Shy, as in reluctant to just say anything. Is something wrong with being respectful, especially in circumstances you are not familiar with. Also, since we are new here, I guess I was mistaken thinking if I was having a direct conversation with someone, another person could join in, with out asking. I and for the most part, my husband also, never use certain language on a daily basis, so we currently make love or have sex, but know that the word fuck will hopefully be used, because I want to have that done. "I" am personally turned off, when I get a message from someone new, who immediately starts we wanting to blank blank blank my blank and my husband is a blank