys would be for me to meet them by myself. I told him I can’t do that but we could meet together at the hotel and he could leave if I wanted it. He said he thinks he could do that. So our friend wrote me back the next day and said he wants to meet soon.
How do I approach hubby now? I told him he texted me back and he said “ ok was he nice to you,” and I told him he was very respectful because he was. Since then nothing has been said because we both have been busy with the holiday season and all that entails. Still when I was out tonight doing some shopping I thought about being in a motel room getting fucked while he is at home. No I won’t do that, but it is erotic!
Merry Christmas all

Happy Holidays.
This has DISASTER written all over it. Im really sorry to say that. I totally support couples and the lifestyle, but your husband is DEEPLY confused. And until he can figure out what he wants, you are skating on thin ice. I agree with you 100%, you both should meet the bull. But you should NOT play sexually with the bull at all. I would have a 1st meeting and then go home and let your husband process everything. Again, I dont know your husband, but he is very very confused.