Question for Women on here: Getting from Single Orgasms to Multiple Orgasms

[Wife4Black77]

I wrote an erotic IR story for my wife to read and I wanted her feedback. She offered some good input that helped me refine it, but we had an impasse over one topic. In the story the white wife said she lost count of her orgasms after about 16. My wife called BS and said that’s fantasyland and it’s not physically possible for women to have that many orgasms. I assured her it was and she said “you can’t believe all the tall tales you read on the internet.” And she didn’t want to discuss it further.

I looked at published research and confirmed it is very possible. Talked to her again and assured her this fact doesn’t mean she is “defective” or lesser than the women who can but it’s more of a commentary on us trying some different things and if anything it’s likely more of a failing on my part. There are articles out there how to get your partner to be multi orgasmic but wanted to pose some questions for the wives here.

Have you had the experience of going from one orgasm per session for years then to multiple, if so what was the key? Did that change in frequency have something, anything or everything to do with having sex with well hung black men or was it just something or someone else that made that possible?

When I met my wife, I was 33, she was 34, and despite having three sexual partners before me (and being married for 7 years to one of them), she had never had an orgasm before. I give her an orgasm 90% of the time we play (it’s my #1 goal although she knows I won’t be offended or hurt if she doesn’t so she is always honest when it doesn’t happen) and on maybe two or three occasions over the years she has had a second orgasm during sex.

I am huge on compersion so more pleasure for her turns me on and satisfies me like nothing else (which is a big reason my cuckold fantasy is my #1 by a mile), so clearly I am motivated to try whatever I can to increase her pleasure/orgasms. Very interested in your thoughts.

Thanks in advance for your help.

 

[geoffrya]

it can happen yes but not always

 

[Wife4Black77]

it can happen yes but not always

Of course. I’m sure a good number of women struggle to have even one orgasm for a number of reasons. But for me when it comes to sex, I like to keep it fun, and playful, and have a mindset to experiment to see what’s possible. If she has one orgasm and is satisfied then I am happy. Don’t see the harm in seeing what’s possible as long as she doesn’t feel pressured.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

It's been said that about 30% of Women never have experienced an orgasm at all, and many Women cum easier from masturbation, mostly with vibrating toys, than sex, let alone penetrative sex only. Women who have experienced multiple orgasms are said to be rare, and that might not be your wife. Just sayin'

 

[AnnieS]

The issue is men want to categorize each sigh of pleasure as an orgasm. I am multi orgasmic. For me I can cum 1 2 3 or 10 times in the right situation. And yes I can lose count but its not every time and its not common. The stars have to align with a skilled lover, my mood and all the other things that make that sex session amazing. So when I cum- lets say 3 times. The build up to the first orgasm occurs and then I cum and the after effect is like waves, I calm and then the intensity grows and ebbs and grows, then number two overcomes me and it repeats. Women can have small orgasms amd medium orgasms and mind blowing your shaking kind of orgasms. And we can have all three in a session or just a couple of small ones. Its all time, place ,mood, lover and fit. 75% of the time I have one or two. 20 percent of the time a wave kind of thing, up and down and if the play session goes on for a long time and I'm being edged mercilessly, 5% of the time my toes curl up and my legs shake and I cum uncontrollably over and over and maybe even squirt which has happened a few times. So it has factors and such but yes the right women and speaking for myself can have a bunch of orgasms in one setting.

 

[billrichard]

The issue is men want to categorize each sigh of pleasure as an orgasm. I am multi orgasmic. For me I can cum 1 2 3 or 10 times in the right situation. And yes I can lose count but its not every time and its not common. The stars have to align with a skilled lover, my mood and all the other things that make that sex session amazing. So when I cum- lets say 3 times. The build up to the first orgasm occurs and then I cum and the after effect is like waves, I calm and then the intensity grows and ebbs and grows, then number two overcomes me and it repeats. Women can have small orgasms amd medium orgasms and mind blowing your shaking kind of orgasms. And we can have all three in a session or just a couple of small ones. Its all time, place ,mood, lover and fit. 75% of the time I have one or two. 20 percent of the time a wave kind of thing, up and down and if the play session goes on for a long time and I'm being edged mercilessly, 5% of the time my toes curl up and my legs shake and I cum uncontrollably over and over and maybe even squirt which has happened a few times. So it has factors and such but yes the right women and speaking for myself can have a bunch of orgasms in one setting.

Agree completely, My wife has always been very multi orgasmic. And could cum easily as well from oral, intercourse, or nipple play, and became quite popular with the swinger crowd when we were active.

 

[WVhotwifecoupl]

I have been multi orgasmic most of life. A number of times I have had at least 10. Usually I am squirting a lot when I am having multiples. Better put down towels or pads!

 

[Kippie]

One of the leading researchers on orgasms these days thinks that the ability to have real multiple orgasms is quite rare, in both sexes. Dr. Nicole Prause has said on more than one podcast interview that none of the women that claimed to be having multiple orgasms in her studies, had multiples show up on their monitoring equipment.

Nicole Prause

University of California, Los Angeles - Cited by 5,168 - sexual psychophysiology - HIV - risky sexual behaviors - anhedonia - alcohol

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Her theory is that they are calling a heightened sensation that they are feeling from penetration, an orgasm, when it actually is not. It is still a peaking sensation though, yes.

Real orgasms consists of pelvic floor muscle contractions that start at .8 second intervals, and gradually get further apart after more contractions happen. They have a butt plug sensor that is used to test for real orgasms.

Men that can have reliably have multiple orgasms without losing an erection, usually have a benign tumor near their pituitary gland which blocks the release of a neurochemical that makes the erections subside. Many men that can not do that again, have had one or two experiences where they were so highly aroused, that they kept an erection between orgasms. I've done it once at age 25.

Multiple orgasms with clitoral stimulation? Those might be more real, but also not common. I do believe there's some women that need only a 1 minute break in between clitoral stimulation though, and they can put the vibe back, but they're rare.

I'm one that believes that the clitoral network is involved in all real orgasms. It's just a that some women get enough stimulation from penetration alone, due to the internal parts of the clitoris, or their clitoris is close enough to the vaginal opening, OR a large penis girth stimulates both the internal and external clitoris more than an average penis does.

 

[latino]

Our jamaican stud made my wife have multiple orgasms and made me cum without touching my dick

 

[Redwood]

Personally, I love a woman who can have multiples AND who has stamina... I have encountered women who could have 1-3 orgasms, in 10 -15 mins and be done... Like damn, I havent even warmed up yet and you're DONE??? I've even come across the equivalent of premature ejaculators in that the woman nutted off a kiss or as soon as the dick went in...

 

[Specialk69]

My girlfriend has multiple orgasms and usually only use bbc dildos all from Doc Johnson bbc pornstars along with the Lelo Sila toy . That toy is expensive , but she said there is nothing better . She will squirt sometimes if she is really relaxed . I think she would more if not trying so hard . That combination is perfect for her .

 

[alexisday777]

I wrote an erotic IR story for my wife to read and I wanted her feedback. She offered some good input that helped me refine it, but we had an impasse over one topic. In the story the white wife said she lost count of her orgasms after about 16. My wife called BS and said that’s fantasyland and it’s not physically possible for women to have that many orgasms. I assured her it was and she said “you can’t believe all the tall tales you read on the internet.” And she didn’t want to discuss it further.

I looked at published research and confirmed it is very possible. Talked to her again and assured her this fact doesn’t mean she is “defective” or lesser than the women who can but it’s more of a commentary on us trying some different things and if anything it’s likely more of a failing on my part. There are articles out there how to get your partner to be multi orgasmic but wanted to pose some questions for the wives here.

Have you had the experience of going from one orgasm per session for years then to multiple, if so what was the key? Did that change in frequency have something, anything or everything to do with having sex with well hung black men or was it just something or someone else that made that possible?

When I met my wife, I was 33, she was 34, and despite having three sexual partners before me (and being married for 7 years to one of them), she had never had an orgasm before. I give her an orgasm 90% of the time we play (it’s my #1 goal although she knows I won’t be offended or hurt if she doesn’t so she is always honest when it doesn’t happen) and on maybe two or three occasions over the years she has had a second orgasm during sex.

I am huge on compersion so more pleasure for her turns me on and satisfies me like nothing else (which is a big reason my cuckold fantasy is my #1 by a mile), so clearly I am motivated to try whatever I can to increase her pleasure/orgasms. Very interested in your thoughts.

Thanks in advance for your help.

It is 1000% possible! Not every woman can do it though. For me, it can be difficult for others to get me to cum, and you pretty much always have to be using a wand on me. But once you get me there, for ced multiple orgasms are very easy. And they are my FAVORITE!!! Especially if there is something inside me at the same time!!

 

[Specialk69]

Gf loves it ! She has all the bbc dildos from pornstars Doc Johnson and uses the clit vibe Sila from Lelo Cums like the energizer bunny ! The Shane Diesel dildo plugs in for an hour and the balls press right on that tight ass until she’s exhausted!

 

[AnnieS]

Guys just keep in mind one thing- you have to be skilled and not repeitive. If you do the same thing over and over it will lose the thrill. And two- it seems like a lot of people have this thought that only super expsensive toys are the best. In a dildo I'd say yeah buy what you like or feels good. It wont break. Vibrator-no way. Its going to break. It will burn out. Maybe in 2 years instead of 8 months but it will go kaput. You can get great vibrators for under 35.00 rather than 165.00. Trust me. Number two- when a girl squirts from an orgasm- its not this water fountain across the room kind of thing hitting the cieling in this huge stream... thats pee. If you like to be peed on or that your fantatsy then cool. But the release of female ejaculate-the clear liquid no ordor is vaginal lubricant/mucus in a small gland that can be expelled under strong contractions from powerful orgasms. If it hits the other side of the room or is done 2,3 4 times and you need a towel then it what you think it is. The gland holds 1-2 oz of liquid not 3 pints, your bladder does that.