my wife of 20 yrs and given this information , she's ok with and gets turned on by IR porn that I pull up. She wears zebra striped and cheetah print thongs, has a bopped hair cut and wears medium sized hoop earrings( was told this is the look by someone that screams she's ok with hooking up with black men?..) she also occasionally listens to rap, loves basketball....am I stereotyping to much or am I completely off base here?... Did I push her towards thinking about black guys or was she pushing me?... She says she thinks it's a turn on but wouldn't consider it because it could damage our relationship. Any thoughts???