Need help with gf first bbc please?

[dubbels]

Hi!

This account used to be my gf, but now it is the bf writing. We were really close to her getting fucked by a bbc bull. But i chickened out .

I know she moaned in a much more intense way when i fucked her with a black large dildo. And she always watches interracial porn.

In september we have planned on going fun4two gigolo night. Im thinking of givning her two options in the hotel room before We drive there.

1.I will put a QOS tatto on her ass and tell her that she is allowed to do whatever she wants in there as long as its bbc she is fucking and No white dicks. She is in charge.

2. We go there and only focus on eachother. We only have sex as a couple that is.

I need help here. Do you think this is a good Idea. Also, if you have any tips on maybe extending option one to make it more tempting.

Im really interested in knowing if she still wants to get fucked bbc, or if she is saying No just to make me satisfied

 

[PiperRai]

My advice? Sit down with her, and like adults, talk about this. See if this is something you both want. A house divided, and all that. You both need to be on the same page before this goes down, or it *will* break you two. Not might, not may, it will. Any sort of poly situation has to be a mutual decision, or it just doesn't work.

I guess my question is, do you want this?

 

[dubbels]

I think i want it! And Im sure she wants it. Thats why i thought it would be a good Idea to Give her a chance go crazy and if i Dont like it, well then i would just never do it again.

 

[PiperRai]

The issue is, you can't un-fuck that situation. Once someone else, some dude with a massive black meatstick, digs her out, there's no do-overs. If he's bigger than you, if he's better than you, if he lasts longer, or makes her scream louder... That'll be in both of your heads from then on out.

I'm certainly not trying to talk you out of this. I love black men, trust me. I've made a living writing about my obsession with hardcore, no-holds-barred, interracial fucking. Hell, I practically live on this site. But consent, especially informed consent, is the golden rule in a relationship.

You have to be sure, dead sure, that this is what you want. Personally, I hope it is. I really do, because it can be so much fun.

 

[dubbels]

The issue is, you can't un-fuck that situation. Once someone else, some dude with a massive black meatstick, digs her out, there's no do-overs. If he's bigger than you, if he's better than you, if he lasts longer, or makes her scream louder... That'll be in both of your heads from then on out.

I'm certainly not trying to talk you out of this. I love black men, trust me. I've made a living writing about my obsession with hardcore, no-holds-barred, interracial fucking. Hell, I practically live on this site. But consent, especially informed consent, is the golden rule in a relationship.

You have to be sure, dead sure, that this is what you want. Personally, I hope it is. I really do, because it can be so much fun.

The issue is, you can't un-fuck that situation. Once someone else, some dude with a massive black meatstick, digs her out, there's no do-overs. If he's bigger than you, if he's better than you, if he lasts longer, or makes her scream louder... That'll be in both of your heads from then on out.

I'm certainly not trying to talk you out of this. I love black men, trust me. I've made a living writing about my obsession with hardcore, no-holds-barred, interracial fucking. Hell, I practically live on this site. But consent, especially informed consent, is the golden rule in a relationship.

You have to be sure, dead sure, that this is what you want. Personally, I hope it is. I really do, because it can be so much fun.

Would it be possible to make it a thing where she only gets to do this when We visit fun4two like once or twice a year. ??

 

[PiperRai]

Would it be possible to make it a thing where she only gets to do this when We visit fun4two like once or twice a year. ??

That's a question for her, man. But, speaking as a woman... I don't know. I don't like being told what I can't do. Now, if it's a mutual decision, that's one thing, but like I said before, you gotta have that talk.

Relationships are built on mutually agreed-upon rules. As adults, you have to trust and respect one another enough to open the discussion of those rules if you want to adjust them to fit your changing needs. Just remember that she has that right too. So she might come to you after her first Bull, and say that she wants to open the relationship to include more black men. You'll have to at least be able to have that discussion openly and with understanding.

 

[dubbels]

That's a question for her, man. But, speaking as a woman... I don't know. I don't like being told what I can't do. Now, if it's a mutual decision, that's one thing, but like I said before, you gotta have that talk.

Relationships are built on mutually agreed-upon rules. As adults, you have to trust and respect one another enough to open the discussion of those rules if you want to adjust them to fit your changing needs. Just remember that she has that right too. So she might come to you after her first Bull, and say that she wants to open the relationship to include more black men. You'll have to at least be able to have that discussion openly and with understanding.

Thank you for giving me insight.

How did it change your relationship. Did you lose respect for your husband or did it increase. That would be the only fear i have standing in my way.

Also you Said life became more fun. In What way ??

 

[PiperRai]

I've never been married to a man. But I lost a boyfriend in college due to me wanting to spread my wings a bit. He suggested an open relationship when I told him that I wasn't satisfied, but after a while he couldn't deal. The jealousy turned into self-pity, and he wanted to go back to monogamy. I tried, I did, but he couldn't get it out of his head. He always felt like he had to compete with the other people I'd been with.

We didn't work out. I'm better off, but I don't think he saw it that way. I learned a lot about myself during that period, and I'm happier because of it. But it really messed him up, and I never wanted that to happen.

That's probably a big part of why I stopped dealing with white men. I don't want to get into sociology here, but there's a lot of cultural stuff that has to be overcome for this sort of relationship to work out.

 

[dubbels]

I've never been married to a man. But I lost a boyfriend in college due to me wanting to spread my wings a bit. He suggested an open relationship when I told him that I wasn't satisfied, but after a while he couldn't deal. The jealousy turned into self-pity, and he wanted to go back to monogamy. I tried, I did, but he couldn't get it out of his head. He always felt like he had to compete with the other people I'd been with.

We didn't work out. I'm better off, but I don't think he saw it that way. I learned a lot about myself during that period, and I'm happier because of it. But it really messed him up, and I never wanted that to happen.

That's probably a big part of why I stopped dealing with white men. I don't want to get into sociology here, but there's a lot of cultural stuff that has to be overcome for this sort of relationship to work out.

Great answer, i appreciate you taking your time and explaining this. But from a womans perspective, how do you view a man that lets other men have sex with his wife. And also what fears do women have when deciding to have sex with other men ?

 

[PiperRai]

Great answer, i appreciate you taking your time and explaining this. But from a womans perspective, how do you view a man that lets other men have sex with his wife. And also what fears do women have when deciding to have sex with other men ?

Great questions.

I personally don't think there's anything inherently wrong with a guy who lets his wife go get something on the side, as long as they're both okay with it and everything is above board. I'm staunchly against cheating, however. I don't think cuckolds are pathetic or anything either, as long as they are into it and are getting what they want. I don't kink-shame.

As far as a woman's fears go, it can be scary when you're getting fucked better than you've ever been, and someone is putting your boyfriend or husband to shame. It's like, am I going to be able to quit this? Is my boyfriend going to be enough after this? Can I tell him about this? Is he going to leave me? Am I going to want to leave him?

When we went poly, my first outside fuck was another woman. She was so good, I immediately thought that I was a lesbian and just didn't know it until then. Then I fucked a few dudes, (three of which were black, but that's not really relevant) and I realized that while I was bisexual, my boyfriend just wasn't that great in the sack. I still cared about him, but I needed more. I needed to be fulfilled. My needs were, and still are, important. So when he wanted to go back to monogamy, I felt trapped.

 

[dubbels]

Great questions.

I personally don't think there's anything inherently wrong with a guy who lets his wife go get something on the side, as long as they're both okay with it and everything is above board. I'm staunchly against cheating, however. I don't think cuckolds are pathetic or anything either, as long as they are into it and are getting what they want. I don't kink-shame.

As far as a woman's fears go, it can be scary when you're getting fucked better than you've ever been, and someone is putting your boyfriend or husband to shame. It's like, am I going to be able to quit this? Is my boyfriend going to be enough after this? Can I tell him about this? Is he going to leave me? Am I going to want to leave him?

When we went poly, my first outside fuck was another woman. She was so good, I immediately thought that I was a lesbian and just didn't know it until then. Then I fucked a few dudes, (three of which were black, but that's not really relevant) and I realized that while I was bisexual, my boyfriend just wasn't that great in the sack. I still cared about him, but I needed more. I needed to be fulfilled. My needs were, and still are, important. So when he wanted to go back to monogamy, I felt trapped.

I understand! I positive my gf is Happy with our sex. And my Dick is actually a little bit larger than average. But still its not the same size as a real bbc.

I texted and gave her the options and she said yes right away. I actually feel more confident now when you have given suck good amswers. Also, i dont want to be a cuckold but instead be participating.

Do you have any advice on how she should approach the sex there. She really wants to get gangbanged. Is this something she should Maybe do or start with one bbc ??

 

[PiperRai]

I understand! I positive my gf is Happy with our sex. And my Dick is actually a little bit larger than average. But still its not the same size as a real bbc.

I texted and gave her the options and she said yes right away. I actually feel more confident now when you have given suck good amswers. Also, i dont want to be a cuckold but instead be participating.

Do you have any advice on how she should approach the sex there. She really wants to get gangbanged. Is this something she should Maybe do or start with one bbc ??

In my experience, a gangbang is something that you really need to work up to. The sensory overload can be a little hard to handle. Maybe find a a guy with a nice BBC and arrange a threesome for her. Then you can participate, and she only has to worry about two cocks at a time. If you both have a good time, then you can worry about drowning the woman in dick.

 

[dubbels]

In my experience, a gangbang is something that you really need to work up to. The sensory overload can be a little hard to handle. Maybe find a a guy with a nice BBC and arrange a threesome for her. Then you can participate, and she only has to worry about two cocks at a time. If you both have a good time, then you can worry about drowning the woman in dick.

Haha got it !! Thanks alot.

 

[PiperRai]

Haha got it !! Thanks alot.

That's what I'm here for. Keep in touch, okay?

 

[dubbels]

That's what I'm here for. Keep in touch, okay?

Yes of course. I will get back to you when We return from Holland

 

[Easygliderpro]

Great questions.

I personally don't think there's anything inherently wrong with a guy who lets his wife go get something on the side, as long as they're both okay with it and everything is above board. I'm staunchly against cheating, however. I don't think cuckolds are pathetic or anything either, as long as they are into it and are getting what they want. I don't kink-shame.

As far as a woman's fears go, it can be scary when you're getting fucked better than you've ever been, and someone is putting your boyfriend or husband to shame. It's like, am I going to be able to quit this? Is my boyfriend going to be enough after this? Can I tell him about this? Is he going to leave me? Am I going to want to leave him?

When we went poly, my first outside fuck was another woman. She was so good, I immediately thought that I was a lesbian and just didn't know it until then. Then I fucked a few dudes, (three of which were black, but that's not really relevant) and I realized that while I was bisexual, my boyfriend just wasn't that great in the sack. I still cared about him, but I needed more. I needed to be fulfilled. My needs were, and still are, important. So when he wanted to go back to monogamy, I felt trapped.

You sound somehow you really know this lifestyle very well, and you do give a couple good advice here, despite that I don't agree or believe in this lifestyle.
I don't understand why most women, when their relationship go sour, some of them they lose interest and shut down, and they no longer want to see or date white men again, but only black men. I know it's your personal preference, but you never know one day, you may be missing out.