Moving away from cuckold into "stag/vixen?"

[Dblinsey]

i was thinking the exact same thing. But perhaps the question was about fantasies that would pop up every now and then and not about readiness to do it for real?

Somehow reminds me of the survey carried out on an American college campus in which 87% of the female college students who took part claimed to have had sexual fantasies about Black men. It popped up in a thread in one of the forums here and people would comment the percentage was high, the women would prefer Black men or wanted to be sexually exclusive with Black men. No. That was not even the question of that survey. TBH i think 87% is a rather low percentage actually because it means that the other 13% have never in their lives even had such a fantasy. Heck, when i think of my own sexual fantasies i am pretty sure i have gone through each and every ethnic you can imagine. Those include Women i know in real life, Women on TV screens, porn stars, fantasy creatioins, a.s.o. But back to the topic...

i think it can be empowering for Women who want to be shared to open up to their husbands/BFs about the subject when they know that a majority of men have a fantasy of sharing their Women even it might not be their top or most frequent one or they do not initially want to make it a reality. It means that the number of men in general fear of a wifesharing lifestyle might be (far) lower than most people would expect.

You're right, fantasy is one thing, reality is something else completely.

Look at the Romance Novel industry that so many women love. The 'rogue' (Pirate, Land Baron, Plantation Owner, etc) enters the heroens life and she at first fantasizes about him, but knows she'd never take him as a lover... Then, by the end of the story, they are rolling around in bed together!

Look at '50 shades of Gray' - People bemoan the story, but more women loved the books then men did - and was referred to as "Mommy Porn" by the media.

While these two examples revolve around white/white encounters, it doesn't take much to extend that to Blacks in the fantasy realm. In general, they are everything a woman wants in a man - confident, athletic, and taboo! Some buff Black guy who is on the college football team walks by and yes, the girls turn their heads, and they aren't thinking about the impending math exam!

One thing to keep in mind about polls - especially sexually orientated ones - people aren't always truthful. Ask a question: "Have you ever had sex with a Black man?" and see what the answers are.
1) Yes.
2) Yes, but I'm not going to admit it on this survey because it was only once.
3) No, but she honestly forgot about that trip to Cancun ten years ago while in college.
4) No, he wasn't a 'Black guy' he was from the Bahamas

This explains why surves will always have (+/- 5%) They know that people aren't always truthful when answering the survey. Also, keep in mind the survey itself may be flawed.
Who was sampled? Only white women between the ages of 18 and 24 who were students in Northeastern Universities? I can assure you that if the same survey was taken elsewhere, Southern Universities or those in the Central US, the results would be different.

How was the survey taken? A mail in questionnaire from Cosmo magazine? That's is already totally bogus as only the people who chose to respond and who may or may not be the intended sample size (intended for women, but men responded posing as women). Or was it a scientific survey, undertaken by a credible survey company using proven techniques?

So, remember, fantasy is one thing, reality is frequently vastly different. But I do agree. I don't know a single female soul who hasn't at least fantasized about sex with a Black guy.

 

[Lbincanada]

I have always been bemused by the notion that ‘cuckhold’ means something that degrades the husband or he is less of a man.

I think most woman would agree that we love our husbands and our husbands love us and make us feel safe and secure. They are the reason women like us can enjoy this lifestyle.

Without them and their love, it would be harder to have the sex we enjoy with other men. It is a lot more enjoyable to let go and fuck BBC’s knowing our husbands support us and even want us to enjoy the sex we have with BBC’s.

It’s comforting to have someone that will be there for you no matter what happens in your life and even help you process your feelings when things don’t work out.

It takes a strong man to have the confidence in himself, his wife and their relationship, to let her go and give her the freedom to enjoy a BBC. What most women want is that strong husband, combined with a black man who doesn’t need to belittle the husband to feel big and give him some sort of macho strength. We need a black lover who doesn’t need to build his self esteem based on degrading others, and can combine being dominant as part of sex play, with respect for the couple, is a real man.

Let’s be honest, we want sex with BBC’s because we are seeking something different to what we get from our husbands. Whatever that is, it fulfils something we desire, and in many cases it enhances the relationship we have with our husbands.

at the end of the day, whatever turns you both on and gives you enjoyment, should be respected. We are not all the same and each have our own fantasies, desires and needs. If a man and woman can openly explore and enjoy them, then it is nobody else’s business.

 

[newbecpl22]

I guess I straddle the fence. There are things I like about cuckolding and stag/vixen. I don’t fit into any one box and we’ll just make our own dynamic of a sort and I guess explain what we like and don’t like to our partner. I like a little teasing from her, but probably would not take it well from him. I got no problem with cleaning up her, but not him! I would be the uglies man you ever saw in some panties. I’ve already got a little aggravate by someone messaging with my wife about me cleaning him off for round 2. She told him “he’s not gay or bisexual” oh, well you said he was your cuck?! Yeah but that’s not a part of our dynamic.
I guess I can see how one would rather call themselves stag/vixen to avoid any preconceived notions about what they like maybe. We are new to all this and trying to find our way. Maybe we are going to have to put an “*” behind “cuckold couple” or something. At the end of the day, I think when it happens we are just looking for some good sex for her.