This site rarely goes a week without single men and/or couples complaining about fakes, flakes, or people that are not serious about actually meeting. Considering that, paysites simply offer another layer of vetting. People that are willing to pay for a membership are less likely to be fakes, flakes, or not serious about meeting. We specifically like the certification/reviews section on those sites. Not everyone on those sites has been a home run but all but one individual showed up when they said they would, and were as advertised in their pics/biography. If you are having success without paysites, by all means, continue and good luck. Like most here, our time is valuable and we found SLS/SDC useful to limiting our time being wasted.