Our thoughts as we leave....

No offence meant to any of the happy members here, but having tried this site its time to leave.

Initially, this seemed like an exciting opportunity for a genuine and enthusiastic couple but unfortunately this site does seem to suffer from the same issues which always apply to these sites.

  1. For a large amount of members -This is basically a porn site. Looking at pics, videos, and taking part in lots of 'fantasy' discussion rather than actually meeting with people. (this is fine by the way, its just not why we joined)
  2. I can picture a large amount of white males sat wanking as they browse this site... and a large percentage of them enjoying the fantasy aspect... even though their wives are completely unaware.
  3. The distance - is there not a better way to make it easier for people to 'hook up'. So many messages from people on the other side of the world. so frustrating. Im not gonna travel 3,000 miles to meet with some stranger who has sent me a four word message on the internet!!
  4. The message service - wow.... how many messages do you receive which just contain three of four words.....?? "how r u" - "u r sexy" - "wanna chat" I mean, really?? is that all youve got? come on guys. Your message should be well thought, well spelt, and it should make you stand out from the crowd. Give us a few questions to answer, show a picture or two and generally make us WANT TO REPLY
  5. Fakers - oh boy, this site is suffering from that!! I wonder what the percentage of genuine members compared to dreamers/fakers/liars is? This site seems to have a major problem with this.
  6. Photos..... over the past few years a number of useful apps and sites have popped up where you can upload a photo you have found and it will tell you all of its info. Where it was taken, on what device, and where else it is also shown on the net etc etc etc...... So for any self respecting genuine couple (like us) we often use this to verify and check out the photos we see on here. You wouldnt believe the amount of photos which are taken from porn sites, or are stills from porn videos, etc etc... and yet people are pretending that these are THEIR PHOTOS. wow. This is mostly guys pretending that porn pics are their 'wife' etc... but it also extends to BBC photos which are sometimes not even the same cock as the other guys photos, and are a mixture of porn snaps which show up on multiple interracial websites...

I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND that this is a HUGE fantasy and turn on for many many submissive or curious white men.
But for us, this site does lean too far towards the fantasy porn genre rather than being an actual dating site.

NO disrespect, offence or hurt intended towards anybody here...

AND I MUST SAY - that the site itself is extremely good in terms of the media and chat functions and has all the tools and potential to be a really really special website....if there was only someway to remove all the fakers, dreamers and timewasters.

thank you to everyone who commented, liked our pics and vids - we DID PUT a lot of our very private and personal content on here just to emphasise how serious and genuine we are about committing to exciting interracial sex.

Ive even physically punched my desk in frustration when seeing the large amount of very very attractive black men who are simply not real, or who are just too far away from us.

our search continues.

love to all the genuine people here who feel our pain,

Ant and Jane
 
not sure where else to look. we have used swinger and dating sites..... and out of every 100 guys there are prob 1 0r 2 good genuine ones
 
I did not meet anyone ever on the sites, maybe you know better. But you have said yourself that it's the problem of any similar site. So, I do not understnand, what's the crying about?

I do not see any problems here (putting myself on ur place). It's more about ur attitude, no?
What is time wasters? It's actually easy to see who have serious intentions to meet and who not. Just less philosophy talk but more specifics - what, where, when; contacts, that's it. (btw, ur not verified, I would think that ur time waster and would not even bother to talk to u).

Wha'ts the problem with deleting ''how r u'' and other boring messages? They are everywhere, not just here.
If you see that human is an obvious fake, or without pic, or million miles away, why even bother to think about him? Just bye-bye.

It's about sorting members. Also if I am right the project is just being developed.

*English is not my native language.
 
Although I agree with OP point about fakes and being too far away etc, I do think that this is one of the best, easy to use sites on the net. And anyone looking for a site with no fakes is going to be disappointed, they are on every site, especially free ones.
I have been on my journey since 2013 and learned a hell of a lot from this site, some great advice and points raised on here.
So I use this site to share my experiences and read others. My meets are now mainly on Fabswingers because I can localise verified people, but that's a meeting site not a place for discussion.
I will continue to use this site as long as there are people interested in inter-racial swinging.
 
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