Good comment, or why is there a term or name what about swinging couples who perhaps have 3 Somes or a woman who may get involved in a train or gang bang so many options for couples to be involved in why do they have to be labeled ay all when not call them swingers or fun loving couples in what ever the relationship they have?
First, thank you for your comments regarding my previous input and you're right in that there are countless variations of sexual involvement.
But to answer your question about 'why labels' it's simple, a label is simply a form of identification. After all, a 'name' is a label (i.e. apple - both can be considered a label).
So, in the quest for labeling everything, we find that there may be too MANY variations. An example is the non hetrosexual community. First you had Lesbian, then Gay, then Bi, and it went on and on. Finally the compromise was settled by agreed upon - LGBQT. But even that is suspect... Consider, not that long ago, 'Gay' men were called 'Queer' but now it's shifted to some other defination.
So now we're back to the question... Why label? To identify as a section of a sub-set. To inform others, as effectively as possible, what they enjoy.
We identify (label ourselves) as a Stag/Vixen couple. Let me explain what that means from our viewpoint. Husband and I decided that if I was interested, I could have a Black lover. Well, I was, so off we went. He is never humiliated. He is far from a wimp. We're totally in this together. I have the sex with a black guy, he watches and we're both quite happy with our roles.
The other side of the coin is Cuckold. That's a guy (we believe) whose wife is having an affair, regardless of his desires, and he accepts her actions without input or protest.
Do you see the difference, but how similar they are too:
Wife is having an affair
Husband isn't actively involved but approves.
Wife is having an affair
Regardless of husbands feelings about it, yet he accepts her actions.
Different label for ALMOST the same thing.
Well, this is much too long as it is.
Let me know your thoughts!