Partner Help (Aspiring Cuck)

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Looking for support, tips, and ideas, I have been with my white girlfriend for 10 years, since we were 19. She was with 2 guys before me but had terrible experiences with both guys. She only had sex with each of them once. Since we have been together she has become much freakier. We have had very long dry spells were we dont do anything for a month. I end up jerking off to cuckold and interacial porn. She has said that she would be open to me being with another girl if she can watch. But i would really like to watch her be used by another guy or guys. I have read and have tried implementing the guide to turning your wife into a hot wife. Ordered a big black dildo but they sent a purple one... She prefers her black wand to it but when she does ride the dildo she cums really hard and quickly. I make the excuse that I hate condoms for years to remain pussy free but sometimes she pretty much forces me to bareback but pull out. I do not last long at all. Few pumps and I am done. I have now got her to start using her wand on me while she sits on my face and i cum that way. I also make sure to eat her pussy as often as I can but sometimes she doesnt seem to like it. As she is very submissive and likes to be dominated and sub. I make a huge effort to eat her pussy after every time she comes from her wand or dildo. She has started to become dirtier and dirtier past few months. If she wants to ******* or have a cigarette she has to wear her butt plug and has even had me cum on her before she goes outside to smoke (covered in cum). She can be very submissive and loves to be spanked, tied up, leashed at times, and gagged. But out of nowhere we hit a dry spell past week. But she shaved her pussy bare this past weekend and made me come check to make sure she was bare.

We plan to get married in the next couple of months. Any support, tips, or ideas? Trying to get up the nerve to talk to her about this. Thank you!
 
You ordered a black dildo but they sent you a purple one? Doesn't that give you the right to send back and insist on a replacement with what you originally ordered (the black one!)?

Following some stupid online guide without assessing your situation is never a good idea. You say "she has become much freakier" but also that you've had your "dry spells". Do you have your wedding arranged already? Getting married is a big step and the phase before the wedding typically creates some stress and makes people think a lot about their relationships and if that's what they really want for a lifetime. That may have an impact on a person's libido.

Apart from that... You say, she is submissive (to you). There is a difference between being submissive in order to please a partner and being naturally sexually submissive. If she just wants to please you, she will play along with almost anything you do or suggest but that does not mean she also derives great pleasure from it. That type of submissiveness is a bad foundation for opening up a relationship sexually. Also a good Dom is a "leader" who will guide the sub toward what they really want and not exert power for fulfillment of the Dom's own desires.

You say, you've already talked about her watching you being with another Woman. Was that pillow/dirty talk pre/during/post sex or in a serious conversation outside the bedroom? Some people would say almost anything in the heat of the moment just to add some spice and increase the partner's and their own arousal. But that does not necessarily mean much. If she really was/is serious about watching you with another Woman that would be a chance for opening your relationship at all and might be a starting point to open it in yet other directions. ;) However it might also have been a test of your loyalty. Who knows.

In any case... take small steps instead of jumping right into it. That would give you the chance to reflect and check if anyone of you is actually okay with the direction of progression. For instance, you could suggest visiting a swinger's club to satisfy your Woman's voyeuristic desires. Suggest that on your first visit you won't indulge in action with anyone else, just see if the atmosphere will be appealing to you and let you be inspired by watching others "play". Talk about it afterward and see where it will take you.

After ten years in a relationship you should better know what each of your likes and dislikes are, and what gets both of you off sexually. Making your sexual play an issue short before marriage is asking for trouble.
 
I would show her your porn collection and tell her whenever you two are intimate. You don’t last long because what turns you on is imagining her taking on a big black cock.

ask her to think of a black man she knows by name. Then record her sucking your dick tell her to stop giving you white girl head. Tell her to show (the black man of her choosing) she has what it takes to be a black cock slut.

getting her to role play thinking of someone she knows bridges the gap a lot faster than just generalizing black men. Also, on Amazon there are a lot of movies with not only interracial themes. But very hot black men, White women sex scenes. Just start filling her mind with tv, movies, music, and your one-on-one time where it’s second nature to just wish a black man would bring his sexy self over and show her what she’s gotta be wondering if it’s true you don’t go back and all that.

It burns the first time dude. Just don’t end the relationship. Sit on it. Accept it was different than you expect. But watch and see, you’ll be back to jacking off to that fateful first time, every time. Being cuckolded has a permanent negative but very arousing effect. Good luck, and remember. Be persistent, take her to places where black men are more apt to be found, watch interracial themed tv and movies. Slowly coach her into pretending your her black man friend whenever she’s horny.

Get her ******* and pound her doggie style with blacked.com streaming tell her to tell you she “needs big black cock. Please!”
 
lng4sloppy2nds said:
Looking for support, tips, and ideas, I have been with my white girlfriend for 10 years, since we were 19. She was with 2 guys before me but had terrible experiences with both guys. She only had sex with each of them once. Since we have been together she has become much freakier. We have had very long dry spells were we dont do anything for a month. I end up jerking off to cuckold and interacial porn. She has said that she would be open to me being with another girl if she can watch. But i would really like to watch her be used by another guy or guys. I have read and have tried implementing the guide to turning your wife into a hot wife. Ordered a big black dildo but they sent a purple one... She prefers her black wand to it but when she does ride the dildo she cums really hard and quickly. I make the excuse that I hate condoms for years to remain pussy free but sometimes she pretty much forces me to bareback but pull out. I do not last long at all. Few pumps and I am done. I have now got her to start using her wand on me while she sits on my face and i cum that way. I also make sure to eat her pussy as often as I can but sometimes she doesnt seem to like it. As she is very submissive and likes to be dominated and sub. I make a huge effort to eat her pussy after every time she comes from her wand or dildo. She has started to become dirtier and dirtier past few months. If she wants to ******* or have a cigarette she has to wear her butt plug and has even had me cum on her before she goes outside to smoke (covered in cum). She can be very submissive and loves to be spanked, tied up, leashed at times, and gagged. But out of nowhere we hit a dry spell past week. But she shaved her pussy bare this past weekend and made me come check to make sure she was bare.

We plan to get married in the next couple of months. Any support, tips, or ideas? Trying to get up the nerve to talk to her about this. Thank you!
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Would you let Another white guy join you in watching or be an extra cuck
 
Toddboy87 said:
Next woman I meet I'll make sure she's into bbc and cuckolding, it makes everything so much better
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Why? And what will you bring "to the table"? 🤔
i mean, i can see how a "cuck type" could add to the experience or a relationship. But honesty, IRL if you find a Woman who's "into bbc", she does not rely on you. A Woman who has a husband or boyfriend already is a different story. But i wonder... how will you make the "next woman" interested in you? TY
 
mywayintermsofsex said:
Why? And what will you bring "to the table"? 🤔
i mean, i can see how a "cuck type" could add to the experience or a relationship. But honesty, IRL if you find a Woman who's "into bbc", she does not rely on you. A Woman who has a husband or boyfriend already is a different story. But i wonder... how will you make the "next woman" interested in you? TY
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I guess I mean to say into cuckolding and I'm not sure how I will get the next woman to like me
 
robbiewillsuck said:
To be a good BF or husband - you should be willing to do anything that makes her happy including becoming a bi sub sissy cd cuckold. I think all females need lots of cocks. Encourage her to fuck any cock she wants then offer to lick her pussy clean after her dates while she shares the details with you.
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The last time we played she asked to be fucked and I made an excuse, to try to keep her dry spell going longing for dick. She said you better cum I was jerking off or else.... I said or else what and she said you have to clean my dildo. It was covered with her cum. She didn't touch me made me clean her glass dildo. Then said good boy, now eat my dirty pussy, was covered with her creamy cum. She gets very wet... She didnt touch me and i jerked off until i came, like 4 minutes...
 
whiteMom4BBC said:
I would show her your porn collection and tell her whenever you two are intimate. You don’t last long because what turns you on is imagining her taking on a big black cock.

ask her to think of a black man she knows by name. Then record her sucking your dick tell her to stop giving you white girl head. Tell her to show (the black man of her choosing) she has what it takes to be a black cock slut.

getting her to role play thinking of someone she knows bridges the gap a lot faster than just generalizing black men. Also, on Amazon there are a lot of movies with not only interracial themes. But very hot black men, White women sex scenes. Just start filling her mind with tv, movies, music, and your one-on-one time where it’s second nature to just wish a black man would bring his sexy self over and show her what she’s gotta be wondering if it’s true you don’t go back and all that.

It burns the first time dude. Just don’t end the relationship. Sit on it. Accept it was different than you expect. But watch and see, you’ll be back to jacking off to that fateful first time, every time. Being cuckolded has a permanent negative but very arousing effect. Good luck, and remember. Be persistent, take her to places where black men are more apt to be found, watch interracial themed tv and movies. Slowly coach her into pretending your her black man friend whenever she’s horny.

Get her ******* and pound her doggie style with blacked.com streaming tell her to tell you she “needs big black cock. Please!”
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FANTASTIC
 
whiteMom4BBC said:
I would show her your porn collection and tell her whenever you two are intimate. You don’t last long because what turns you on is imagining her taking on a big black cock.

ask her to think of a black man she knows by name. Then record her sucking your dick tell her to stop giving you white girl head. Tell her to show (the black man of her choosing) she has what it takes to be a black cock slut.

getting her to role play thinking of someone she knows bridges the gap a lot faster than just generalizing black men. Also, on Amazon there are a lot of movies with not only interracial themes. But very hot black men, White women sex scenes. Just start filling her mind with tv, movies, music, and your one-on-one time where it’s second nature to just wish a black man would bring his sexy self over and show her what she’s gotta be wondering if it’s true you don’t go back and all that.

It burns the first time dude. Just don’t end the relationship. Sit on it. Accept it was different than you expect. But watch and see, you’ll be back to jacking off to that fateful first time, every time. Being cuckolded has a permanent negative but very arousing effect. Good luck, and remember. Be persistent, take her to places where black men are more apt to be found, watch interracial themed tv and movies. Slowly coach her into pretending your her black man friend whenever she’s horny.

Get her ******* and pound her doggie style with blacked.com streaming tell her to tell you she “needs big black cock. Please!”
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Thank you so much for the reply. I have taken all of your tips and started to apply them. Trying to only have her exposed to media that are black men oriented. It will take some true bravery before I show her my porn collection. She does enjoy watching lesbian bondage porn a lot when we play. The pounding her doggie style while making her beg for black cock is an incredibly hot idea. The only thing is I wouldn't last for more than a minute or 2. But I will be ordering a black dildo or making her use her large purple dildo, that is way bigger than me, and have her beg for black cock. I bet she will cum in no time. Once again I appreciate your comments and will continue to come back to your tips as a great guide.
 
NicholeB said:
First I want to say that you’re doing great. She is in process of experimenting with her sexual side and that’s great. Lots of space and support going forward will be required.
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Thank you for your comment and encouragement. I continue to encourage her sexual desires and fantasies. I give her plenty of space and know if it is meant to be then its meant to be. It is all up to her. But I will do what I can to make her feel comfortable in any direction she wishes to take our sexual relationship.
 
mywayintermsofsex said:
You ordered a black dildo but they sent you a purple one? Doesn't that give you the right to send back and insist on a replacement with what you originally ordered (the black one!)?

Following some stupid online guide without assessing your situation is never a good idea. You say "she has become much freakier" but also that you've had your "dry spells". Do you have your wedding arranged already? Getting married is a big step and the phase before the wedding typically creates some stress and makes people think a lot about their relationships and if that's what they really want for a lifetime. That may have an impact on a person's libido.

Apart from that... You say, she is submissive (to you). There is a difference between being submissive in order to please a partner and being naturally sexually submissive. If she just wants to please you, she will play along with almost anything you do or suggest but that does not mean she also derives great pleasure from it. That type of submissiveness is a bad foundation for opening up a relationship sexually. Also a good Dom is a "leader" who will guide the sub toward what they really want and not exert power for fulfillment of the Dom's own desires.

You say, you've already talked about her watching you being with another Woman. Was that pillow/dirty talk pre/during/post sex or in a serious conversation outside the bedroom? Some people would say almost anything in the heat of the moment just to add some spice and increase the partner's and their own arousal. But that does not necessarily mean much. If she really was/is serious about watching you with another Woman that would be a chance for opening your relationship at all and might be a starting point to open it in yet other directions. ;) However it might also have been a test of your loyalty. Who knows.

In any case... take small steps instead of jumping right into it. That would give you the chance to reflect and check if anyone of you is actually okay with the direction of progression. For instance, you could suggest visiting a swinger's club to satisfy your Woman's voyeuristic desires. Suggest that on your first visit you won't indulge in action with anyone else, just see if the atmosphere will be appealing to you and let you be inspired by watching others "play". Talk about it afterward and see where it will take you.

After ten years in a relationship you should better know what each of your likes and dislikes are, and what gets both of you off sexually. Making your sexual play an issue short before marriage is asking for trouble.
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Thank you for taking the time to write your comment. I will continue to come back to your comment as motivation to follow through with doing what must be done to make my partner comfortable with all her sexual desires. Thanks again!
 
robbiewillsuck said:
To be a good BF or husband - you should be willing to do anything that makes her happy including becoming a bi sub sissy cd cuckold. I think all females need lots of cocks. Encourage her to fuck any cock she wants then offer to lick her pussy clean after her dates while she shares the details with you.
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My last live in needed lots of cock. That is what attracted me too her in the beginning. Girl was already to fuck. I wanted her to try another guy and she was leery. Thought I just wanted some different pussy. Then after she talked to my ex-wife that told her I liked it a lot and if you want cock he is the guy to be with because he gets off on being cucked. She told her go ahead and fuck whoever and whenever you want, he's weird about that. Well let me tell you she took my ex-wifes advice. And with her not working and me paying for everything she was having a good time with all the cock. When guys find out your wife is putting out, all of a sudden they are talking to you acting like you are their buddy. I know they are trying to figure when they can run into my wife and get a taste. And she loved the attention. Twitching her ass attracting and hard dick she wants. She was pretty open about it too , which I didn't expect. All it takes is for 1 guy at the bar to brag about fucking her and the gossip is on. Hell she loved the attention and sometimes I think the drama also. She had no problem going to the bar with me and leaving with someone else. It was a intense period of my life. But yes as a good partner I did what ever fit her schedule.
 
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