So where did I say that a black man can't win a heart as well? I never did. If the arangement between a couple and a bull is agreed upon and the agreement is acted out, what is the problem? The whole idea is for everyone involved to have fun. We've played with a white guy before and it would be fun to have a nice friend with a bbc to add to the mix. It isn't that I can't satisfy her, it's that it's my idea of a fun way to broaden our sexual horizons. Of course he can be a friend of ours and not just a dildo (we actually almost did this with a friend of mine but he met a lady). I feel like you're making an assumption about how I operate based off of this one topic and it really isn't fair to me. I have been called racist before and have been defended by people who know me better. I'm also not scared of it and I'm not going to agree with anyone's bullshit just so they don't call me a racist. I'm a get along with people kind of guy as long as people don't cross specific lines. I made this post stating that I wouldn't mind if my wife let some black men hit it for their fun and hers as it would turn me on. I complimented black men for their usual sexual abilities and sometimes extra length and girth. If you're looking for love, my wife isn't for you. If you want to play and maybe hang out here and there then cool. Now I am so confused at where the racist content is. Your don't have to be rude or disrespectful, but at least explain where your mind is at with this. If you simply disagree with my choice of words, I don't know what to tell you. I backed my meaning and if it still upsets you, don't be so soft. I wasn't trying to argue or debate, just see where other white husbands where at regarding the topic. Last note, I always tell people this one thing. Racism to me is mistreating someone or treating them less than equal to other racial counterparts. Whatever modern day psychological studies you have followed, I don't buy into that stuff. There are way to many rules where everyone has to walk in eggshells in order to get by. I believe that people should be treated as people period.